Here's my situation. I'm 20 years old, going to college full-time (Studying mechanical engineering) and working part-time. To put it bluntly, outside of those two activities I pretty much have no life. I don't do anything for fun except play basketball or go to the beach with family (maybe 4 times a month). I have no real friends. There's only a few people that will talk to me at school, and they already have their own friends and stuff. I've NEVER had a real friend, maybe because I always had my cousins nearby when I was younger, and I didn't need to make friends. Either way, I'm afraid that one day I'll become a hermit, or God forbid become suicidal (I'M NOT SUICIDAL NOW, NOR HAVE I EVER BEEN). I can't affoard to live on my own, or even in the dorms right now, but I probably will be able to after next school year. Do you think that being on my own will force me to act "normal" socially, or will I get worse having nobody that I know around instead of having my parents, and siblings???
2007-02-24 17:19:45 · 6 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your preparing for your future and working and that takes up a lot of time. Theres nothing wrong with you. Just wait til you can afford to live away from home and then see what happens. Meanwhile concentrate on your studies because the better grades you get the better job offers you will get when you graduate and right now thats more important. Friends will happen, your life wont stay like this.
2007-02-24 18:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making freinds is hard - and then the funny thing I've noticed is that we are all more connected as far as cell phones, email etc, but all feel more isolated than ever.
We do not have a sense of connectedness with other people, y'know. So, why not go out and create it. Get to know the people that live next to you - or sit next to you in class. Ask questions, people love to talk about themselves. And they will probably be glad to have someone take an interest in them. It takes time - I had to go through a major life change a couple years ago that forced me to move back with the folks At your age, its not that big a deal. At the same time, I had to dump all my freinds, and it took me about 6 months of concerted effort everyday before I had a couple of confidantes I could call to go out for a coffee, or go to the movies with
You are the master of your fate, your decisions will guide your footsteps, if you dont want to be alone, make a concerted effort beyond wishing to have friends.
Be patient and persistant.
oh - and give up the idea that they have to be the same age, gender, etc as you. Some of my best freinds are twice my age, or half my age, or the opposite gender, etc. Dont narrow who you would willing to call a buddy.
Good Luck
2007-02-25 01:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by freshbliss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're fine the way you are. Try not to worry about it. If you are happy doing what you are doing, then you are fine. I am 27 and I have a boyfriend and ONE (count em) ONE true friend who I hang out with and do things. If you want to make friends, then maybe you could pick up a hobby or try and get to know your classmates a bit better. Honestly, I am too lazy to want to know people better which is why I only have one friend lol. but I am happy and fine with that. If you are worried about it though, it might be a good experience for you to try living in the dorms, although dealing with roomies can be a pain in the butt as well. Otherwise, stay home and save money, and don't worry about being abnormal or anything, lots of people keep to themselves. :)
2007-02-25 01:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by CelticPixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you start living on your own you'll meet lots of people. I'm in the dorms right now and been there since august. I've actually made a lot of friends and also signed a lease to live in an apartment with two other guys that I met!! Just chill for right now...It'll be cool man.
2007-02-25 01:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ghurricane87 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are normal to live at home now. move out when you can don't continue to live off your parents forever and you should make new friends when you get out.
my family is large and most of my friends are inside my family so that is normal.
Family will always be there and friends don't stay around forever.
I think if you have a big family it is fine to just have friends inside the family they make the best friends anyway.
Try to get a job where you sell something so you can learn to interact with others and be comfortable talking with other people
2007-02-25 01:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you may feel that way because you are at home but
look at this way you can save enough money so that you can
get a place of your own. and i believe that when you get out
in the world more you will make friends.
2007-02-25 01:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋