Would you feel uncomfortable if your girlfriend was best friends with a guy instead of a girl? Would you feel as if there is competition between you two?
2007-02-24 17:59:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I'd feel a bit uncomfortable, but the degree to which I'd feel uncomfortable would be predicated on what the type of relationship was between my girlfriend and her best friend. If they'd been friends forever and it pre-dated our relationship then I really wouldn't be worried. But, if they started hanging out, after I had started going out with her, then I'd worry about the whole competitive thing.
2007-02-24 18:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by Knox Senior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hells yeah! sorry sis but yeah guys no matter how Mr Perfect they may seem are going to be jelous cuase of the sex factor they know that your best guy friend is goign to always want sex its nature. (you really need to watch when harry met sally)
Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.
Harry Burns: Would you like to have dinner?... Just friends.
Sally Albright: I thought you didn't believe men and women could be friends.
Harry Burns: When did I say that?
Sally Albright: On the ride to New York.
Harry Burns: No, no, no, I never said that... Yes, that's right, they can't be friends. Unless both of them are involved with other people, then they can... This is an amendment to the earlier rule. If the two people are in relationships, the pressure of possible involvement is lifted... That doesn't work either, because what happens then is, the person you're involved with can't understand why you need to be friends with the person you're just friends with. Like it means something is missing from the relationship and why do you have to go outside to get it? And when you say "No, no, no it's not true, nothing is missing from the relationship," the person you're involved with then accuses you of being secretly attracted to the person you're just friends with, which you probably are. I mean, come on, who the hell are we kidding, let's face it. Which brings us back to the earlier rule before the amendment, which is men and women can't be friends.
2007-02-25 02:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by BlizzardRun07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in this situation right now...
my girlfriend has a best friend who is a guy. they've known each other for a really long time and hang out sometimes when we aren't. i'm friends with him, but i can always sense some kind of hostility/competition between us. he told her that he loved her a while back...not just as a friend but "like that" and he continues to to this day but she keeps telling him that they would never work because she doesn't feel the same.
and yes, i feel a little uncomfortable when they hang out because i feel like she has more fun with him. he's a really spontaneous and hyper kind of guy and i'm more mellow and laid back...it's kind of depressing sometimes, but she assures me that nothing is between them except friendship, and i trust her more than i trust anyone else.
2007-02-25 02:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by asphyxia derailed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, unless you act like a girl who is constantly in need of male attention---touching and other stuff that is out of place and unnecessary. I don't compete with a guy or a girl in these cases--if you are with me, and not acting like it--it is a disrespect--and disrespectful people don't deserve anything except the door--and out you would go. Girlfriends and wives work with guys all day---no biggie--but you see the ones that just have to cling and touch and do all the rest of that needless stuff--any guy has to notice them--if this is you and your friend---I would be gone--go have a life with him if you want him as a friend so bad.
2007-02-25 02:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that situation twice,the first time proved to be a bad situation,but I kept an open mind the next time.The second time proved to be a bad situation also.I've come to the conclusion that it takes TWO ver unique people to have that type of situation work long term
2007-02-25 02:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by Fire Marshall Bill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To simply state it, most guys would not like it at all. I dont know why we act this way, but we do. Im probally guessing that guys who really appreciate having a girlfriend are a little bit over protective.
2007-02-25 02:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by stewie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask yourself the same question ( almost) would it bother you if your b/f's best friend was a girl and they chatted and hung out all the time. always put yourself in the place of the person you want to accept something, if you can honestly answer it wouldn't bother you then it shouldn't bother them. but if you think about it enough and find it isn't something you could live with don't ask others to.
2007-02-25 02:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it'd depend on who the people are. I'd personally want to meet the guy and see how he is ..in order to determine if he is competition or not..
2007-02-25 02:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by oneal1845 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the best friend and belive me even though it is stricly platonic they fight all the time about it. I see his point but I'm not going to stop being friends with her.
2007-02-25 02:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by zuse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Yes definitely.. I would really feel jealous and get envy... especially if i can see the guy flirting with my GF(it really happens) i would feel angry and feel like knocking him out
2007-02-25 02:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by idol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋