Girls Only : What did I do wrong?

Question

I work at an office by day and run a hot spot night club by night,have a very active social life as well as having a boyfriend who I've been with for 9 months.He's always had an issue with how little he gets to see me and lately he's been complaining a lot that I never make time for us and that everything comes before him.Two days ago him and his best friend were in a car accident leaving him with a broken arm and a concussion.His friend wasn't so lucky and got quite a few broken bones but he's expected to make a full recovery.My boyfriend tried calling me once they got to the hospital but I was out partying and didn't get his voice mail until 18 hours later.Now he's dumped me saying he's had enough of taking last place on my list of priorities.Isn't he overreactng?My phone was set to vibrate and I couldn't have known he'd call.

Answer 1

Maybe you should get a life and stop partying so much. You're going to realize that all that partying you did was a total waste of your time and money. I partied hard for many many years with drugs and alcohol and was VERY active socially. And guess what. None of those people I partied with are my friends anymore, and most of them are still partying, they don't grow up, and they are idiots! It's a total waste of life don't even waste your precious time on that. Why wouldn't you spend time on him if you like the guy. If he's husband material or something like that why don't you put down the booze and start being mature..

18 hours is a long time. It would really hurt me deeply if I was hurt and my girlfriend didn't answer the phone. What if he was dying and he had to talk to you right then to say goodbye or that he loves you. Or what if he was scared or something?

You are a selfish person and I'm glad he dumped you, you really suck ass. You don't sound like you love him at all or even really care about him.

When I read your question, I don't sense any tenderness or compassion or any sort of feelings when you talk about him. So maybe it's for the best. He obviously needs someone who is emotionally attached to him and who will be there for him and you obviously can't deliver.

As I said before, I sense no love, or any feelings for this man when you speak of him so it's for the best. Maybe you should be single until you have time to devote to someone that you TRULY care about, and are not just with for sex or just so you aren't single.

Answer 2

Wow I would be very pist too. But at the same time it is RIDICULOUS .....because he obviously must know you run a hot spot night club at NIGHT! How could he dump you for that, its not like you wouldn't have cared. Tell him that you are sorry you didn't hear your phone with all honesty, if he doesn't forgive you then who cares, he really doesn't want to be with you and this was the perfect excuse to let you go.

Answer 3

first of all if you have a life style like the one you have then you should just have friends to enjoy. If your serios about him than you need to meet him half way. you can't have your cake and eat it too. Remember he has feelings too. What would you feel if you were in his place? Maybe you did have your phone on vib. but if you had better communication then you would know what goes on . That's if your interested enough. It's your call. You know how you want your life and whats excepted or not. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Yes and No. Depending on how much you love him and how old you are. I think he is over reacting by wanting to break up with you but he has a right to be upset, he should have let you two talk about it before he broke up with you. If he loves you, he should understand all your hard working. If he doesn't want to then you should find a man who would appriciate someone who works hard. But you should also have talked to him before 18 hours.

Answer 5

9 months, with a very active social life, and you 2 dont spend time together, and car accident when he wanted to talk to you. he just wanted some comforting words and not hearing from you, yeah, that's a sign of being dumped.

Answer 6

I don't go out parting when I have a serious boyfriend (well not so much I can't get my messeges for 18 hours). If you really cared that much about him, he would be able to contact you in an emergency. I think if you really cared that much for him you wouldn't party so hard and be so unavailble to him. Bad Girl!

Answer 7

yes you did something wrong.he wasnt at the top of your priorities.. you didnt seem to appriciate him. he told you about how he wasnt happy abotu not seeign you often. you could have changed but didn't. you dont seem to have the time for a relationship. he needed you most at the time of the car accident.. and you werent there to be with him. 18 hours? dont you check your phone more often? well he has moved on.. what would you do if you get back together? would you withdrawl from your social life? he told you he wasnt happy and you seemed to have ignored it....

Answer 8

i think he has the rite to be acting like that ..... he try to get ure attention long b4 ...but u seems too busy to be with him ... n with the incident , n u not responding to his calls , he finally erupted...i think its only so much a guy can take ....imagine ureself in his shoes ..how will u feel ? i truely believe that , no matter how busy a person is , if they truely wish to meet up or chat , they will have the time to do it ...its all abt time management n whether u truely , honestly , want to do it .

Answer 9

honestly id prolly react the same way he did. i meen think about it maybe you would to. either way it just really hurt him to know that you werent there when he wanted you to be.

Answer 10

it's like what he said, he thinks you don't have time for him - actions speak louder than words...