Does he have any rights if not on the birth certificate? He has smashed my car and held me down by the throat. i dont want to be a ***** by keeping the baby from him but he is truly psychotic....Please help
2007-02-24 19:17:10 · 9 answers · asked by Tara R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Please find a domestic violence hotline in the phone book in the morning and call them for help (preferably from a pay phone away from home where it's safe). If you can't find a number to call, ask at the courthouse -- they'll know because people come there for restraining orders.
You are going to have to flee when he is away from home to a safe shelter and then live on your own using public assistance if necessary for the first few years. Don't count on restraining orders to keep you safe, by the way -- if a violent ex-partner can find you, he can easily kill you, order or no order.
There are legal aid offices in most cities where, if you can't afford a lawyer, you can get free legal advice about child custody issues. If he is the actual father, and if he wants to claim paternity, he might get rights to visit the child. But given his history of violence, he might not. A lawyer can help you with that.
I think your first step is to flee to a safe house where he can't find you. Once you're in a save environment, you can plan your next move.
2007-02-24 19:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Investor 2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this were me I would file a restaining order against him for a while untill he can calm down and behave. I understand that you don't want to kep the baby from him but with his behavior I would serious consider his mental state of mind and think of the best interest of your baby he could hurt the baby. As far as I know if he is not on the bith certificate he really has no right's but I would contact a lawyer and ask question's.Protect you and your baby.Good luck
2007-02-24 19:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by iluvmy6girls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a surviver. My ex partner shot my dog and myself. He stalked me for years. You need to get a retraining order and file for a permanent injunction to keep him from ever bothering you or the kids. I don't know what state your in so call your local or state police immediatly. Tell them and make a report of all that has happened. They should be able to tell you what to do from there.
The injuction may not stop him. it might make it worse. try to contact your local abuse shelter for women and get out and disapear. This will not be easy for you. I know. But it will be better in the end. Please get help.
2007-02-24 19:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by Vinyard74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is not on the birth certificate he will have to go though court and prove paternity and you will have time to get all the police reports showing he is violent and abusive then you will get a layer and prove he is unfit to be around the baby
2007-02-24 20:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the cops let them know your stiuation and go from there. There is no way he can take your kids unless you let him have them alone and he kidnaps them. So dont let him see them it wont make you an a## i tmay save yours and their lives. But really go to court first before he gets a chance probably even then he still wont get them because he is dangerous. GOOD LUCK and congrats on getting away.
2007-02-25 08:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's threatening suicide in order to regulate you. enable his kin comprehend that he's pondering this and then pass on with your life. As for the abortion, do not do it. there's a lengthy waiting record for adoptable toddlers and your toddler ought to no longer conflict through and die because you obtain your self right into a nasty relationship. provide your toddler life and a loving kin.
2016-12-04 22:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have photo's and/or a order of protection? You will need evidence, nmowadays judges do not go on by our own words they also want to hear the mans side. Believe me I know.
2007-02-24 19:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by Support Breast Cancer Research 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this man is going to hurt you and possibly your baby.call the police it is not legal to beat woman.its not manly to beat women.go to court get him locked up.in the meantime go to a shelter or safe house,until it is sorted out.this cannot go on.
2007-02-24 19:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by fatdadslim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the baby is a real brat, a devil in the makingthan pass it on to him happily to torture him to death n insanity. but if he's an angel than sue your Ex. Believe me, the mother oftens win the case.
2007-02-24 19:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by Stann 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋