I am a 22 year old VIRGIN by choice, and I was planning to wait until marriage to have sex, but lately I have been thinking about throwing this plan out the window, because being a virgin is really starting to suck :( I don't think I will settle down for a very long time and I don't plan on being a virgin when I am like 35 !
Questions:
1. Are you a virgin ?
2. If you ARE a virgin, why are you a virgin and do you plan to wait until marriage ?
3. If you ARE NOT a virgin, are you happy you aren't or do you wish you were ?
4. Should I wait to have sex until I get married, and why ?
Reasons I hate being a virgin:
-I have been dating a really hot German guy (Enough said)
-Some(alot) of people think I am a prude
-I probably won't marry a virgin, so its not really fair that I waited and he probably didn't
-Wouldn't it be boring to have sex with only one person during your entire life ?!
Thank you for your help :)
2007-02-24 20:50:38 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not waiting for religious reasons, just so you know.
2007-02-24 20:57:09 · update #1
What if I die a virgin...
2007-02-24 21:00:55 · update #2
I am 24 and virgin by choice.I do have dreams and urges even my man has asked me how do i control them for so long.He loves that im a virgin lol and trust me when u find ur true love and settle down ull also feel it was right and ur man will love u alot for it,Yes being a virgin i plan to wait till my marriage i want to gift it to him.You should wait till marriage ur a virgin now its best gift u can give the man u love theres nothing to top it and if it gets that hard just release it urself or make out dont go all the way.Remain a virgin till marriage uve come so far please think about it.Its really hard to find girls like u today i thought i was the only virgin the way everyone isnt today im 24.
2007-02-24 20:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a virgin, didn't wait, and not going to advise you to wait or not, but would like to throw a few things out for you to think about --
Being hot has nothing to do with whether a guy is a good lover -- it is a matter of equipment, ability, consideration, & other factors. Sometime guys who are not "as hot" try harder.
Being in love really does make it better. Having sex with someone who does not respect you can be a degrading, emotionally painful thing.
What makes sex "boring" is when it becomes routine. Keeping it fresh, and exciting has nothing to do with number of partners.
Fairness factor -- so you don't wait -- will it be fair if he's had 3 lovers and you've had 20 or he's had a hundred and you've had 5. Fairness is only applicable if has expectations for you that he doesn't live by.
Who cares if people think you are a prude. You may meet someone who thinks you are a prude if you don't have a threesome or participate in S&M or anything. Are you going to do those things because of that?
2007-02-25 05:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Yup
2.Well I'm currently waiting for the right person and no I not waiting until marriage that's crazy
3.I'm not happy it sux!
4.No, It's prolly awesome.
If your afraid of having kids, which is the more likely of
scenarios, you shouldn't. I presume your a woman so all i need
to tell you is that a guy DOES NOT want kids. Don't screw too much. and MAKE SURE the guy has a condom and you have
taken your respective birth-control and everything should be fine.
If you just don't want to screw because you think it's wrong, you're wrong. It's awesome and you will regret waiting. I'm not saying you HAVE to listen to me but, ya know it's in our primal instinct. If you don't do EVERY TIME you get a chance you will break while you are married. you will do it with another person regrettably because it's new. So I don't think you want a failed relationship, do you? Also you don't want to look like an idiot with your husband and it being your "first-time." The Guy will be severely disappointed. and on top of that I don't think guys are up for waiting until after marriage. before marriage, you should party like you never have.
2007-02-25 05:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
please post your reasons that you love being a virgin as well. because i personally do not see an up side to waiting. i know plenty of religious people who have had premarital sex and still plan to go to heaven.
i'm not a virgin and would not want to be one. i think you'd be depriving yourself if you only had sex with one person in your life. and then what if that one person isn't even good? you could go your entire life not knowing what sex really could be, or experience a partner-induced orgasm for that matter. what if you wait to get married, and then 10 years into the marriage you realize you want to find out what you've missed. isn't it better to get it out of your system before you take your wedding vows? safe sex is always important. i think you should do whatever makes you happy... not what others think will make you a better person.
2007-02-25 05:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by hunting wabbit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people think you're a prude? Do you go around telling everyone you're a virgin? It's no one's business but your own! As is the decision to have sex.. it's very personal, and at your age you should be able to make up your own mind on the issue. If you have decided that it's time... then go for it! So long as you aren't doing it because you think it's expected of you or for any other reason than because YOU want to do it! But please.. make it a conscious decision and be prepared.. it is NOT romantic to get 'swept away in the moment' and wind up pregnant or with an STD because of it!
2007-02-25 04:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by endorable 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i am 18, male, and I am virgin. I am kind of in the same situation as you. I was always thinking about saving it, but lately I have been starting to doubt the idea. However, I doubt I would have the guts to break my long sought plan in the near future. Stay virgin! It makes you a more respectable person and more desirable too.
2007-02-25 04:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the choice is really urs to make u know!
till marriage being a virgin is good, but if ur feeling uncomforable being virgin now then i guess u should just change that thing since ur thinking of getting married after say 35 then i say go ahead experience the ultimate estacy, but be catuious, use contraceptives, choose the right guy, and have safe sex!
bye nd cheers!
2007-02-25 05:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by ruchika p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not a virgin. I don't really regret it because think about this ok. Say you wait until you are married and he does the same and then you figure out he has sexual dysfunction, or he is too small to please you sexually, or even worse your are just not into it. Wouldn't you rather know these things first. Now don't get me wrong I'm not saying to sleep around, but it is definetly good to have experience. And you will love it. Because no matter what anyone says the first time with anyone your husband or not it is really awkward and painful
2007-02-25 04:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
"saving yourself" until marriage simply is a sign of higher than average moral standards. (especially in today's society)
Statistically when you get married, you have a higher chance of that marriage lasting your lifetime if you do wait.
Only you can make this decision. But note that any man who calls you a prude for not giving in before marriage is simply wrong. If he truly loves you... he will be happy to respect your decision to wait.
2007-02-25 04:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
German Guys are the biggest perverts in the world. Anytime you see some really wierd porn on the web its from Germany.
I don't think your a prude. I will be happy to explain things to you if you come to Hawaii. Finally, the most important advice I can give you is , watch how your prospective boyfriend treats others. If he is rude and a smart *** to others , he will be that way to you too soon enough. "he may smile and smile yet be a villian."
2007-02-25 04:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by willberb 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋