Does the bible says that you should ONLY divorce if adultery has been commited?

Question

Just wanted to know whether that is the only reason for divorce, Im sure in those days men hit their women too or controlled them etc? Is there any mention in the bible about this and if so what story, chapters and verses?

Answer 1

In Jesus' day the Jewish religious system allowed men to divorce their wives for very little reason. Jesus told his followers that the only acceptable grounds for divorce was adultery - BUT it was not compulsory to divorce, even if adultery had been committed. The principle is that marriage is a divine, sacred institution, blessed by God and what God has joined together, no man (or woman) should try to separate. Check out Matthew 19: 3-9 and Luke 10: 1-12 for the account of how the Pharisees tried to find fault in Jesus' teachings. In Malachi 2: 16 it says that God hates divorce.

With regard to men abusing their wives I do not know of any specific examples in the Bible, but, human nature being the way it is, you can be certain it was going on. Peter advised husbands to be considerate of their wives, and to treat them with respect (1 Peter 3: 1-7). In Hebrews 4: 4 we are told that 'Marriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.'

For a man to hit his wife in order to 'control' her is cowardly, despicable and the actions of a bully and a tyrant. A man should cherish his wife as he cherishes his own body. Nowhere in the Bible does God give a man given permission to beat, hit or mistreat his wife. After all, God is love and we are created in His image. 1 John 4: 7-21 explains it beautifully - "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love." Check it out. And thanks for asking this question so I could focus on God's Word this morning.

Answer 2

Divorce is the termination of the bond between a man and woman during betrothal (Jewish law) or marriage by use of some formal means. In New Testament times, the Rabbis differ over what constituted grounds for divorce according to Deuteronomy 24:1. The stricter school (Shammai) limited the grounds to sexual misconduct, while the more liberal school (Hillel) argued that divorce was permissible even if the wife were merely a bad cook. But I don't think that is what you're asking. You want to know, by the sound of your question, if you can get a divorce and still be in God's "good graces" if you're getting abused. I would say that, if that's the case, that you should 1. get as far away from that guy as possible, 2. Read your Bible, and 3. pray for God's protection and guidance. Check out Duet. 24:1, and 22:19, Jer. 3:8, Mal. 2:16,
Jer. 3:1, Matt. 19:3, Mark 10:11, Matt.5:32, and Luke 16:18.

Most importantly, find a Bible believing church near you and talk to the pastor.

Answer 3

This is what came up on a Bible Search site:

Exodus 21:10 If he marries another woman, he must not deprive the first one of her food, clothing and marital rights. 11 If he does not provide her with these three things, she is to go free, without any payment of money.

The next one is longer, you can click the link below. It basically says that because the wife refused to come to the husband when he called her, she is to not be in his presence again and he should marry someone else. The end of it says "If it please the king, let there go a royal commandment from him, and let it be written among the laws of the Persians and the Medes, that it be not altered, That Vashti come no more before king Ahasuerus; and let the king give her royal estate unto another that is better than she." (Esther 1:10-22)

There's also a mention of divorce in Isaiah 50:1, but it doesn't have an actual opinion on it.

Answer 4

Well , I suppose there are different things.
Also even if he /she commited adultery according to the Bible , their partener is allowed to forgive him/her .

Generraly you know that people divorce nowaday without the situation that a man hits a woman . They divorce because some have sex with somebody else and we understand that it is nothing between us. So it is forbidden that a man leave his wife unless she comits adulterry . Why leave a woman that didn't cheat ?Because she is too fat ?She can loose weight if you love her , and show her , buying her fine clothes , jews , saying that you love her , walking hand in hand , being interested in what she believes,m what she thinks about...
Obviously you can leave a man that drinks and hits , who refuses to become a person based on reason. In the old testament the drunkers were killed .What life was that ?But now, we must forgive and help them receive the real life from God. The divorce comes only if ..it is impossible and destrys you...

Answer 5

While there are extreme cases where divorce or separation might be allowed, the Bible says that in general the marriage bond is for life. Jesus himself said: “He who created them from the beginning made them male and female and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and will stick to his wife, and the two will be one flesh’ . . . So that they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has yoked together let no man put apart.”—Matthew 19:4-6, 9; 1 Corinthians 7:12-16.

Separation is Biblically permissible in a case of willful nonsupport, extreme physical abuse, or the absolute endangerment of spirituality.

Scriptural divorce with the possibility of future remarriage to another partner is possible if a mate has committed “fornication,” which embraces several forms of immoral sexual relations. (Matthew 19:9

Answer 6

Yes that is the only reason. If the other person has committed adultery then you are permitted to divorce them. Hardness of heart makes it permissible also but it's not the correct way.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

In the OT they were allowed to divorce if the woman displeased her husband.
However Jesus said that God allowed divorce in the OT because of the hardness of their hearts.

In the NT divorce is only permitted because of adultery.

I know of some people today that should be allowed to get a divorce because of the hardness of their hearts. They just make each other miserable.

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Answer 9

Yes, It is written in the Book of Mathew where Jesus is says that nothing but an adultery is the main reason for divorce.

but we have to classify the adultery

either it is mentally, physically or some other act that can depicted as adultery.

in old testemement God warns Isrealites not to worship other god then then Yehveh Himself, if they did this God calls it as an act of adultery.

if this is the case, a women who is married to a man is not willing to be in her husbands care, and still was dominated by some other person in her life, we can call this act as an adultery.

Answer 10

Matthew 5:32