The obvious argument is that sharing a bed and sleeping together, even without sex, can lead to temptation. What about if you sleep in the same room but not together (separate beds, one person on the floor, etc)?
2007-02-24 18:52:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, that would be a bonding experience AND make you stronger for resisting temptation together
2007-02-24 18:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by beth l 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through this same thing when my husband and I were dating. It is very intimate to sleep together without having sex. But from personal experience, it's almost impossible to resist the temptation. I don't think it is actually a sin if you are able to, but it makes it very hard. Trying the seperate beds thing can help, but then what is the point, unless you have to share a room on a trip or something like that, which I understand.
I don't think God's out to get every little thing you do. He made rules for a reason. Sex without marriage is wrong. He said He would always provide a way out of temptation, so if you have to share a room, realize that if temptation gets too hard to bare, you need to get out of the room.
2007-02-25 02:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by queenB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer, if you're Catholic, is to go ask a priest. Seriously. Ask in a confessional if you prefer.
I'm betting, though, that any clergy would say that you should not, though their answer as to whether or not it is a sin may vary. Though it would help in advice-giving to know the affected persons' ages, in general I would not recommend sleeping together if you don't want to or plan to have sex. Yes, it's partially a matter of temptation, and partially a matter of opportunity.
Most of all, if you're even asking, you are obviously concerned not only about the potential sin, but also have a desire not to have sex at this time. If that's the case, why even put yourself in that position? If you're asking because it happened, I wouldn't worry about it; it's done, in the past.
Sex can wait, and that itself is a good and noble goal. There ought not be any rush. If you're considering sex - or even thinking/fearing that it may happen even without you planning it - I would suggest that you think carefully about it, and if you're a religious sort (which it sounds as if you are), pray about it. I don't mean to sound preachy, but that's possibly the best thing you can do. God will listen; God will guide you.
Keep the Faith and Fight the Good Fight.
2007-02-25 03:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by VigilancePrime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its still tempting for both of you, thats the make up of men around women and visa versa. Its natural, but christianity doesn't encourage temptation by allowing boyfriends and girlfriends to sleep in the same bed and expect nothing to happen that is a win lose situation don't you think?
Either way at the end of the day everyone knows what they are capable of, specially in a situation like that, whether you think you are in control or not.
I think its better to avoid unplanned situations under these circumstances.
2007-02-25 03:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by saynhope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catholic doctrine frowns on this type of behavior because of the temptation. However, it really depends on your motives. It wouldn't be considered a sin if the situation is unavoidable, or if you are watching tv or something and fall asleep. If you know in your heart that you are sharing a bed just to sleep or even cuddle without temptation then you are in the clear. But be honest, does that ever happen in real life?
2007-02-25 03:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by 65Cobra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as long as you dont tempt him too much, i mean if your wearing nothing but a bra and thong, of course theres going to be temptation, but if your wearing regular clothes then nothing will happen, most of the time. Its also all about control, if you know whats right to you and him also, then it would rid the temptation all together.
2007-02-25 02:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by stewie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, as long as ur not creeping to the other bed, and yes, it is possible to sleep in the same bed and not have sex.
but both of you have to be on the same terms to not creep, that's all it takes.
temptation can sure be a Beeatch
2007-02-25 03:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by QsD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happened in a sexual play
2007-02-25 02:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋