Since my teens I dreamed of proving myself I could be a one woman man so I kept virgin but things are not always what one may expect so now I need to know.
Besides going out and dating other people is there any other way to forget about someone? She was never my gfriend, she didn´t even like me, she never kissed me and I never knew why I fell in love with her. She hardly started to accept to go out with me when suddenly a rich family man took her away from me. I will never look for her as now she belongs to another man but I started to worry because this happened ten years ago and I still wake up in the middle of the night thinking of her. Would you say I need psychological help?
Do you think this could be only an obssesion? I only want to get her out of my head. Please tell me what you think.
2007-02-24 21:45:08 · 9 answers · asked by ANOTHERCHANCE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She was not my first love. Normally, I used to fall in love since I was a kid, always with girls who fell in love wih other guys, but it usually took only 3 or 4 years to forget them, this is why I worry now.
2007-02-24 23:15:32 · update #1
Pray that she is safe and happy. Be glad she is with a rich man....if she thinks that buys happiness she might be wrong but it was still her choice.
Just because you remember someone does not mean you are obsessed. Be happy for her, let her go and go on with your life
Life is like one big windsheild of a car....don't fret over that little mirror that show's where you been......look ahead cause that my friend is where you are headed"(Kate McVeigh)
2007-02-24 21:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is bothering you that much...therapy might be a good idea. At least to see where this is all coming from and what is underneath it. 10 yrs.....wow. Well...unfortunately because you were never with her...you most likely have this ideal person in you head when you think of her. When in reality...she is not. There is just no way around that. So..at this point I would say..realize that the person you think you are wanting is really just someone you've created in your mind. You may always long for that ideal image of her...but just know that it is not real. One day,sooner or later, you will find someone else who you will enjoy being with. Then you get to look back on all this and chuckle about your long lost love...that no longer seems so important.
2007-02-25 05:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by mesh180 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Passion like this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bibtqDxXv1o ?
1. "Honeysuckle (Lonicera Caprifolium) is the Bach Flower Remedy for people who live in the past instead of the present. They feel that their best days are behind them and that there is little to look forward to, and as a consequence they prefer to dwell on past happinesses (or past misfortunes). At a more minor key, homesickness and nostalgia are also Honeysuckle states.
The remedy helps the person in this state to learn from the past without needing to relive it, so that the person can progress on into the present and take joy from today and tomorrow.
Dr. Bach's Description: Those who live much in the past, perhaps a time of great happiness, or memories of a lost friend, or ambitions which have not come true. They do not expect further happiness such as they have had."
http://www.herbalremedies.com/hon10vial.html
2. http://thesecret.tv/home.html ("The Secret")
3. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qftvt9IHHUM ("Vision Statement")
4. http://www.sedona.com/ ("The Sedona Method")
5. http://www.centerpointe.com/ ("Centerpointe Research Institute")
I hope you feel better soon! Have a Amazing Weekend!
2007-02-25 05:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say I have the same problem........We left to many unanswered questions on the table. You need to resolve them or there will be a lot of waking up in the middle of the night thinking of her, I still do, and that was 30 years ago! First loves will do that!
2007-02-25 05:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya,
Well ten years ago is a very long time to hold hopes i guest, unless your heart is telling you that she is unhappy and she too is missing you. After ten years if you want to seek her out to found out if that's your destiny, but prepare you self this could back fire back to you meaning more night mares.
Have you had any other relationship/married after your first love.
the truth is get a life it's hard as i am going through relationship problems myself i am trying to just get on with my life even though it hurts like hell and sometime i break down in tears asking why? me why?. no answer only my own courage to get on with what ever life i do have left with my children.
I wish you the strength to what you have to do. God be with you.
2007-02-25 06:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by SANTA A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah just forget her by trying to get away and do things that makes you happy, you can cry but make sure your mate not see you cry and also jus eat those chocolates.. and have someone who you can talk to about your worries^_^
I know is hard to forget someone, even I have similar problem I just feel wrost than I though.. but than when I had my time away, my heart started to find someone else and carry on knowing i can find someone worth more
2007-02-25 06:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by SimileyDaisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to apart from her, engaged urself in something else and TIME will help u to forget her.
more or less every of us had suffer as like u. don`t panic
2007-02-25 05:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by Difi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think u will ever forget her not if u loved her
2007-02-25 07:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by karen H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...to forget someone is the simplest thing for me.but............i don't know what i can for you.seems you really loved her
2007-02-25 05:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋