my mate and i have a secret crush but we never told anyone but on valentines day, my mate asked me if i had a secret crush and i said yes coz i was dying to tell her but then i asked her too and she said yup and so we promised to tell each other if 1 spilt it out and the other would too and guess what? we like the same guy :O how could that happen? OMG :O noway but anyway i said to her that she could have him but b4 she let it out to me, she said he was way out of her leage and i said no1 is way o ut of any1's league. sooooo...she said he's good to look at but she wouldnt go out with him. would she be jealous if i asked him out? does she mean it when she says she wouldnt go out with him. do you think she secretly really r. wants him and would our friendship be over if me and the guy ended up going out together?
2007-02-24 21:27:11 · 20 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my feelings have gone on for 4 yrs. she only knws him since 2.
2007-02-24 21:41:50 · update #1
I would say go for it..I never dated a boy because my friend liked him and I have regretted it ever since..set her up with another boy so she wont feel left out.
2007-03-02 04:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely would affect your friendship with your mate, no doubt about that. Turn the situation around and see how you would feel if your mate asked him out and went out with him. The best piece of advice I could give you would be that guys come and go, but a best mate is there for life. If you really do want to go out with this guy, I would suggest you have a heart to heart talk with your mate and explain that you do not want to harm your friendship in any way. Hope this helps.
2007-02-25 05:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by JillPinky 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that would depend how much she likes him, if it is a crush then I would expect the feeling will pass for her soon and she will focus on someone else. Ask her out right, she can't really swear to you that she doesn't mind and then get all moody about it afterwards. You need to think about awkwardness as well though, will you feel comfortable kissing and cuddling this guy in front of your friend or will you always be aware of her feelings and back off. You could very well lose your friend over this but which is more important to you.
2007-02-25 05:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by jo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't sound like either of you dated this guy. If this is just a crush, maybe keep it at that. Being a good friend is not competing over a guy. That could break up the friendship.
2007-02-25 05:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by altes_jan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes she would be jealous, the same way you would be if she went out with him.
The best way to get round this are keep a good friendship is to neither of you go for this guy.
2007-02-25 05:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by truth_and_time_tells_all 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The way i see it that if you tell your friend you like the same person then 1 of you will say you don't really like them. So you shouldn't do anything just yet. watch your friend though because if the still like them than you find out by things they do or say.
2007-03-02 12:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by hoodie_man3482 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...your mates just trying to be a good friend and that's what you should do by agreeing neither should ask him out, and both look for some one else to have a crush on but hopefully not the same guy again
2007-02-25 05:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes maybe but we don't know do we? is she your best friend cause if she is then i would hang on to her but if she can't accept with, you going out with him. I mean its hard but just be calm about it there's no need for stress just take things as they come they will work out as they are supposed to now just have fun but honest fun. OK
2007-03-03 11:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by tacha w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls, give the guy a night he will never forget and take him on together.... It worked for me and my mate. Nothing worked out for either of us with him but we still laugh at the fact we did what we did....
2007-02-25 05:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by Julie M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how can you think of asking him out knowing your friend likes him too?!not only would your friend be jealous and watching over you both all the time but yes i think it would cause uncomfortableness within your friendship.
2007-02-25 16:32:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋