I love my boyfriend and we plan to get married in the next two years. He is in Canada and I am in Australia so we're visiting every few months in the meantime.
The problem is, I am a muslim girl. My family are practising muslims and want me to marry a muslim guy because it is dictated in the religion.
I was never allowed to date because of my religion, and was actively shielded from guys so I never had the chance to meet muslim guys. The only guys I knew were the ones from school and university. I met some really cool guys and ended up becoming really good friends with one of them.
My bf is willing toconvert for me but I have just heard that this might not be enough for the religion (and hence, for my parents!).Any muslims out there, please give me some advice about how I can solve this. I am 25 and I've know him for 4 years - I do not have the time to get to know another guy like this. My biological clock is ticking and I am so very in love with my bf
:( please help
2007-02-24 23:14:03 · 13 answers · asked by cherrywaxtree 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If he converts and follows it, as well as believes it with his heart it can be done. My own fiancee converted for marriage, but he was also learning about Islam for a while and decided to convert at a birthday gathering in front of my friends. I was floored!! But I'm very happy, because he is like my best friend and I love him so much.
2007-02-24 23:16:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
G'day mate! Sorry, I couldn't resist, teehee! :^D
As for your biological clock, you've got PLENNY time. Trust me.
Hmmm, is he really learned about Islam? Does he want to convert only to marry you, or does he really care about what he's doing? Would he convert even if you two never marry? If the answer to this last question is yes, then have him talk to your parents. Perhaps they can get a chance to talk to him, let him know what the Muslim religion is about, and what Muslim marriage is about. Maybe they'll soften up toward him. It's easier to say "no" when you don't know someone, but if you get to know him/her, then you see them as a person and not just as a symbol.
Open the lines of communication between your parents and your b/f if you haven't already.
God bless all of you, I hope things turn out very well and that you do get married, inshaallah.
2007-02-25 07:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by Dolores G. Llamas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there, i must say you are lucky girl because your bf willing to convert to islam. I'm having the same problem but the thing is he is not willing to convert as he hates religion and dont believe in one. My advise is if he really wants to convert because he wants to embrace islam way of life- go on and marry him..But if he only wants to convert just so he can marry you, think twice, because you might face problem in future. About ur biological clock is ticking- dont be ridiculous!if yours is ticking( your are 25)i would say mine would be exploding by now....
2007-02-27 18:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by SD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is better If he converts, as this will not be a problem for you to get married another is that your BF must convert for Allah and not because of you. He will be praying to Allah and not to you, bare this in mind, it seems that your family is very stricket when it come to religion, You should visit your local Mosque and ask How to go forth with the Conversion, they will defiantly help you out, as Mosques are there for you.
2007-02-25 07:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by khaled 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know perfectly will that dating is haraam in Islam. Your parents were raising you correctly in the religion. If he converts yes it is possible. But your better off marrying a Muslim man who was born and raised Muslim.
2007-02-25 13:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly, if he converts solely because of you and for the purpose of marrying you then obviously he is doing it out of obligation and not of faith, simply put a man will try to have sex with a woman by any means necessary
2007-02-28 00:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he converts because of his love to you then it's a clear sign he did that only for you and not because he truly believes in the faith you practice. Let love be pure and unbiased. Why get religion decides what's love good for you.
2007-02-25 07:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by Frontal Lobe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to follow your heart, i know you don't want to disappoint your family , but also this is your life, and who you marry is who you have to live your life out with not your family, marry the man you love, have lots of children and be happy.
2007-02-25 07:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by donttalkjustplay05 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why are you letting your religion dictate whether you can marry someone or not? Marry who you want and to heck with everything and everyone else. It's YOUR life, not theirs. And, if they love you, they'll support you no matter what.
2007-02-25 07:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
just point to him that he convert for God not for u and on conviction-----i am sure u can explain to him and help him out with knowledge
2007-02-25 07:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋