Are virgins more likely to cheat when they are married ?

Question

I am just wondering if people who wait to have sex until marriage are more likely to cheat ?


Reasons why I think this may be true:
-The person may get bored with having sex with only one person during there entire life
-There husband/wife may be a horrible partner (sex-wise), or they might have some weird defect
-Is it really fair if one person waited and the other didn't ?
-Isn't it better to "try before you buy"


Other Info:
-I am a 22 year old virgin by choice, thinking about not waiting anymore (I was going to wait until marriage)
-If you are going to tell me why I should wait, please use a reason other than a religious one.


Thank you for your help :)

Answer 1

I was a promiscuious man before marriage, and am on here now (if that counts.) If I had stayed a virg maybe I wouldn't know what Im missing, except for the stupid media showing it everywhere. But I tell you, if you are curious now, you are sure as heck going to be curious later. Much more so. Email me, or IM.

Answer 2

My thoughts:

As a virgin, you don't know what you are missing. So...

As far as being bored-having been married 10 years, I think it's only promiscuous people who are likely to complain about loss of "variety." Not something you would have to worry about.

As far as the risk of ending up with a "horrible" sex partner: you wouldn't know it because you have no other partners to compare yours to.

Is it fair: if you believe that's an issue with your chosen parnter, you may want to consider marrying someone else.

Is it fair to "try before you buy?" How would YOU like to be test-driven before the man who supposedly loves you commits to you? The only reason to do that is if you are marrying a "sex partner" and not a "husband." And you don't need a marriage contract for that.

Besides, women become emotionally attached when having sex. Men don't-at least not just because of the sex. Also, if a guy gets it without commiting to you first-and likes it-he'll often tell you whatever you need to hear to keep you giving it to him.

The old saying still holds valid: Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

Giving a man sex before marriage is somewhat of a disincentive to his wanting to commit to you for at least a couple of different reasons.

Finally-if you're worried your future partner may have some sort of weird defect: in marriage, there are calculated risks. Things happen all the time-testicular cancer requiring surgical removal of the testicles, breast cancer requiring masectomy, dread diseases, ilness and accidental injury causing a limitless number of disabilities-including sexual disfunction. These are things we usually don't leave our spouses for.

Okay...I hope the info helps.

Answer 3

Well, a virgin is not more likely to cheat on her husband because she hasn't been with any other man and so won't know if her man is the best or the worst in bed.

She might take him as the best man she's ever been with.

I don't think she would wait 'all her life' to get married before sex only to go about cheating on her husband when she is married.

It is definitely not better to 'try before you buy' because there are so many strings attached to that kind of 'freebie' such as

Sexually transmitted diseases, some of which have no cure.

I admire you for what you have done so far and beleive you me it is something you can be proud of and boast about one day, cuz there are not so many virgins in our time.

I tried to be like you, but I 'did' it when I was 21 and it is not something I have been proud of.

You have some kind of bond with whoever you have sex with, it's like you give a part of you to him and when there is a break-up or

a heart-break, you tend to move on and you get to meet another guy, this time you are not a virgin, so you cannot resist having sex.

You have sex with this guy too and you end up repeating this cycle again when that also doesnt work out.

Let me tell you something, your vaginal muscles some times open up and lose some of their elasticity when you keep on having sex with diffferent men over a period of time.

You may find a man you truely love and may decide to settle down with him, but may find out you are too 'big' for him because you vagina might be bigger, what do you think he'd think of you.

One thing that would make you husband very proud of you in future is when he finds out he married a virgin.

Don't believe all the 'fun and sophistication' they have given to non-virgins, I tell you it is not fun in anyway and many women would 'kill' to get their virginity back.

Please don't make the same mistakes I made because I really regret them though I'm currently with my third man.
I'm 26yrs by the way.

I hope you think about this well, cuz I am not going to tell you

keep yourself pure because it is a temple of God or anything, I am telling you there is pride and power in being a virgin and you have something most people are looking for but cannot get because it is an IRREVERSIBLE' action.

I love you girl, please make the right choice.

Answer 4

No, it does not mean there is more of a chance of cheating once married. You are a virgin by choice, at age 22. Please, you have waited this long, please continue to wait, you will feel so much better about yourself if you wait till marriage. Plus, your partner in marriage will appreciate that you waited till marriage. Honest. Plus, these days especially, you don't want to take a chance of getting pregnant before marriage, and especially too, and most importantly, you don't want to take a chance of getting an std, or aids. Being a virgin untill marriage is something so precious, and something to be proud of. To counter your reason of "try before you buy", I have heard "why buy the cow, if you can get the milk for free". You won't get bored with one sex partner for your whole life. There are different ways to do sex. Plus, if you have tried others, what if the best lover gets away, or turns out to be the worst kind of spouse? I have not ever heard of some weird defect. And, what if you wait, and the other person waits too? One other thing. How will you feel if you don't wait? You will be not too happy with yourself for giving up on your goal of waiting until you are married. Honest. Besides, sex is something you want to share with the person you will spend the rest of your life with. Not just anybody. Sex is physically the ultimate way for we humans to express our love for our spouse. You are "this close" to meeting your goal. Please wait. I wish you the best. Honest. Take care.

Answer 5

You might have a point there. I always thought that people who waited for sex turn into sexual deviants. I waited until I was 20 and then kicked myself in the butt ever since for waiting. When I think of all the fun I could have had in highschool.

And when I was 24, I was engaged to a virgin who after 6 months of being together, she wanted to have sex and a few weeks later, she broke up with me to have sex with other guys. In a 6 week period she had slept with 5 guys whom she met through me while she and I were together.

Now she is married to a guy and while she has one child from her current husband, she has two other kids from two other guys she was with prior.

I think when you get the sex thing out of the way at an early age, you tend to settle down more as you already "learned" from having it and you better understand love and sex.

So when people wait, they just go through that learning process at a later age. So, to answer your question, .... yes, people who wait longer for to have sex do end up cheating more.

That's been my expirience anyway.

Answer 6

Hi, You are right on some points,but not a cheater. Why would you think because you are a virgin that you would cheat!!! I would try on the HORSE and make sure it is a comfortable fit and makes all the right moves. Then you will know if sex will be good. Been there and done that. It really does make a different.
LOL A Friend.

Clowmy

Answer 7

The only non-religious reason I can see for saving it till marriage is to protect yourself from getting STDs like AIDS or Herpes or Gonorrhea etc.

Even safe sex using condoms does not guarantee 100% safety against transmission of STDs. Yes, it is a risk that a lot of people in everyday life take, to satisfy their sexual urges.

If you decide to wait until marriage, make sure you marry another person who is also a virgin (you can both get tested for any possible STDs, if you want).

That is probably the only reason I see for saving until marriage.

Answer 8

wether you are a virgin or not...the chances of cheating are always there no matter what..wether you sleep around or wait.

If you want to start having sex..you've got to becareful..you dont want to get a bad reputation..
that later the only reason why people will be with you is for the sex..not for an actual relationship.

No guy really likes a girl thats been around...They just use them for fun while they are "maturing" or trying to find the right one..
But once they are ready to commit..they dont want to go for one that has a bad reputation or that they know has been around alot.

Answer 9

Not really, the case is same for both virgins and non-virgins.

If you can keep your virginity till marriage, it only shows that you have better self control and probably make good use of your fingers.

Answer 10

i think it seems loyal and honest that you want to be pure untill your married but me myself i couldn't do it and im in my 20's and had 3 serious relationships and not married but hopefully this 1 im in will work out. by the way do you ever get bored of waiting it must be hard