I split wit the love of my life 5 months ago,we were really in love. She dumped me cus she thought i didnt trust her cus of a message she got,it was sent by my sis but i took the blame cus of family probs in r house. I near died wit a wee prob and my mum had a cancer scare. She was upset i didnt tell the truth. She went in2 depression wen we split. I wanted 2 tell her but she wudnt speak 2 me, she emailed me recently,shes wit a new guy,she told me she likes him but not in love yet,she still loves me and always will. She said she cant go bak 2 me cus she wont trust me after this but wants me as a friend. Wat do i do cus i really love her,id rather b died than live witout her, i know i can win her trust round,quite quickly,please help me guys. Ive 2 emil her bak any tips???? Ive found out her new fella is only 16 and shes a 20 year old uni student,r friends r disgusted in her and find it sick but i still love her.
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I sent her alot of letters and emails. I have wrote another letter but i am afraid to send it in case it makes me look obsessed. advice please. should i send it???
2007-03-09 00:21:08 · 18 answers · asked by Paddy I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her how you feel about her maybe she feels the same way. But if trust is the issue you are going to have to work this out with her. if she is in a relationship you need to get over her and move on.
2007-03-09 00:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get back your ex is https://tr.im/sJqAp
Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 17:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by kenneth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eOK i don't know what to tell you about sending that last letter because you did not tell us what it said. These sounds something like me and my boyfriend now. we were together for one year and were have problems with his family not liking the age difference but we would still talk over e-mail and i told him how much i cared about him and wanted him back. so then i had a party and invited him. He came and with a primes ring. so i say you need tell you that you would like to meet somewhere but first make sure she know that you still love him. Tell here all you what is for here to be happy tell here to think of all the good memories you had together. then if you have to start as being friends hanging out just the two of you and see were if goes if she still loves you she will come back and the fist time you meet alone tell here what really happened or at lest that it was not you on the phone (message) just always tell the truth (also tell here how sorry you are.)
2007-03-09 00:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this young lady is really the love of your life, let's assume this current fling with a 16 year old will quickly burn itself out. Quite likely he will come to bore her. What can a 16 year old really offer a young woman? I'd stop the emails and letters. Maybe send her some flowers, wish her well, include a message like, "thanks for the memories" but go on with your life. What's meant to be, will be.
2007-03-09 00:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't send it. At 20, she's sounds really immature.
You don't tell a guy you love him, can't trust him after what happened and want him around as a friend? She either real confused or she's dragging you along & playing games.
Now, at age 20, she should realise that if she does love someone, you learn to communicate, eventually learn to trust again (if you're both really in love, that will happen - for loving someone means learning to forgive and giving another chance). Don't go back to being her friend & tell her you don't think being friends is a good idea. Tell her she has to decide to either give it a go as a couple or you won't hang around. Make sure you do this in person - not in writing. Go live your life & don't do what you don't want to which is to stay just friends with her. You'll only torture yourself more. Don't hang on to her like that for she will enjoy the benefits of having you around on the sides watching her date other guys & getting her way. If she really loves you, she'll give it another go & not torture you like that if you ask for another chance. Tell her that It was only 1 mistake. And if she's that unforgiving and unwilling to try again, let it go and move on for good. You can't hold onto someone who doesn't want you. That's not love by the way - when someone says to you they love you but doesn't want you. Being friends doesn't count as wanting you in the context of love as a couple. Unless she means she loves you as a friend which I gather is not what is implied in your question.
2007-03-09 00:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is the love of your life then im pretty sure your the love of her life! Have you really thought why she went into depression when you split (the answer is in that sentence)I would talk to her and tell her exactly how you feel as the longer you put it off the more she will feel that you dont give a dam about her
2007-03-09 01:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-23 03:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time if the guy is 16 or so and the girls is in her 20s mostly it wont last because he is just starting out with life and theres gonna be girls always around him and he isnt going to want to be tied down to no one cuz he wants the liberty to do as he pleases...maybe she will realize that u are her mr.right but people often have to see what is out there before they actually buckle down...trust me i know. plus u cant lie to ur heart so if she loves u like she says she does then she'll eventually get over it and come back. just give her sometime and i think u should write to her how u feel and everything bcuz its better telling them what they need to know instead of going to sleep saying to ur self " damn i shoulda told her this and dat, etc" you know . so just tell her and rest falls in her hands. and if it doesnt work out then u just have to move on and find new things to do to keep ur mind off of her..
2007-03-09 00:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by boricuaspot21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to quote an old song PRIDE is the chief cause of the decline in the number of husbands and wives
meet her from collage with a bunch of daffs and a sorry message attatched ask her to give you a few minuets of her time and tell her what you just told the answer comunity as far as the young fella is concerned she prob feels more in control of relationship but its my guess that shes just passing time give her a week to digest what you say to her and after that please move on with your life best of luck
2007-03-09 00:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send the letter. Chicks really love signs of committment. Secretly they all want to be stalked so the more you send the better. Send flowers too.
2007-03-09 00:25:48 · answer #10 · answered by amazed_lab_rat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋