i am usually not your typical whining woman who at the age of 29, feels like i am never gonna get married...
i still have a lot of faith in meeting the right one eventually....but it's sometimes real hard when the dates whom i meet are mostly belonging to 2 categories.
The ones who are attracted to me either are married or are single who are looking to just have a rolling good sex with me....
the one & only man who adores me completely and is single.....i feel for him too & think that he has many wonderful attributes that i want in a man....but i dun feel much sexual chemistry with him...
is it my destiny or is it just me???
Though i am not the typical slim kind with perfect looks, i pride in myself being more curvy and attractive....why do most of my dates just want to have sex with me?i dun think i am giving out the wrong signals....i am a affectionate woman by nature to both men & women, frds and family.but that doesn't mean i love one night stands.anyone w my prob?
2007-02-24 21:46:16 · 6 answers · asked by icey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey thanks people,
i think all of you make sense in one way or another...and even though i do not lack dates at all, i do miss the kind of fun dates that seems to have vanished from my life.....so i'm gonna just work harder on myself (i love my curvy self but won't hurt to lose a few pounds...haha...but i am definitely not into skinny...) in the time being until a great fun date comes along that doesn't look at me as a pure 100% sex object....
2007-02-24 23:47:47 · update #1
perhaps you have your answer right here but you might need it spelled out, if your planning for marriage, than the one who treats you the way you want to be treated is the one...the lack of sexual chemistry may be caused by a mental self-block since you don't think you want anything with that person, try looking past the "ooh la la" and look at the passion that is brought forth during intimacy. as far as those one-night stands...remember...you don't have to do anything you don't want to...go on dates that don't say (any no offense to you directly) I'm lonely, desperate, or easy...your 29, when was the last time you went and played putt-putt, or went for a movie and then out for ice cream...remember those fun dates you had when you were a teen...let the kid out of you every now and then, enjoy life and in time your dreams will catch up to you!....for some inspiration check out music artist Jason Mraz great music for all types of emotions...
2007-02-24 22:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a member of the opposite gender, I feel obligated to share an insight or two. First, men think about sex a lot. (Trust me on this.) However, only a few men actually have the intelligence to realize that sex is only a part of a happy relationship; the same goes for some women. I'm not running down sex, but you have to look at the long view; is a guy really into you, and you alone? Because if he's the sex-starved type, I'd have to think that he has emotional issues, and should probably be avoided.
2007-02-25 05:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Meeting the type of people very much depends on what u frequent, the person u meet at a pub will differ from those u meet at a library. Like our volunteer group, everyone comes with a heart to help others, so naturally most people u meet will be nice. So the location where u meet guys does matter.
2007-02-25 08:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by firefly 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the 'right' person isnt out there for everyone. People are much too materialistic n superficial nowadays so I say, as long as you dont have any significant doubts about what might go on (relationship or sex-wise or sex within the relationship) then i think you'll be fine_
2007-02-25 06:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jonathan L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Where are you meeting these people? If it is mostly at bars, then the experiences you are having at not surprising. Demand respect and you will weed out the losers and the right kind of guy will step up.
2007-02-25 05:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, I don't have your problem, or even really any advice, but to keep looking. The right one is out there somewhere. I hope you find him soon. Sounds like you are really kind and deserve a good man. Best of luck.
2007-02-25 05:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by GOUTVOLS 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋