2007-02-24 18:38:22 · 18 answers · asked by Phil 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No, it would not be rude
2007-02-24 18:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by Roxy 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
YES it would be rude! Why don't you ask your boss why she has such strange taste in clothing, and your IT guy why he still doesn't have any facial hair? Maybe he's very shy (my husband is); perhaps his religious beliefs prevent him from interacting with people outside his faith; maybe he hates all of you and is just biding his time in that h*llhole until a better offer comes along. Instead, try to draw him out. Ask him to go to lunch with you and some of your other co-workers sometime. Offer to get him some coffee next time you make a fresh pot, and make a point of remembering how he takes it, so you can make it that way for him the next time. Ask him what he did over the weekend or on his day off. But don't just ask him why he's so silent.
2007-02-25 02:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Angela M 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You might just talk to him occasionally. Maybe he's shy or maybe he's a good worker that keeps working instead of gossiping on company time. It might be awkward to ask him point blank how come he never talks. Yes, it would be rude. A talkative person isn't necessarily a nice person. And some quiet ppl are actually very nice.
2007-02-25 03:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by Santa C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother asking him that question, always avoid conflict -especially at work. You & anyone else do not need to know why he doesn't talk to anyone, remember that you are at WORK, you are there to WORK, you don't need to worry about who's not talkin' to whom. Just go to work, make your money & go home. Why don't you just ask him if he wants to come over & join you for lunch one day? or....if you ever see him sitting alone for lunch, just go over to him & ask him if he minds you sitting there with him? Don't judge him too quick because you don't know him. He could be just a quiet person or maybe he just likes to be alone. There is WORK to focus on since ya'll are at work, right? guaranteed that he doesn't care about socializing & so should you, - you need focus on your work, not other people, but if it bothers you that bad & you want to talk to him then maybe you need to start thinking about getting to know him before you judge him. Don't be so gossipy because that's exactly what managers will notice & don't like you for it. It's also one of the things that create enemies in the work place & can get your FIRED.
2007-02-25 02:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be rude to ask him why he doesn't talk to anyone. But it wouldn't be rude of you to strike up a conversation with him. He may be shy or maybe--he just enjoys being to himself. Who knows, you could be the voice (and smiling face) that makes his day. And what do you have to lose?
2007-02-25 03:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by heathboy27 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about you just start talking with him nonchalantly?
You don't ask a person like him "Why aren't you talking to us?"
That seems boorish and childlike.
As an adult, you try to incorporate him in conversations. Keep his interests in mind as you talk. Ask his opinion on things. Even if he doesn't answer the first few times, keep asking, Nicely. Eventually, he will start talking to you and then more people as well.
2007-02-25 02:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by cyancat 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hardly talk to anyone it's probably nothing personal he's probably just shy and doesn't know what to say I don't think it'd be rude just try and make conversation with him he probably will talk back. He might start talking if you try talking to him regularly just let him get to know you.
2007-02-25 02:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by ~jess~ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to talk that's his business and no one elses. Folks are always so nosey. He's better off than the lip runners because flapping gums is what causes trouble at work and at home.
2007-02-25 02:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
asking someone, "why don't you ever talk" or "whatcha thinking" is one of the most annoying questions you can ask. if he had something to say he would probably say it, and if he decides to keep his observations to himself then you probably don't want to hear it. but i agree with the other pplz too, just strike up a conversation.
2007-02-26 11:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by n8iv_rara_avis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Shy people really hate it when people hound them about their reasons for not talking. Instead of asking him why he won't talk.. how about trying to start a conversation with him? Don't be a jerk and put him on the spot. How would you like it if someone asked why you were so ugly?
2007-02-25 02:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by Spelling_Cop 1 · 10⤊ 1⤋
It would not be considered rude to start a conversation with him.
2007-02-25 02:57:43 · answer #11 · answered by Polynomial 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋