I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 months on one hand he is affectionate and caring, and on the other he is a motorbike-mad mummy´s boy. Everybody says that trying to have a meaningful relationship with him is a complete waste of time. He will drop everthing for his mother or the bike and I am left waiting around and feeling privileged when he can manage to fit me in.
He can make me feel really special and other times i feel like I am not worthy of a phone call. Should I call it a day and stop being an afterthought?
2007-02-24 23:19:08 · 17 answers · asked by mary m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is 29 and Iam 28.
2007-02-25 00:23:38 · update #1
If you have to ask, I think you already know the answer. You just want permission. You sure have mine.
2007-02-24 23:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by Phartzalot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question all depends on you and what you want out of the relationship. If it's important to you that you are number one to him, or that he has lots of time for you than obviously this isn't going to work out. But if you are interested more in the quality of time you spend together than the amount, and can accept that you aren't the most important thing in his life this relationship will probably be a wonderful one for you.
I have a relationship like this. He works two full time jobs, doesn't leave a lot of extra time for me. But when we are together we have a great time. And his jobs do come before me but my children come before him.
We all set our own priorities. Mine are me, then my kids, my responsibilities, my friends, and then my boyfriend. Decide how to set yours and I bet you'll feel a lot more confident in whatever you choose.
2007-02-25 07:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey love a person by giving ur 100% so that u can get back ur 101%.(Remember)
In this case it not gonna happen. Stop lovin a mummy's boy. Search 4 a really man.
Just dnt waste ur time. Im sure u'll get someone better than this
2007-02-25 07:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by Naz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well young one. something you should know is that every person is a separate individual like the individual organs in he body.They stand separate and is as important as the other one. If you see yourself as someone special you shouldn't even talk about being left alone or stand second to others.We grade ourselves to that grade. He makes you feel special when he is with you means,he feels and sees you deep down when he's with you. There are people who are with you, in existence, all the time but don't see you by their side.
You say he pays attention to his mother. That's good. He pays tribute to his roots. He is someone who wil always respect the mother of his kids.
2007-02-25 07:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by sanctuary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd dump that jerk so fast it would make his head spin. You deserve better than this. It's sad but alot of younger guys are like this playing with thier toys and still clinging to their mommy's.
I finally decided to date older men, and i hooked up with one that's more than twice my age. He treats me as if i were royalty or some kind of goddess. I'm in heaven. He fulfills everything i ever dreamed of in a man.
He may be 52 and me at 20, but he has a body that is so well toned his body is so firm it's just unbelievably well defined. He works out everyday with weights. He's just simply a stud/hunk.
2007-02-25 07:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by ash84102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,it is a very hard question,but one thing that I know is that it is impossible to change him.You must decide whether to bear with his faults or leave him.There are only 2 ways...In my opinion two people can have happy life only when they understand each other and forgives their faults:)I hope you will make the right decision:)
2007-02-25 07:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by Wavi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are. But, it sounds like you will have to wait around to be number 1. Sooo, don't hold your breath!!!! I'd start walking the other way. Good Luck.
2007-02-25 07:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. call it a day and go find someone who can't live without you in his life. You shouldn't be merely a 'part' of someone's life, but a very large part of it. Think better of yourself. Respect yourself. He sounds like an immature selfish brat and using you for when he wants and not caring about you for your sake. It's good he loves his mother, but mommy can't fulfill all his needs....unless..................
2007-02-25 07:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already asking yourself these questions and you're only 6 months into this relationship - run don't walk !!
you're already second guessing yourself - listen to your gut instincts... and if you think he's going to "change" you are only kidding yourself.
2007-02-25 07:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Geanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? Maybe he hasn't finished growing up yet. If he is in his 20's, run the other way.
2007-02-25 07:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋