how do u tell someone u have an STD when u don't even know?

Question

okay i dated a guy for like 6 months n he called me the other day and told me that one of his exes had tested postive for an STD and i fliped out n he wount tell me any thing else so i have to go get checked soon and the guy im with now new i had sex with my ex but i dont think he would expect any thing this dramatizing.. me and him have been together for about three months now and we've had sex im on birthcontrol and i had no idea about my ex. so i dont belive it's my fault it could have happend to any one. but i dont belive my current boyfriend will like the idea of him geting checked. i really dont know what to do or how to tell him & i do belive he may be trusting he told me to never lie and i just dont think its right to hide it but i dont want him to freek out because im not nasty. my ex was and i didnt know that at the time. please dont jude me i just want an answer =)

Answer 1

Tell him exactly what you told us. if your new boyfreind is understanding he will be shocked at first, I am sure but supportive of both of you getting it looked into. Good luck.,

Answer 2

I know it takes about 3 months for aids to show up in a blood test (I'm assuming it would be similar for other contracted diseases)... so it's the perfect time for you to go and get checked out... it should only take a couple of days for the results to come back. In the mean time, meditate on it for a bit, you know your boyfriend better than anyone else here. Think whether it's wise to tell him now (and what's the wisest way of saying it), or to wait for a couple more days for the results (you may not have it after all! so why make it a problem between you two now?).

Answer 3

Your ex was as "nasty" as you... he did the same thing as you, and had sex without a condom. STDs are incredibly easy to get. You're lucky that your ex had the balls to call you and give you a heads up.

Yes, you need to tell your current boyfriend... tell him exactly what happened. He chose to have sex with you without a condom.

There are some STDs that do not fall under the "I've been tested" category.

Answer 4

Wait i don't understand the question are you asking how to tell your Boyfriend you have STD OR you asking how to ask your boyfriend that you want to take an STD test... well either way i think you should tell him and if really like you like you kind of explain then he would understand. And don't say it was not your fault because you have a choice weather to use protection when having sex or not. Also it will not happen to people that don't want to get STD that why they protect themselves from getting it..

Answer 5

You both need to be checked. If he doesn't deal well with the news, then he is a loser. Ditch him. Chances are, he will be upset at first and then be happy you were completely open and honest with him.
You are not nasty!! Many people are exposed to STD's every minute. Unfortunately that comes with the teritory of having unprotected sex. Even with protection there is always a chance.

Answer 6

no judgment. be honest and tell him that you may or may not have an std and then ensure him you are getting tested and for him to do the same. tell him about the story on the ex because if he cares about you then he can't get mad at you for being honest. just use a condom until you get results and good luck

Answer 7

You've got to tell your current partner. It's the only decent thing to do. Whether he gets upset or not, you are responsible for letting him know. You both may need treatment; hopefully it can be cured but do it now - and get tested.

Answer 8

what exactly is the question?

if it's "how do u tell someone u have an STD when u don't even know?"
then just say, I might have an STD

but don't give us this BS about it not being your fault

Answer 9

always assume that your partner as an STD. this way, you will always use protection.
the best way to find out if your partner actually has an STD is to ask.