i have found out that i have chlymadia and ghonera and i feel like my life is over becuase it has gone none treated for years and has made serious damage to my reproductive organs causing me to be infertile. i am 19 and been with my boyfriend for over 3 years and he has been by only sex parnter so i know he is infected too. i do not want to tell him becuase if i can not have children with him then i dont want him too either. i had symptoms and he has none so he will probaly be infertile too if he leaves it. i just cant tell him incase his is curable and then he will leave me and have children with some one else. am i wrong and bad?
2007-02-28 09:30:01 · 16 answers · asked by uni girl 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
How can you not know you have chlamydia and ghonaria (however you spell those terms)?? If you're telling the truth, then you definately need to tell your boyfriend!!!! Don't let him suffer the same way you have for the past couple of years. It's not fair to him in the present and for the future.
2007-02-28 09:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by Freddie xoxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly have these disease process, your local county health nurse or someone from the state will be contacting your man and you. Gonorrhea is a reportable to the state infectious disease nurse who in turn will provide this information to the Centers for Disease Control. The only absolute way to know that your reproductive organs have been effected would be to have a laproscope done to visually look at them and have a physician determine this. Your man is going to find out, it can either be sooner or later he might as well find out from you than a stranger. If he is your only sex partner than you have nothing to worry about, you know you didn't cheat, if you didn't cheat than who did? Only you can answer that question. Either way someone has some explaining to do. Children are the least of your worries now, why would you want to be with someone who gave you an STD? You deserve to be treated better!
2007-02-28 18:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still a child yourself, at 19 you have a whole world ahead of you. You started having sex around 16 years old I assume, what a shame (I am not judging you at all, I just feel very sorry for you and your family). Did you find your disease out from a doctor? If so, I'm sure he or she will advise you that this is something you need to share with your partner, he NEEDS to know and I agree with the others, you can't be his only one. Learn all that you can about this issue, treat it and advise those you know that they need to use protection. Too many times people think "it'll never happen to me". Good luck to you.
2007-02-28 18:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf has been your only sex partner, obviously he has infected you and he has been fooling around with girls who were infected.
You have to tell him right away and tell him that he has infected you. That he was infected by one or more other girls.
He does not sound like too great of a guy if you ask me. You are young. Ditch him and you will find someone better. Concentrate on doing well in your classes and finishing college and worry about getting married and having children after you finish college.
2007-03-01 12:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to worry dear.... you have so many options.... but to start you need to talk to a trusted parent/friend/counsellor/sibling and discuss your feelings and make a game plan...... your life is not over. There are so many wonderful children that need love and homes and I am sure you will be a wonderful parent. Take things one step at a time... don't overwhelm yourself now. Get support from your family and friends and take care of yourself.
I know things will get better for you
Good Luck
2007-02-28 17:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by Somanyquestions,solittletime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him!! That is the consequence of having unprotected sex. I too had chlamydia but i told the guy and we both got treated. I don't have kids (Haven't even tried) but if i cant well i made my own bed. Be responsible this is a STD! He could give it to other girls and if you plan on staying with him he'll give it back to you!
2007-02-28 17:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him, this is a serious situation and you can't go acting selfish about it, this is his life you are putting on the line his future, you know what your future is and you need t9o think about what is best for him. if he really cares about you, he will not leave and there are plenty of other ways to have a child, if you dont say anythign and he finds out, then he will leave you!
2007-02-28 17:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him right away! You can always adopt. Think of the children who are already born, but who need loving parents. Make a difference in the world!
2007-02-28 17:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, you need to tell him right away!! In fact, you shouldn't of had sex with him without telling him first. That is how STD's get spread because of people like you who are "too scared" to tell their partner, meanwhile you're passing your cooties around to everyone. Tell him about it and get both of your a$$es to the doc for some treatment, STAT!!!
2007-02-28 17:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should tell him. Bc it can give you and him alot of problems in the end. And infertilitly may not be the only health problem. He could have more than just that and it could lead to serious health problems, and trust me, kids will be the least of your worries.
2007-02-28 17:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋