She is 8 1/2, a 30 chest and would easily fit an AA cup.
I don't want to make her different from her peer group but obviously need to watch out for her welfare also.
2007-03-09 00:16:44 · 56 answers · asked by janetedwards1962 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
my 9 year old has started budding, a year earlier than her 12 yr old sis.
so i've bought trainer bras and 'sporty' crop vest/bras as too young for normal bras yet. they stop her sticking out of her school tops etc, and she thinks shes very grown up bless her, but none of the fiddly catches etc on normal bras. each child differs, so cant go on age, if in doubt pop into a place like marks n spencers or similar where they measure you for correct fit.
good luck! oh, and stock up your bathroom cupboard with sanitary towels, could start soon or not for another few years, but if shes used to them being around wont be so much of a mystery for her!
2007-03-09 00:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A decision such as this one should be made between the child and yourself. Depending on her mentality and ability to handle the subject she may be able to express how she feels about wearing a bra. Remember that while some 8-9 yr old girls can handle a bra , others would be embarrassed by the thought. If the latter is the case try buying fitted undershirts instead. They come in Disney Princesses, Bratz, etc. and she won't feel so self-concious, its still innocent. You can find them at all Walmarts, K-marts, etc. and they cost next to nothing. I am not sure if you are the mom or dad but remember it is always easier to do the bra shopping with a woman at that age or go alone and surprise her like its just a new outfit. Good luck
2007-03-09 00:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by StarBourne 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get her a bra now and talk with her about it but let her decide. That's what my mom did with me when I was in 5th grade. I wore it a couple times and I was an earlier "bloomer" than most my friends (an a, at that point), but I felt more set apart by it than without it.
About a year later my "blooming" became more noticable and the boys started to make silly boy remarks. I decided to wear bras then. The bra, of course, does little to stop boys from being boys, but it did help me feel a little more confident in myself.
I think it was best because the decision was mine, I was allowed this experience and, I think most importantly, my mom trusted me with making the choice for myself. It's one of those ever so rare opportunities to give her the freedom she's starting to fight for and the chance to know how nice it can feel to be responsible and do what needs to be done without being told to by her parents.
Right now she's probably still small enough that it doesn't really make that much of a difference if she wears one or not. A properly fitting bra isn't going to hid her breasts and at a AA they're not going to be bouncing all over the place and attracting unwanted attention (sorry to be so blunt but...).
I'm not a big believer in the concept of training bras. We don't need to be trained on this issue and I think it can make it feel a little too much like we do. It's not like wearing them is some sort of sport or work. It's more important that she learn the social implications that being a woman comes with, for better or worse.
Either way she's becoming a woman and that's a pretty cool thing to be ;-)
As long as you can trust that you've given her the skills to make that choice than you can trust her to use them.
2007-03-09 00:34:55 · answer #3 · answered by ophelliaz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree that there's no actual age. Obviously your daughter is pretty young, but if her breasts are starting to develop, they obviously need to be supported.
I developed at quite a young age, and my mother bought me crop tops from M&S and BHS's kids range that had a sort of built in cup. These were far more comfortable than an actual bra and only slightly different to the cropped vest tops my peers were wearing,
Although it sounds like your daughter could wear an adult size, it's best to buy the teenage/child range as they are cute designs and not overtly sexual.
Take your daughter to Marks & Spencers where she can be measured for free. They will then recommend the best option and you can be sure it fits properly and will be comfortable.
2007-03-09 00:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by Keira H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she certainly doesn't need a bra if she's an AA cup & she's too young at 8 1/2 to even think about needing one. Usually it's around 10 or 12 years old depending on how they are developing. You will be able to tell just by how she looks in t-shirts etc. You can buy her the tank tops with the "shelf bras" if she's feeling self-conscious....
2007-03-09 00:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
OMG! I had such a scary thing with the first time I had to wear a bra....It's good to start when she starts showing. I remember my mom telling me when I was 13 that if I didn't wear a bra I was gonna get BIG saggy boobs like my aunt. I didn't take that bra off until I was 18, or had a shower. Today I'm a nice 36dd and mind u I have 1 son and one in the oven (8 weeks).
2007-03-09 01:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by α∂νєηтυяє ιѕ нєяє 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's becoming more and more common for girls as young as 8 or 9 to start "developing." They are starting puberty earlier and earlier. Has your daughter mentioned it to you at all? Have you talked to her? There is a good book, it's an American Girls book called THE CARE AND KEEPING OF YOU. You can get it for her, it's geared to her age group and has excellent reviews. Giving her this book will let her read things in 8 year old girl language, and also give you the opportunity to approach the subject with her. Knowing that she's normal and that all girls go through this will help her not to feel uncomfortable or self-conscious. Good Luck, my daughter is 7 1/2, I almost cried when I read that many girls are starting puberty so early now!
2007-03-09 00:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by nimo22 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's not a case of how old she is it's when she needs a bra. I went to school with a girl a few years older than me. By the time she was eight she was very well developed and had been wearing a bra for years (and had also started her periods). Isn't this the perfect opportunity to have a mother and daughter chat about things to see how she feels about it? She might be thrilled and cannot wait or she might be horrified and want to wait. Good luck - this is a tricky one - I guess you could always have a chat with your Dr.
2007-03-09 00:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My nieces are both 11 years old now. One of them is larger (taller, larger build, a little chubby) and she wore a training bra at at 9. The other one is much smaller and still doesn't wear anything because she doesn't need it.
If your daughter is starting to develop, you may want to consider a training bra by the time she's 9 years old. I'm sure there are other girls in her age group that are in the same situation.
2007-03-09 00:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by carinyosa99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children mature and go through puberty at different ages. If your daughter is able to fit into an AA bra then you should get her one and see how she feels in it. Not byeing her a bra because her peers arn't in them yet mite lead to back pain for your daughter. Do what you think is best and what your daughter feels comftable with and not what everyone else is doing or wearing at your daughters age.
2007-03-09 00:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋