I'm usually a quiet person, i don't know if its because i've had friends that left me during middleschool when they got a girlfriend, which left me to be a loner or if its just my personality or if im depressed?...i like to be alone with my thoughts and my worries about the future... when people speak to me i usually respond back but i can never carry a conversation... sometimes when people speak to me i dont even say anything because i don't know what to say.. i can talk to strangers and introduce myself but i can't carry on a conversation. i never know what to say or do sometimes. i've taken 1 or 2 iq tests that shows my iq is 100, and i guessed at some of those questions, therefore my iq must be lower.. they say that an iq of 70 is deemed mental retardation.. i feel as if i am retarted and incompetent because i am quiet and don't know what to say or do. is it possible that something is wrong with me or i am just naturally quiet and get stigmitized for it? am i retarted? ur opinions?
2007-02-24 19:57:51 · 10 answers · asked by quietdude666 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Same, I'm like you. I'm quite shy. But not around people I know quite well. People often mistake me as stupid or as a snob. But Im not i find it hard to carry out a conversation. Im not stupid and you aren't either.
But at the end of the day why should you have to prove yourself anybody else? just be yourself, not all of us can be loud and noisy.
2007-02-24 20:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you are absolutely not retarded. I can be quiet too but lately I find it's only when i'm nervous, worried or depressed. You may be one of the three. You should think about how much other people don't really care if your quiet or not. Confidence is everything. Believe you can do it and you will, this has really worked for me and i'm a better, not so quiet person for it. Tell yourself that you can do it. Actions speak louder than words. Oh and some tips for conversations. Ask questions like how are you, what are you doing this weekend, how was your weekend, as long as they apply to the conversation and then you will run into a subject that interests both of you. It's easy as pie from there. Good luck man, hope this helps.
2007-02-24 20:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mr.Steven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being quiet. Don't be too concerned about the IQ test results either. Being quiet is actually being smarter in the long run. People that talk to much are usually just talking nonsense. It is more important to listen than it is to talk. You probable dont talk much because you feel that you have nothing important to say. Dont worry about that if you are having a casual conversation, just keep the conversation light. Talk about the weather or sports or current events.
2007-02-24 20:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that Einstein would have scored low on an IQ test. I am quiet too, but I would like to think that I am not stupid. 100 is pretty normal depending on what test you take. talking can make you a little more comfortable articulating though. There is nothing wrong with likeing a little bit of you time. Try talking online or joining a group but don't force yourself into something you don't like to please others. Try to mingle, but do it on your own terms.
"It is better to be silent and thought a fool than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt." - Mark Twain
2007-02-24 20:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kelsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, IQ tests dont mean ****.
Secondly, no. Being quiet doesnt mean youre stupid. You might just have some communication problems or social problems. Nothing that cant be helped or solved.
Or you might just be a quiet person and theres nothing more to say.
2007-02-24 20:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus W. 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not retarded my daddy always told me to look out for the quiet ones cause you never know what they thinking ( you just a deep thinker and cant express yourself in words too good get you a friend to talk too and you will be fine with practice) Im just the oppisate i open mouth and insert foot
2007-02-24 20:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
your not stupid or retarded.
just shy maybe.
theres nothing wrong with that.
and i think if it really bothers you that much, work on it.
maybe you could try talking to people you are comfortable around.
or look in the mirror and try to keep a conversation going with yourself.
lol
idk. i could work. but like i said, try something!
2007-02-24 20:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by breeannabanana. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with being quite. and actually its people you have a habit of constantly opening their mouths that look like dumbasses. i would know it happens to me all the time.
2007-02-24 20:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by flamemaster_lang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Better to be quiet and thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt."
2007-02-24 21:28:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
is natural that's how i am so dont be worried about it.
Cheer up
2007-02-25 06:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by bensha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋