told my husband that i dont know how to raise children and he should leave me just bcuz my 2 yr old gets into things from time to time...she is always putting me down as a wife and mother and it frustrates me and hurts me last time I was at her house I took our daughter and left.....my husband called my cell phone saying i was childish isnt leavin for a bit better than smackin the piss outta her...
2007-02-24 20:56:06 · 4 answers · asked by shorty. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What is more important is the thoughts of your husband on the manner you are raising your daughter. Your husband, and your daughter are your family. Anyone else is outside. The main question you should focus is how do your do you husband feel about your parenting?
Nevermine the statement of you being childish because of your mother-in-law. Hey remember she don't any authority on you and your family. Its just her words that's you are allowing to bring you down. Pls, focus on raising your family, not any out side opinions.
You will never find peace in your own home if you allow her bad-mouthing gets to you! If it does bother you, you must then question your own ability as a mother!
If not, drop her thoughts and concentrate on your family. Your husband words should be only consideration you should pay attention to. You don't own any explanation to your mother-in-law and feel you have stay on the defense for the rest of your life.
Your mother-in-law goes according to your program, not the other way around! Don't her hate, but pray for her!
God Bless
2007-02-24 21:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by tony 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Shorty, Your husband needs to support you when his mother is attacting you as a wife and mother. I would of done the same thing you did about leaving. You are not the one being childish,it's your husband. He sounds like a real mama's boy and this is TROUBLE. He will always side with MAMA,and always let you down and call you childish when you are not. I would have a long talk with your husband,and tell him how all of this makes you feel. Then take it from there. Good Luck My Friend.
Clowmy
2007-02-25 05:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a mother-in-law is tough. You have to trust inexperienced people to raise your grandchildren. She really is out of line for trying to come between you. More than likely she'll alienate her son.
My advice? Without getting defensive ask your husband his opinion of your parenting skills. Then regardless of the answer suggest that the two of you go to parenting classes to improve your skills for the baby's sake and also so you'll learn how to kindly give grandma some appropriate boundaries. Go without him if he doesn't want to attend. You'll get good advice from the other parents as well.
2007-02-25 05:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by Californiamama 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't go back there. what would be the point? don't put yourself in a position where it could happen again. and shame on your husband for telling you what his mother said. if he couldn't stand up to her then he should have kept it to himself. stand your ground. if you husband doesn't like it-too damn bad.
2007-02-25 16:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋