If you feel that you are not the marrying kind, do you date just to date and go out? Do you have serious relationships then end them? If so, how long do the relationships last? Do you date at all? How do other people respond when you tell them you have decided to never get married? Do you doubt your decision? If so, how do you handle that?
2007-03-08 23:58:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you all for the responses so far. However, I am comfortable with my choice; friends and family find it odd. So I would like to hear how this choice affects others who consider themselves to be "not the marrying kind". Thanks again.
2007-03-09 10:28:35 · update #1
It's okay to make this choice as long as you tell your dating partener this is your intention from the begining.
2007-03-16 20:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always thought I was the type of person to get married, and after a 5 year relationship ended, I decided I would more than likely never get married - we were close, and then what, after 5 years at the age of 22, I would have been getting a divorce. Sure, some people think that this is an odd decision, but it's a choice we all make. You can still love each other, but each other rings, and whatever if you're up for a serious relationship, but I think it has something to do with them damn papers - they get signed and all of a sudden your husband/wife is more a piece of property instead of your best friend. Go with your heart - if you don't want to get married, for whatever your reason, don't. But like others have said, do be upfront about it. Good luck!
2007-03-17 00:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by mplskid81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you could never get married, I think you need to up front about that with whoever you are with. Perhaps after a couple of weeks of dating, ask your date why they are dating and tell them your reasons. If you don't know why you want to date, you need to search yourself and find out. People do date just for fun but I think most people (especially women) are going to want more after a while.
Personally, I think long-term relationships that aren't going to end in marriage are a waste of time. My thought is, "Why invest my time and love in someone who I know will not be the person I end up with". If you are in a serious relationship right now, you need to talk to your "significant other" about how you feel about marriage. They may feel the same way or might think it's worth breaking up over. You know them better to know how they would react.
Personally, I think if you are in a close relationship with someone, you need to be honest with them about your feelings about the relationship. It's not right to string someone along for a long time and drop a bomb on them. Schedule some time to talk with them. Think about what you will say. Make sure they know it's not their fault.
2007-03-09 00:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ann Ducketts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just date but inform your daters your not looking for a serious relationship. If you get it out in the open then there are no hurtful feelings in the end.
If you are not the marrying kind just make sure you are up front and honest with the people you date so they don't get ahead of themselves.
2007-03-09 00:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its like this today in 2007 society is on a verge of not many relationships last for many reasons, as a matter of fact 21 percent out of a 10000 make it for life,, and if thats odd, its because times are tought and not many guys have a single clue what real deep down love means,,, even if they say it every 3 minutes,,,
also look at jerry springer shows of cheating and abuse,,
so marrage is just legal paperwork.... vs living together and the love is still as strong or weak.. good luck kiddo
2007-03-16 17:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always believe in the solemnity of marriage. its no healthy to just jump from a relationship to the other. of course it is a feeling of contentment. how nice it is that at the end of the day you have a loving wife and wonderful kids to turn to at home. we're not getting any younger. having a family intact is great!GOD bless!
2007-03-16 20:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by ilyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea im not the marryinkg kind either, i mean i go out with girls but dont exchange or give feelings for her because u dont want to break up then leave the girl with emotions...just live for the fun! and also if you think she wants to date you tell her straight up "no dating" before she starts daydreaming with u all day
-good luck
2007-03-09 00:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow you heart. stay with the person till you dont like them anymore and if you love them sooo much then marry then LATER on in life.
2007-03-09 00:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by Carly-Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋