My daughter knowingly put her younger friend into a dangerous position by talking her into running away with her. My daughter is a chronic runaway, and nearly gets killed every time she runs. Her last run culminated in a warehouse fire that nearly killed her, and the time before that she was assaulted. Her friend is now in the hospital as a result of similar injuries to those my daughter always ends up with. My daughter, although threatened by a judge with time in juvenile hall every time, has never suffered legal consequenses for her actions and has not learned from her own mistakes. Something has to be done. It would probably save her life if we could teach her a lesson. She did know from past experience that running away to live on the streets is dangerous, and she willingly put her naive young friend in that position. If she wants to be free like an adult, she should suffer adult consequenses when she makes a bad decision.
2007-02-24 19:06:34 · 6 answers · asked by Lesley M 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Yes. I work at a Juvenile Detention Center. I would say behavioral clinic but the way it sounds it may be to late for that. She needs a little time in lock up, then some counseling on top of that. That is being reckless with someone Else's life, it is not just about them anymore!!! Most of the kids that come through here have been enabled by there parents to long. They just keep getting away & keep getting away with bad things for years then one day, something really bad will happen. Something you won't be able to fix for them!!! It's not hurting them, actually it is teaching them they area accountable for there own action. But I warn you, when they are in Juvie, the pleas and promises to straighten up will be unbearable & endless. You have to be strong, it is the same scam they have pulled hundreds of times before. If you can't be stron just stay away for a while! No phone calls, it will hurt you but remember you are really doing it for there own good. If you do not let it play out she will soon figure out the system and learn how to use it. They will act like there going to hurt themselves just to get out and into a behavorial center. I see it everyday. You must keep her in long enough to break her. I'm not trying to be cruel. . Just being straight with you....
2007-02-24 19:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your daughter needs is psychiatric counseling and not jail time. I'm a cop and I really do love to put people behind bars that deserve it, however, it sounds to me like your daughter needs to be evaluated further. I dont know your home life, is it good? Middle class, upper class, or poor? Why is she running away is the answer I'm looking for. Some kids seem to pull a reason out of thin air...because they feel they're old enough and way more mature than other kids their own age, however, when talking to them, they seem at a lower levell than the others...This could be the beginnings of a sociopath. But then again, there could be a very valid reason for her to runaway. I have not seen your homelife, and I cannot lump all runaways into the same class, so I would suggest figuring out why she's running away first and then have everything evaluated by a Dr.
2007-02-24 19:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by zebj25 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I cannot imagine the pain you must be going through--but you don't give an age here, and where are the other girls parents?Seems as if the court should see a pattern here--a pattern by a minor is cause for action--if not there is a problem with the system where you are--why the runaways--something wrong at home?? A wild child must be a hurtful thing for you and your family--sorry, but once a kid like that hits 18--in my book--bye bye
2007-02-24 19:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you almost 100%. I am glad that as a parent, you want what is best for your child, not what is most convenient for her. As for endangering her friend's life, it was a decision her friend made of her own free will. Sorry. Contact your local juvenile probation officer and see if he or she can help you in any way. Contact social services, or child protective services. Their job is not only to protect children from bad parents & environments but also to protect bad kids from themselves. They may also be able to direct you into a family counselling program to address your daughter's need for freedom.
2007-02-24 19:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by picture . . . perfect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes something should be done now. If soemthing is not done now she will end up being killed or a crimanal,possibly on drugs.I admire you for wanting to help your daughter.Alot of parents just ignore that there is even a problem.....I would talk to the police and maybe the judge if she is facing charges...There are homes and such that you can put her in as well.....Good luck to you~!
2007-02-24 19:12:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her on Maury! I've seen him do magic with kids that need some direction.
2007-02-24 19:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by churnin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋