I got mad that this girl I had a date with let me feel her up and gave me a handjob but didn't tell me she had herpes. We didn't kiss or exchange any fluids (thank God) which makes sense now that she told me. My question to you is, do I have a right to be mad if she didn't put my health at risk at all? We're not going out or anything, just had one date. She told me yesterday. I know I almost certainly couldn't have contracted it from her. What do you think.
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2007-02-25 15:37:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
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2007-02-26 08:54:27 · update #1
She gave you a hand job, and you never even kissed her? And you wonder if you should be mad? Man, I must be getting old.
It sounds to me like she has had other people react negatively towards her once she told them. She was probably afraid to tell you for fear you would react poorly.
She did nothing that put you at risk. If anything, she is putting her emotional health at risk. It sounds to me like this poor girl needs some support.
Keep in mind that 25% of the population has genital herpes, and 80% had oral. Most of them do not even know it. All sex is risky, and the fact that she is aware of her status does not make her any different than those who have it and don't know. If anything, she will be more careful than they will be. She has already proven herself to be honest.
2007-02-27 12:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by mutherluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be very upset,too.
Thanks God there was no more sex involved than what happened.
It's difficult when you're young and full of Sexual Um..energy,but I would consider getting to know the women I dated a little better before going beyond kisses. Kisses, sometimes, are too much, too, because they can transmit things, as well.
Let your health come first!
Good luck.
2007-02-26 02:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Croa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she didn't contact you in a way that would spread the virus to you (i.e. oral sex, penetration, kissing, etc) then I would say that she did behave responsibly.
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2007-02-27 13:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Hunter J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could be mad at her for not telling you and for not considering your health but you can't be too mad because sex is risky no matter what form you recieve(oral, vaginal,anal)
2007-02-26 04:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by curious 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You only have one body so if she didn't tell you this from intro then she didn't give you a decision. You have every right to be mad.
2007-02-26 02:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by Gabriel Anton 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋