Pregnant At 14?

Question

Say someone I knew was pregnant, and she didn't know how or if she should tell her parents. If you had a 14 year old kid that said she was pregnant, what would you think, but what if that girl had also told you a week before she was lesbian, and you were already mad.

Feel free to be rude, it's online it doesnt bother me, if you want to be imature thats your choice.

Sorry, i should have said "pretend you were homophobic "

Answer 1

wow. well this girl is way to young to have a baby!!! If I was your parents, I would be quite angry... because they are going to end up having to take care of the baby! But, if I was the parent, I would also eventually get over my anger and love the child anyway.

This is a lot to throw at your parents all at once! So just expect a lot of anger from them. You're not going to get any less. You must take responsibility, be honest with your parents, and grow up way ahead of your time.

Yes you should tell your parents.
I would probably take the chicken way out and write them a letter.

Answer 2

I am assuming this "person" is you. If not I am terribly sorry to assume such a thing. However, 14 is too young to become pregnant let alone have sex. Whoever this person is apparently has no reality of her identity, one day she's a lesbian the next day she's pregnant. First of all, if I had a daughter who was that age ( which I don't, I am a mom of three boys ) it would be hard for me to accept the fact that she's pregnant. The lesbian thing I could handle. The first thing I would do is take my daughter to the doctors, make sure she is pregnant and then make an appt for some counseling. She would have a huge decision to make. I would have no choice but to stand by whatever decision she made, as she would be my daughter right? Don't be afraid to upset your parents. Any parent would be upset and it happens everyday. Just remember your parents love you no matter what and they always will. Just get some help, and take care of yourself.

Answer 3

Sounds like someone is confused, and also in a predicament. Here's the deal. Your parents (or your friends, if that is really the story), will be upset. If you are at all uneasy about talking to them (which is apparent due to you asking here), get over it. They love you no matter what. They will be upset to begin with, but you need to tell them. Your baby has certain needs, ie: prenatal vitamins to obtain the necessary nutrients that your body may not be able to give enough of now.

There are other options here as well. Abortion is a difficult thing, emotionally and physically. While it is your choice, there are others. You can raise baby your self, however, at 14, you have your ENTIRE life ahead of you. Think of your life, who you want to be, how you want to live. A baby is a HUGE responsibility, and at 14, you are just not prepared to raise a child.

Have you thought about adoption? Call local agencies in your area. They will give you advice, GOOD ADVICE, and also, some have programs where they can assist you if you do not have medical insurance, etc. Not to mention the fact that you would be saving a life (your childs), and also, making a couples dream come true in starting a family.

Talk to your parents. They will forgive you in time, I promise.

Answer 4

Well if my daughter told me this, I would be very confused. Unless, like Colleen mentioned, the 14 yr. old was purposely trying to become pregnant, it would definitly confuse me as to how it happened in the first place if she only a week before told me she was a lesbian. Otherwise, I would make her and I do some intense research together on her options, let her choose for herself, and support her whatever she decides.

However, if the girls' parents are angry about her sexual orientation, then they do not seem very open-minded or accepting and may not be very understanding about the fact that she is now pregnant either. She should still definitly tell her parents either way, or if that is not an option confide in a very close, responsible adult to help her. If she is mature enough to have sex, she is mature enough to deal responsibly with the consequences.

Answer 5

If it were my daughter. I hope that I would have instilled the values to try and not have sex before she was 18. Nothing against whoever this person may be. But I would not be mad at her because then she would feel very alone and there is nothing worse than being alone when you really need someone. Then I would make sure that she got good prenatal care and understood that if she keeps the baby she is going to take care of it. I w ould help her of course but she would do it. Second off I would never be mad at my child for their sexual orientation. Whether I believe in it or not I would still support them %100 percent of the way. As long as they are happy and treated the right way what should it matter?

Answer 6

If my 14 year old daughter came up to me and told me she was pregnant i would probably be upset more than anything because i would know the pain she gonna have to go through especially if the father of the child would not be in the picture but if she had told me a week before she was lesbian the first thing i would do is ask her what she is lesbian,pregnant,or bi because u cant be all three then i would have to just deal with whatever the answer was but i really don't know as a mother but i would know from personal experience cause my 14 yr old sister in-law got pregnant at 14 and it is hard I'm 19 and my son is 6 months and its hard for me but anyway id much rather my daughter be pregnant than lesbian but it her life not mine so i would respect that!

Answer 7

She'd be my child, I'd love her no matter what. I'd be angry that she was irresponisble but i'd still have to support her in whatever decision she made, whether it be keep the baby or get rid of it. sorry i can't pretend to be homophobic, i wouldn't be mad about that. I wouldn't particularly take her saying she was a lesbian as gospel because she's 14 and she doesn't really know herself yet.

Some people should know that lesbians have the ability to get pregnant, just because she has a different sexual preference doesn't take away her ovaries, her menstrual cycle, so physically it is possible, there's also such thing as being bi.

My daughter would obviously be confused, so i'd try to get her help, she needs to work out who she is.

Answer 8

Ignore some of the sickos's on this site. Firstly, I would be upset if my daughter told me she was pregnant at 14, but as a father I love my daughter and I know how scared she must be feeling.

Your friends parents might be mad but thats to be expected. If her parents are punative then thats a diferrent matter. Just one last thing, if my daughter tells me she's a lesbian it wouldn't bother me as I love her and always will whatever she does.

I would also check out if she's telling you a few fibs though.

Answer 9

Uh, is it you? Well this "person" should tell their parent or school counclor. They could be mad at first, but fter that a new baby is a gift to the world and so is comign out. However, if you- I mean your friend- really is lesbian, she shoudln't be pregnant. And, your parents- I mean your friend parents- should be glad that the girl is coming out and not hiding her true self. But they could be a little mad, but they should support her bacause of the baby. But thye will prbably be mad because she told theme she was lesbian and then had sex with a boy.

Answer 10

first thing my child's sexual orientation would not make me angry they are who they are and i can not change that and neither can they i believe that my parents had no right to tell me how i could and could not date and the same goes to me with my kids

if my daughter came and told me she was pregnant i would help her though it and pay all the bills she would continue to go to school and i would raise the baby

but that would not happen to my daughter because as soon as she told me she was sexually active i put her on the pill so that would not happen and my boys have condoms so they will not get anyone pregnant

i have spent the time teaching my kids about sex and pregnancy and birth control so that they would be responsible

my daughter lost her virginity at 16 my oldest son at 16 and my middle son at 15 my children and i talk openly about sex and always have that way they know they can come to me with anything and i will be there for them