Here is the deal. My boyfriend screwed this girl many years ago and she cheated on her boyfriend with him. Now that girl has a crazy mest up boyfriend who cheated on her now! She came crying to my boyfriend about what her man did, he's all concerned and trying to help her out like a good friend he says he is. I'm so confused....well eventually I met her and she was super nice! I still don't trust her, lately he's been telling me that he's going out places with her that I can't enter since i'm not 21. I'm trying to play it cool and be relaxed and trust him. Seems like his priority is to be such a good friend, and he's forgetting about being a good boyfriend. Today he didn't call me, and I decided to call and he said oh "hey babe I just finish dropping of a friend" note: he didn't say her name or gender. What the hell is going on?
2007-02-24 17:53:05 · 12 answers · asked by Girlwoman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do not sit back and let him make a fool of you. He's more concerned about her and you deserve better! Dump him and find someone that will not go to clubs with a girl knowing you can't enter! I would not put up with that at all!
2007-02-24 17:58:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be worried. Since you're not 21, you're bf probly isn't much older, so "many years ago" really can't be that long ago. He probly is trying to just be a friend, and she probly is not intending to take him away from you, but when they spend enough time together that old spark will turn into a new flame, and you will be faced with a tough decision.
Can you prevent it? Maybe, maybe not. If they keep excluding you it's going to be awfully hard for you to have any influence over his screwdriver. But if you demand that he not help this girl, he may think he has more of a reason to fool around.
What you might want to try is to become closer to her than he is. The old saying is keep your friends close and your enemies closer. This would give you an in to their little club. You may not need to be her bestest friend ever, but if you can get her to come to you before she goes to him, she will probly not want to cheat with him. Or you could both be her support.
I would invite her out for dinner and try to get the convo started on her love life problems. If she takes the bait you can give her advice, let her cry on your shoulder. Then suggest that just you and she go out together (or at worst the 3 of you) and try to make that kind of arragement more important to her than drinking at some club with your guy. You said she's super nice anyway so she might make a good friend for you.
2007-02-25 02:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to be 21 when the legal age is 18? or is that just in Australia we r 18? Oh and dump the ******** he dun deserve you
2007-02-25 02:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why under earth would she want to take your man places that requires one to be over 21? Grab the broom stick and sweep the MFR out.
2007-02-25 01:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's most likelty cheating on you. I'm assuming he's older than you and that this girl is roughly the same age as he is. In this case he was simple dating you for the fun of it now he's most likely bored and looking for something else. I'd confront him ask him wtf is going on if he says none of your buisness, give him one more shot. If that doesnt work drop the whole mess and move on.
2007-02-25 02:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by Mike C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to just back way up and away from this whole situation. It's too weird and F'ed up. Life's complicated enough without bringin in unnecessary drama like that.
2007-02-25 01:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's bad news. Leave him ASAP. Us girls need to leave these situations and demand better for ourselves in order to send the message to men that this kind of behavior is unacceptable. It looks like he has all the power in this relationship and your only weapon against his control is you walking out the door.
2007-02-25 03:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes a player. I can understand that they are still friends but, hes taking her places? Now that's a player.
2007-02-25 02:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by Don't Know 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it looks like a duck and it quacks like a duck ...
You're young. Move on.
2007-02-25 01:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by Behaviorist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just dump him, if he is spending more time with this "friend" then with you, he obviously has feelings for her. any guy worth your time will actually want to spend some with you.
2007-02-25 01:57:18 · answer #10 · answered by Booby M 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋