If God does not approve of homosexuality ... then what does a person who thinks they might be homosexual do? I have homosexual thoughts, and I want to be with another man but I know that one day, I would like to marry a woman and have our own children.
But if I am sexually attracted to men ... how to I change that? I can't marry a woman and be not be sexually attracted to her. If I see a naked woman I do not get turned on, but if I see a naked man I will. Most of the time, the Christians that are against homosexuality only talk about how horrible it is, and how it's not what God wants. But what if a homosexual person WANTS to do what Christians say is right? What do the Christians tell that person to do?
Since I am a homosexual person who wants to change, can you tell me what to do? Or is it true that I cannot change my sexual orientation and I will still end up in hell?
2007-02-24 18:22:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm not a "Christian against homosexualiy," but for that reason I'm actually at liberty to tell you the truth.
You can't change your sexuality. Nor should you want to. Whatever your orientation, if you do believe in God, you're obviously that way because God made you that way. It's all-too-human ignorance and bigotry that ascribes to God the will to send people to Hell simply for being as He created them.
I hope you can understand that if your religion would have you believe otherwise, your religion is wrong. I hope you don't turn their unfortunate misunderstanding inwards on yourself. People on these boards will encourage you to, but they don't know what they're talking about. I'm sure you know these feelings aren't just going to go away.
If you try to make yourself into something you're not just because certain narrow-minded jerks can't understand what you are, you're going to live a miserable, unfulfilled life. But it doesn't have to be that way. Accept yourself, and accept that some people won't understand - but plenty of others will. What people appreciate and respect more than anything else is honesty.
2007-02-24 18:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by jonjon418 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
hey there,
First of all I just want you to know that thinking about being with someone of the same sex isn't a sin, I don't know of anywhere where it specifically says that you can't do that. Anyways I also want you to think about this, christianaty comes from thousands of years ago right? So for a long time it was only passed down through word of mouth right?
So what happens whe you tell your best friend something, and they tell their friend and another and by the time it gets back to you it is completely different that what it originated as. So if the bible was verbally told to each other ther are lots of glitches before it was recorded onto paper. then there is that whole matter of translation. No language is perfectlly translated so is the copy that we posess really the true copy.
Just go with what your body says, if homosexually is so bad then why are so many people gay and lesbians. I think everyone has bisexual thoughts if not pure gay ones I know I do, I have been with a few women and don't feel bad about it at all. I dont think that you should either. You are only human and dont let what other people think run your life.
Christians aren't suppose to judge (even though most of them do) so they should still support you no matter what. If the people closest to you really love and care about you it shouldn't bother them. Good luck with this all and just remember do what ever makes you happy. You never know you may just end up with a man because you fall in love. We never know who we will fall in love with man or woman.
2007-02-24 18:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by catlins_playhouse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, im not gay, but i see where u are coming from. Im also a christian, but im not hardcore about it. i actually believe that as long as you are a good person, then you will be somehow rewarded someday. I'll admit, im a little homo-phobic. but i have had a couple friends that were gay, and they are good, god-fearing people. though i never asked them how they felt about the whole religious side of it, I just always assumed that they were comfortable being the way they were. I kind of look at it like this. If you are really homosexual, but you feel that you need to change to escape hell, then I dont think that is right. I think maybe it's a challenge by god or whatever entity is in control. A challenge by god for u to become secure with yourself, and become a good person.
2007-02-24 18:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a complex issue (so I sent you an email). Some gay men have been able to become heterosexual, but this seems to be rare. Most homosexuals are not able to switch and this often causes a lot of pain. Some very famous Christians struggled with homosexuality, one being the Catholic writer Henri Nouwen. He chose to remain celebate and this is a path many others have taken.
I don't think your sexual orientation alone will separate you from God, if in fact you are seeking his will. You may or may not be able to change the way you feel about men, but allow yourself to be true to God and avoid letting the rhetoric of Christian fundamentalists drive you from the faith entirely. Seek those who care about you, ignore those who don't.
2007-02-24 18:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by Aspurtaime Dog Sneeze 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can sympathise with you. I can not tell you what to do but only give you advise. I will not tell you to change your believes either.
Take into account many of the other world religions that tell their followers that people who worship other religions will go to hell (or its equivialant)because theirs is the only correct one to life after death. Also consider how many religions are relative in nature, in that man is to be good ect, ect...
With my experiences religion is a matter of opinion, or ones social conditioning. Where ever you go there will be people who agree with you and those who disagree but aslong as you are confident in what you decide to do nothing can hamper you. Which is to say that chrisitanity is yours to disiper and how literal you want to go by it. There are actually doctors who will tell you that homosexualtiy is an psychological illness and there will be homophobic people who will judge you.
The notion that God doesnt give salvation to gay and lesian people is strange because we all have unconious desires that are often out of our control. In addition to this, it can be dangerous to try to "modify" your unconsious mind as it may lead to some form of deprivation if you try to go straight.
What if a woman is genaticly born with a lot of testosterone and grows up with many brothers? If she were to be a lesbian(which in such a situation would be more like then not) would God hold that against her? For was it not God who put her in such a situation? Is God cruel? What is so "sinister" about homosexuality?
Life, religion/spirituality, your own being. All these things are that which we much come to terms with and understand. I dont think one should compensate for another. Ones sexuality is a deep rooted aspect of their being. This is all my opinion of course.
All and all, only you can decide,
but for the record.... I'm gay.
2007-02-24 19:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by rayman_7575 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What most Christians forget is that they also sin. Homosexuality is the same as lying or adultry or anger or cursing. It is all sin against Father God. To change is done the same way for all other sins. First be honestly and earnestly sorry and accept Jesus Christ as savior. Then on a daily basis, give this sin to Jesus. Study the Word and do not think about sinning. Be determined not to and do not expose yourself to the temptation. When you fail and you probably will at times, repent to the Father in Jesus name. If you will be honest with Father God, He will take care of your problem. And always remember that He is the one who takes care of it, we can do no right as our old sin self. Hell is not for people who seek the righteousness of Father God.
2007-02-24 18:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by martha d 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm under no obligation to be agreeable to the delusions of people who claim they were born gay. There's no such science that can prove people are born either way. It's a behavior, not a physical condition.
Finding fault with God because of a behavior that you choose is hateful at face value and demonstrates that you can't be trusted to think clearly.
I am sexually attracted to every young woman in my college who looks halfway descent. Do I blame God for making me a horndog? Do I blame him for making me want to commit adultery against my wife? Do I try to force my new lustful lifestyle on every other American in the country by having legislation passed that favors me just because I'm clever enough to figure out a good way to word my argument?
No, I don't, and neither should you. It's called emotional blackmail, and the issue is between you and God, not us. It's not an excuse to hate people and find fault with them, it's just something you have to deal with.
(In case you were wondering, the Bible condemns adultery far more than it does homosexuality.)
2007-02-24 18:36:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You can change. If you were born again God would change you. No one is born a homosexual. It is a choice. If someone says they are born homosexual, then what they are saying is that if a kid steals when he is a child and continues it as an adult, he should not go to jail because he was born with it. In the Bible it clearly tells about the lake of fire and who will be in it. I am sure you have read it, and God does mean it. I would rather refrain from sex my whole life rather than let something like sex send me to hell. Just pray and become saved. It will change you alot. Here is a website that tells alot about homosexuals and the kind of answers you are seeking.
http://www.jesus-is-savior.com
2007-02-24 18:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by Dakota Lynn Takes Gun 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
It does clearly state in the Bible that it is a sin and to kill homosexuals. No offense if you are gay but I think it's more like God doesn't create you gay just as he doesn't make some one autistic or mentally challenged. Not to say i match gays with the handicapped. It is suggesting not to have sex with men and have control. Look up Father Mychal Judge, who was a famous gay priest, but never had sex.
2007-02-24 18:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by Ans2003 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Seek God's Spirit, which always leads us towards righteousness and away from sin. Sure you may still have thoughts caused by your sinful nature, but so long as you seek God's help in resisting it, he will not forsake us when we try earnestly to follow him. The only way you can hope to do away with your sinful desires is to get closer to God's Spirit. The closer you get, the less sin will have a grasp on you.
2007-02-24 18:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋