My GF has 2 dogs.. and about 3 weeks ago I moved in with her. Well, her dogs like to sleep in the bedroom with us and she has two cushions for them to sleep on, on the floor(at the foot of the bed). But.. When we are "doing stuff" in the bedroom, she thinks it's ok to let them stay in the room. "They feel like they are being punished if I lock them out of the room." And says it like it's abusive or something. But my thing is.. Isn't it wrong to be having sex in front of them ? And no kidding, sometimes they out and out stare because of the noises & the bed moving. Which makes sense to me cause they're curious. For me this is uncomfortable. For her, she just ignores them. What do you think ?
2007-03-09 00:47:25 · 20 answers · asked by dralls4lyf 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Silly, dogs know what your doing but dogs don't have the taboos that humans do. Dogs don't have socialized sex hang ups. To dogs sex is a normal function of living beings. If the dogs make you uncomfortable lock them out, if that makes your girlfriend more uncomfortable than it upsets your sex life and let them in. But please try not to "play" with the word "abuse." Everyone seems to think all these poor animals are being abused. Baloney, 99.9% of the so called abused animals wouldn't run away. Even those that are in kennels would walk right back into their kennels to eat and sleep. Dogs love dens and many live in cages with doors open in kitchens. All this "abuse" crap is way over played. They are dogs NOT people. Are we going to start hearing about how abusive we are to the chickens and the cows or are we all just going to stop eating meat? How about leather? I like to wear leather, bad enough no one wear fur anymore but I am not giving up my leather.
2007-03-09 01:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your gf should really understand your feelings. My husband and I went through this years ago. When we first moved in together I brought my dog. Baby was use to being the only "man" in my life so it was hard to teach him that hubby wasn't hurting me. Eventually we started shutting the door. After a few times the dog would just go lay down in the living room until we were done. Now even I find it uncomfortable to have something staring at me during. Okay, back on point. If you guys are living together that means a commitment of some type. It doesn't matter if it doesn't bother her, it bothers you and she should be sensitive enough to your feelings to understand this. Tell her it's the first of many compromises.
2007-03-09 13:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by Jayda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABUSE? If she had children, would she let them stay in the bedroom while you guys are having sex because she thought it was abusive to lock them out? The only one being abused here is YOU by having to get it on with a bunch of dogs staring at you. That's just weird, man. Tell her is she can't be considerate enough to put the dogs out and make it a private one-on-one time, you can't perform under the conditions.
2007-03-09 09:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you don't want dogs in the room during sex, and you lock them out, they'll get over it. If everything you do revolves around how the dogs feel about it then who is really in charge in your house?
Also, and I have NO scientific proof of this whatsoever, but I totally think they know what is going on. I have two dogs and one likes to sleep on his bed in our room, but if we start having sex he gets up and leaves every time. The other is very jealous of any affection between us (he stops if you show him affection) and when we start having sex he comes running from wherever he is and lays on the floor by the bed whimpering. Talk about weird! So we started closing the door too. Actually, they both seem more at ease being sheltered from the experience. HA!
Both have reacted when they thought I was in some sort of danger and their reactions to that were completely different, so I don't think they think either of us is in danger.
Just my goofy theories.
2007-03-09 11:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by tagosb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get used to an audience, or get used to compromising with her. You might be able to set up a "schedule" where the dogs are out of the room every other time. Hopefully she will understand that this isn't abusive to the dogs in any way.
Many people have a problem with the animals in the room. Sometimes, not to be sick here, the excitement can even bleed over into them... and that's NOT what you want to have happen!
Eventually the dogs will get used to the commotion and will cease to be curious, but since the dogs aren't joining (by licking your toes or whining) then try to ignore them as best you can until they lose interest.
2007-03-09 08:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Rob_n_Liz 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to feel the same way. We had four dogs that had to be wherever we were, including the bedroom. I sort-of got used to it, but sometimes it was downright annoying. The two smaller ones would often jump up on the bed and start wrestIing while we were in the act.... so maybe they thought that's what we were doing! :o) So I started keeping some extra special chewies around whenever the time arose, and it kept them preoccupied for the time being. Seemed to work! (I guess you could view it as abuse if you view your dogs as children, like we did)
2007-03-09 10:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they just layed there and did no staring it would be understandable not to put them out of the room, but since they are so in your business I would tell her to put them out of the room or she can't get any because you don't feel like you can perform your duties to the best of your ability with 2 dogs staring at you judging your every move. It is not abuse to lock them out of the room if they freak put out some treats to keep them occupied for a while, Busy Bones work great or Kong toys filled with peanut butter or cream cheese they will be busy for hours so you can be to. Good Luck
2007-03-09 08:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A simple kiss in the kitchen will catch a dogs attention faster than action in the bedroom. So it is not being abusive either way. There are probably about an equal number of people in this old world that do it either way.
2007-03-09 09:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by tom l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable with the dogs being in the room while having sex than lock them out. I don't think it is abuse. You aren't hitting the dog. Besides it isn't like you would be leaving them locked out of the room all night.
A few minutes or few hours will not hurt them. Eventually they will get used to it.
2007-03-09 08:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by Jojobean 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's abuse. If it makes you uncomfortable, insist they be put out until you are finished. Tell your girlfriend you'll be better, um "able to perform" if you feel like you have privacy. After all, most people treat their pets as their children and think of them that way. The dogs won't feel punished, give them a chew toy to occupy their time.
2007-03-09 09:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by bernel1403 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋