Me and my ex-girlfriend are good friends. As friends we have good communication and are caring in every way. But lately my ex-girlfriend has asked me to be her boyfriend again. She said that we don’t argue anymore as we did when we were together. What do you think? Would we argue again… because as friends we still argued but now we are friendlier to each other as the time pass. Should I go back with her… or do you think we would start arguing again?
2007-02-24 21:46:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do you feel now? Do you still feel love when with her? If you find it better off as friends now, just continue. Take it slow . Your friendship will eventually lead to love.
2007-02-24 21:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon how much time has passed. If it's been a long period of time, you've both matured a bit.
If it's worth a try, take it one day at a time and make sure communication is clear. Do not rush into anything. Use protection if there is any sexual contact. In fact, if either of you has had a sexual partner, you should both be tested at a clinic if the relationship is heading that direction.
Take your time and get to know and respect one another with your clothes on. Communicate, be honest and patient with one another and if there is a disagreement ( which is human), talk - don't scream.
Take a look at the big picture and make your decision.
p.s. Keep your relationship a private matter. No one needs to know what goes on between you. No details to anyone other than you are together.
Good luck.
2007-02-25 05:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't give you the answer but i can share with you on my experience which is similar...
me & my ex-bf broke off once many years ago....we remained good frds....and we get along very well as frds so abt a year down the road, we decided to get back together again cos we were so good when we were frds...
we were back together but last year, we broke off again....i think even though there is always a chance that things will be better but the higher chances is that no matter how much we mature as a human being, the fundamental part of us remains there.....so i guess if it was me, i would say no...
that's what i said when my ex asked me to consider patching back again last mth...it was hard though cos i still feel for him...but i reallie want to move on..
good luck to you dear
2007-02-25 05:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by icey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might very well be so that you both have learnt how to deal with each other during this "pause". Think about what went wrong last time, the quarrels and other things. Have all of them been solved?
If you feel that things have changed since last time you were together, I think it's worth one more chance, definitely, as long as you still love her and don't hold any grudges against her. We all make mistakes and all of them are not unpardonable!
Good luck!
2007-02-25 05:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by Kerosa S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time could tell that one. If you want to get back with her then do so. If you don't because you are worried about arguing then you might miss out on something special. If you broke up once and are still friends then your friendship should not be threatened!
2007-02-25 05:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by twilite44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Analyze with her how the communication is different now, and see if you can convince yourselves that enough of that good communication can be continued in a relationship. Find some of the standard self-help sources advising on "constructive" and "destructive" ways to fight.
If those discussions go well, then why not?
2007-02-25 05:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone knows the answer to this question is no, don't get back together with an ex. on the other hand, anyone in your position would go ahead and do it anyway, because you want to be sure. so, in short, I don't advise it, but it's only human, and when it blows up in your face, i'll understand.
2007-02-25 05:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by beatrice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you would know. personally, i think you might start arguing again and lose your friendship along with the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship
2007-02-25 05:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so... If you love her again, give her another chance!
2007-02-25 05:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by Melinda Gordon <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go back. you would be begging for trouble.
2007-02-25 05:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by kelstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋