Hello everyone,
Well, I don’t know where to start you can say that am completely disappointed!
I had an accident in my early childhood where I lost 1\2 of my face beauty due to the crashed glasses from the car. I did 2 major surgeries to reconstructive the area but still it shows...
At that time I wasn't really care about what happened to me. All what i think about was playing in the park with my friends and that set...
But now, when I grew up and I noticed all my friends have boyfriends and they enjoyed their time I feel lonely... I mean I’ve never seen any men paying me any attention.
Although am not thaaat bad or ugly.. I’m so active in my work and have a sense of humor
So what’s wrong with me?
Because of my case I always tend to drive the best car, wear the most expensive clothes and live in a nice house. I know it’s wrong and damp but I don’t know why am doing these things
Im so sad :(
2007-02-24 21:07:25 · 20 answers · asked by Sara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't get the last part.. because of your case you tend to drive the best etc?
Perhaps it's not your looks or lack of them that is unappealing... you sound like a braggart there. Throwing that bit in leads me to believe that there is something about your personality that's putting people off. Try being interested in them, and eventually someone will be interested in you!
2007-02-24 21:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are you and nobody can change that. You have accepted your self for the accident that happened in your childhood. I respect that. Not very many people are strong enough to go out in to the public world with their head up high, like you. I do not know how old you are and basing on just what you said about the job, auto and home. I am going to say "You have come a long way and damn it don't let the little things drag you down"! You sound as if you have a striking personality. Only a fool judges from the out side. Beauty is within a person. We all have our differences and no one person is perfect. I broke both my legs in High school back in 87 six weeks before graduation and I have scares on both my legs as well I have a limp. I'm 38 a single father of one, So what, I don't care. I thank God that I made it threw the auto accident with my life. I am not comparing with you in no way I am just making a statement. Some day "Mr. right" will find you. When that happens you will know it will and it will be for ever. I ask you to do one thing for me, Never belittle your self in person/text to me. Nobody is better than you no body! Don't ever think diferent. Know this "If you doubt, you have already lost" and I am sure the title of looser will not fit with you. ;)
Please don't try to impress or attract others to you. You don't need to, Let some lucky mans fate lead him to your presence.
I know this will happen for you. Give it time.
"I wish and hope the best for you" God bless,
Todd
2007-02-25 05:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by toddakins05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with you. It's natural to feel lonely, I think the fact that you had an accident complicates the matter and you think it may be the accident when the truth is that it is perfectly normal and everyone feels that way.
The fact is that you are a really nice person, people want to be with you and there is several guys who would like you to be their girlfriend.
Everyone feels lonely and disappointed, but remember, no one on earth has too many friends. Talk to guys who have talked to you and ask if they want to have coffee or lunch.
Guys feel lonely too and I guarantee you will find someone nice.
Drop by their desk and chat for a few minutes, ask guys for coffee or lunch. Keep asking different ones until you find one you click with and believe me, it will happen.
In the meantime, even if you never end up having romantic feeling for one particular guy, having a guy for "only" a friend isn't all bad.
Finding that special one is great, but finding a new friend is also a good thing.
2007-02-25 05:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let shallow people change how you feel about yourself. So you have some surgery scars. It could happen to anyone. People who don't take the time to get to know you as a person aren't worth worrying about.
Continue to follow your dreams; continue your education and continue to be a good person. Someone will come along when you least expect it who will value you for your thoughts and personality. Have patience.
Try not to let this make you feel unworthy because you are a special person.
It's good that you live in a nice house and have the means to buy nice things for yourself, but don't forget to invest for retirement. Don't spend it all on material things.
If you feel that sad and lonely, try counseling for a little while. It will help you. There's nothing wrong with it and it is no one's business but your own. You may be going through a bit of depression. All humans can go through it.
Love yourself. Don't change being a good person. Your time will come when you least expect it. When he finally appears, take it one day at a time.
Good luck.
2007-02-25 05:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babe!
Ok, I am going to be completely honest here. I apologise if any of this is stuff that you don't want to hear.
a) The immediate drawing factor in attraction (direct contact) is looks. The horrible horrible fact is that men may initially be drawn to whatever scarring is left from the operations, rather than all your cute things - eyes, dimples, smile etc. SOME will see past that. That's the horrible bit out of the way.
Anyone worth dating will see through that straight away. SO the next issue is, where to meet people?
b) Think about the kind of guy you want to meet. Someone in a club, someone bookish (library), someone who likes music (gig/concert), etc. It can be hard to make the first move, but once you have you'll have a pretty good idea if they are interested in you or not.
c) Finally, a suggestion. I met my guy through an online dating agency a year ago. By using the online service, I was able to find personalities and interests that matched my own. I'm in no way a looker (!) but we came out as a high match (they match your answers with their requests and visa versa) and met. Admittedly, I went through a couple of guys before I found one i liked. But with initial meetings being over the internet, you both realise that the personality shines through first. When you finally meet, you're so excited about the person that you barely notice anything else about them!
I'm rambled a lot, but I hope this is of some help to you.
2007-02-25 05:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First and far most believe in your self, and dont see your accident as the major issue in your life any more. Dont make it the reason u aint got a BF now. put it behind you and move on. be satisfied with everything you got, including your whole figure from the face to the body, and dont be afraid to stand out there, usually what you see bad about yourself others dont see it, its just in your head. Go out there and fear nothing, dont be snobish, and be humble, be sweet, all the good qualities, for a good person. Know that all the money of the world cant change you, and isnt whats important. in addition, you dont need a man in your life, just be satisfied with what ever life/god brings about. when its the right time, and the right person, it will happen, dont rush anything, or force anything, be patient, and sooner or later when its ment to be it will be. Enjoy your life single, coz trust me havin a guy aint all rainbows and butterflys, it has its up and downs, so sit back, relax, and enjoy your time
2007-02-25 05:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by girlygirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Glad to see that you are not being a victim of your situation, and for that you have my admiration. Its hard to get so be careful with it! Take your time, the right guy is out there and one day you will meet when you least expect it. Im sorry you are sad, you seem like a great person and not in the least bit shallow like some who have the material things also but dont question anything.
2007-02-25 05:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by kelstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the thing is that you are not being yourself. acting out of your own appearance looks weird and drives all away. your girlfriends might know how you really are by heart, but it is always with opposite sex who like an on-first-look attraction in your character alongside with your look. you don’t need to overdo things just to attract a guy. just be yourself, and wear things you feel comfortable in, or go out the way you feel easy. communicate how your mind cooperates, without looking for the right word to put in your speech with friends, just treat them the way you feel uncomplicated. in every manner, every step and every way just BE YOURSELF! and above all, try keep your senses cool about guys and relations with 'em and be patient. with hurry and portraying a false character you would get only a false partner, however your true self would definitely find ya a true partner at any stage of life. just be patient and recognize the love that may come your way some day. all da best!
2007-02-25 05:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by Alkahest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel bad. I am 43 yrs old, I used to model, and I was a ring girl for all of the professional boxers. When I was 25 yrs old I got an offer from playboy to be in their magazine. I am single right now, I have never been married, and I have 0 kids. And I still look very young for my age, and I feel like I am 20 years old, Its not that u r unattractive to the men, it just takes time, and sometimes it takes a little longer time for others like u and me. hang in there. Good luck!!!
2007-02-25 05:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by Bandice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I m so sorry abt ur car accident. But somethings happen for a reason. Think about it this way, although you would like sumone to notice ur physical beauty, do you honestly think, thats all that counts in a relationship, wouldnt you want someone to like YOU.. the one inside everythin?
Trust me, someone out there will think your the best thing that has ever happened to him... Maybe its someone who wont love you @ first glance, but will get to know the real you and love you for who you are not what you are!
And this happens, normally when you least expect it, so hang in there.. :)
cherish being unique
2007-02-25 05:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by Kittykaren 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋