What to feel?

Question

here's what happened, lately things have been stressful, on Halloween I changed my hours to working at nights from 8:30-7am 4/10's so that I could save on daycare. By January I was like totally worn out, barely sleeping & grouchy because never really feel like I am getting any type of sleep, anyway so I talked with my sup & was told couldn't change back to days until March, so with that said & only two weeks til things go back to normal....out of of the blue last Friday my b/f of 2y says he needs space & then by Sunday night we were broken up with no real reason, but he states that wants to still be friends and that he's here for me to help out if I need it, like around the house or with my car. Anyway, this left me much much in confusion, so yesterday, we were talking and I asked him to give me a reason, you know closure, he tells me that he's going thru some stuff wants to finish college, find a wife & have his own kids, raise a Persian family,,,,,he's from Iran, been here six years

Answer 1

Don't get caught up in feeling rebuffed or rejected. Our culture is too big on this pop-psychology notion that we need or are entitled to "closure" on loss. Be self assured, you are already entitled to move on--to seek what fulfills you personally--you don't need explanations or excuses.

Look forward to having a better schedule, and look forward to going out and getting the boyfriend youreally want.

Answer 2

You know what you feel........confused for one thing. It's clear that you aren't the wife he seeks. I'd cut off any contact with him as you don't need him in your life. Find a good mechanic for the car, and a handyman to fix stuff in the house. You don't need a 'friend' like him.You are way better off finding someone who desires to be with you and will accept your kids. Be glad that you found out about him now and not later. He sounds like a jerk.

Answer 3

are you kidding? are you seriously asking a web board how you are supposed to FEEL about things that are going on in your own life?! if you don't like your job, quit and find another or put up with it. If your bf doesnt want to be your bf anymore, either he wants to move on, or you've turned into a different person from all this stress youve got yourself under. btw, if you arent iranian too, i'd run right now. he has already told you he wants a persian family, and if you arent persian, you arent in his future.

Answer 4

he's over u for some reason. I'm assuming it's because you're not the type of person who he sees as being his wife and he is very mature and grown up to make that decision, especially since he ended things with you very nicely. Sounds like a decent young man. No wonder ur heartbroken. He hot?

Answer 5

well it seems he just wants to settle down in a while and reaise a family with his ethnic origin. seems like he's missing his culture i guess & is focusing on his religion.
i guess you should just spend time your friends and family.
u should take a trip somewhere to ease & be less stressed.
just keep looking forward & keep your head up(or better yet down on the pillow= it seems like you really need it).
good luck

Answer 6

Get things sorted out one at a time.

Answer 7

I think you should leave him alone, beacause Persians are people of culture and most of them get marred to Persian because thats what their religion and parents want em' to do.

Hope you find you find a better guy and better job.

life goes on, keep walkin

Answer 8

Report to the authorities he is a plant waiting to attack your country he has been whats called a sleeper agent and now he is required to act. You are his cover.

Answer 9

U must be really confused and sad.Ur bf just doesnt deserve u.