How can you forget someone?

Question

Since my teens I dreamed of proving myself I could be a one woman man so I kept virgin but things are not always what one may expect so now I need to know.
Besides going out and dating other people is there any other way to forget about someone? She was never my gfriend, she didn´t even like me, she never kissed me and I never knew why I fell in love with her. She hardly started to accept to go out with me when suddenly a rich family man took her away from me. I will never look for her as now she belongs to another man but I started to worry because soon I will be 40 and this happened ten years ago and I still wake up in the middle of the night thinking of her. Would you say I need psychological help? I´d never tell a therapyst I´m still virgin.
Do you think this could be only an obssesion? I only want to get her out of my head. Please tell me what you think.

Answer 1

Do you realize you would make the perfect Priest? Ok, I'm sorry, that was low. Honestly, I was a virgin until my first, wait? Dude, it doesn't matter, sex is overrated anyways. Love is all you need. The Beatles had it right, and so did Christian on Moulin Rouge. If you think you need Psychological help go ask your shrink. Personally, I say follow your heart. Life is too short to be caught up in obssession. We are all a little obsessive compulsive by nature. I say before you seek Psychological help, get laid. Then ask yourself, do I need help?

Answer 2

Tens years wow thats a long time to be thinking about someone.... Really the ones who leave footprints in our hearts are the ones we find it really hard to ah.... get over. I wouldnt say its an obsession I would say that its more of a grudge or a burden that your keeping on yourself and you need to unload it. Mate you gotta tell her how you feel cause obviously how things ended btwn the 2 of you's has bugged the **** outta you all this time and you need to let her & it go & thats the only way your gonna do that is if you either write it in a letter and send it to her or tell her in person. So you can move on and get out there and be..... FREE!!!! When the letter she may not read it because its from you but eventually she'll read it but you dont worry about whether or not she reads it cause what counts is that you got all those feelings from the bottom of your heart OUT! And its released and you'll find that you wont be waking up in the middle of night just to think about what she did because its all in the letter that you wrote to her or what you told her.

Thats what I think. After you do that go out with friends or new make friends and go out and explore the world.Oh and dont forget to forgive yourself as well as her to finally let her go okay cause i think in way you felt responsible 4 what happened but dont its her loss not yours. Shes the one that loses out on your love. And... dont worry your future wife is definitely out there shes just hoping you'll look her way... So dude what are you doing reading this get off the computer and look at her and let her know your there DAMN IT! :)

Take easy dude :)

Answer 3

I personally think you have an obsession with this person and are possibly making her out to be something that she wasn't or isn't. Some people get obsessed with t.v. personalities or pop idols. Try diverting your time into doing something else. Have you ever thought of taking up voluntary work. Not only would you be helping other people, but also meeting new people. You never know your Miss Right is out there somewhere, it's just not this one that you are pining over.

Answer 4

Did you ask yourself about whats wrong with a Virgin? Actually theres Nothing Wrong with it, your not torturing your mind through physical and emotional problem for the person you dont love. Saving yourself to somebody is a good thing. Who knows the reason for this is You might find somebody who wants exactly like you are. Your endangered species, so dont be fooled by people around you. just because they lost it, dont you think they regret it after they give it to somebody whos not worth it. Pray hard and move on, love will find you. Believe me nothing is impossible.

Answer 5

You have touched my sense of compassion and I really want to help. I am not a professional councillor. You have been hurt by Love for another person. Is it possible that you are not aware that there are other Loves? These are found in the main faiths. Look for the nearest one to you and you will find it there. You may not be able to forget but you can forgive once you have found the happiness you seek. I pray that you will find it.

Answer 6

She's an ideal. A fabrication of perfection in your head.
If you'd known her better, she'd have burped and farted with the rest of us. Her poo stank and she probably had bad breath in the morning.
That's the way you have to think about her.
Immerse yourself in a hobby where you meet people. The woman really for you is out there somewhere. (However, she just might burp and fart etc etc)

Answer 7

man yes this is an obbsetion you do need to talk about this your stuck . and because your stuck you cant move on i have been obsesed to but you must be realistic 10 years talk to some one . and dont ponder on the thought any more . you may never forget her but if you realy love her then you can sleep well knowing she is happy . good luck

Answer 8

u r 40 and still virgin?u really need professional help!u r obsessed with her because u can't admit to yourself u are afraid of relationships!go out meet people and u ll find someone better!!!

Answer 9

well maybe you should go out more try meet new ppl join a club r sumin. you can never forget someone that ment a lot to you but gradually you will miss her less

Answer 10

Yeah.... right.... well, better start saving up for a therapist. Otherwise just drink till you pass out.