I guess to make themselves seem more appealing. The thing is, I do like him, I think he's great/ He's funny, intelligent, and all that. But he did tell me a few fibs at the beginning that he really couldnt get out of later on. What do I do? Let it slide? I dont think he ever thought we would get to the point we are at now...
2007-02-24 21:06:05 · 10 answers · asked by andbriantoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh boy that is just so common! So many people start off by pretending they are something they aren't, thinking that they'll never get caught, but the internet is NOT a vast anonymous wasteland, it's more like a gossippy village! I remember a friend who was going to meet a man who said he was 30... and they talked for several months before the actual meeting. After a while he confessed to being 35... then 40... then 45.. by the time they actually met he turned out to be 53! Needless to say, nothing ever came of it...
Sit him down, and tell him he has to come clean NOW about everything... if the fibs weren't anything major perhaps you can give him another chance. But warn him.. if you catch him in ANY sort of untruth again, that's IT.. byebye guy!
2007-02-24 21:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were just fibs then let it slide as long as you like him. I met my bestfriend online from a dating site. His profile said he was 28 (9 yrs younger then me), never married & no children. We hit if off as good friends & soon after talking he was honest about his fibs. He is really 35, seperated & has a very young son. He admitted that he fibbed cuz he didn't think females would want anything to do with him if they knew he had a son & that he was seperated. The age thing he could get away with cuz he looks so much younger then he is. Once that was out in the open he has been totally honest ever since. So in your case since he 'had' to be honest later on, just let him know you expect him to be honest from now on on everything. Honesty is always better to be. Hope things work out for the two of you.
2007-02-25 07:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by MaeSalgo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what he fibbed about. If it was something like the color of his hair or shaving a few pounds off his weight then you probably let it slide. But if he told you he was this fit and athletic guy and he turns out to be 300 pounds that would be a different story.
Basically it comes down to whether you feel the things he lied about were material to his personality or if they matter to you. But you also have to ask yourself is he is the type of person who makes a habit of lying to make himself look better.
Personally, I believe one should be as honest with the people they meet online as they would with someone they meet in real life. Obviously you're not going to give away too much online in order to protect yourself, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't be honest about yourself.
2007-02-25 05:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And just what point is that, exactly? The point where he got caught lying, and you're caught up in a fantasy world where you are unable to distinguish real from make-believe anymore?
Trust me, honey, he probably lied about a lot more things than you know. That's the thing with online "relationships" - you have to take the word of a perfect stranger for all kinds of things.
2007-02-25 05:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying about yourself is very typical in internet relationships. Since you like him, I'd let it slide. But let him know that any further fibs won't be tolerated.
2007-02-25 05:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by CRtwenty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u like him that much. tll him what u found out and ask him the need for lying. he might be dealing with some issues of which it will benefit u to know about. If he can trust you with the truth it will cement your relationship with trust from both parties. U cannot base a house on shaky ground
2007-02-25 06:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where you completely honest? Do you ever embelish to make yourself look or sound better?
Let him know that you know he was lying and ask him why. Approach him carefully, let him know that you still want to be together but you want complete honesty. Men often take conversations like this as criticism so tread lightly.
Good luck!
2007-02-25 05:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to bring these "lies" up to him, and not let them slide. Why? "cause if he thinks he can get away with it now, what about later? Please bring it up to him in a nice way, not angrily. Take care.
2007-02-25 05:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront them straight away.Don't let it go as this is being deceitful.
2007-02-25 05:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by fuzzbee_99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is not a serious lie then ok...
2007-02-25 05:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by ee2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋