So my best friend and i have been friends for about 2-3 years now and we've just discovered that we're falling for each other. Turns out he's had a secret thing for me since i've met him. Earlier, i hinted at him that i couldn't have a relationship because it wasn't a good time in my life. I want my degree and i want to be in a good place if i decide to be in one - esp. if he's the one i want to end up with. For him, he would hint that he liked me/relationship...then we switched ideas - i was thinking about being with him and he became worried about major priorities like bills, work, and finishing his degree. He finally talked to me and said that he never ever wants to hurt me...and that right now is not a good time for both of us. He said that if we were to ever go out, it would "worth it, lasting, long and serious" - rather than right now, it wouldn't be like that because of our schedules and we just want to grow up and experience life before we get into anything serious.........
2007-02-24 17:12:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I shouldn't be mad at him because this is what i wanted to - i didn't want a boyfriend but it's hard for me to deal. I think he thinks he's the "bad guy" now because he has to initiate it - I didn't think guys thought about this stuff - and he told me he was being honest with me - Does he care?
PS: I'm his best friend...and the girl he's always wanted...what does he mean that i'm "worth" it for him to wait?
2007-02-24 17:12:59 · update #1
Don't worry - we're still friends and we still hang out :)
2007-02-24 17:26:29 · update #2
The only reason I can think of why you don't trust what he says is because you don't believe you are "worth it" yourself.
I think he means that he will wait for you to be ready for a relationship with him because he believes that you ARE WORTH the wait, & any sacrifice that might involve.
Right now you two are a little out of sync trying to get your young lives sorted out. Be patient. You both seem to have your priorities in the right order.
Meanwhile, I can't see any good reason why you two can't at least find the time to just go out on a date together.
Have some fun, relax & don't make everything so gosh darn SERIOUS! ;-)
2007-02-24 17:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be scared of commitment or he really is unable to give as much attention to the relationship right now that he thinks it deserves. Or he could be confused and anxious now that he's in a position to see what he'd hoped for come to fruition.
They question may be more of whether or not you think he's worth the wait.
Now that it's on the table, you both know where you stand, all you can do is play it out. If it's gonna stick with the friendship angle for now -- but you both know that you both want more, don't be surprised if it evolves.
If he's worth the wait, stick around, be supporting and enjoy the ride.
Best of luck!
2007-02-25 01:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by tvjames 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I am alittle confused at the question. But from what I can comprehend you 2 are not on the same page. I am sure he does care because you guys are talking about dating and not fighting.
I guess all I have to say is you can't force something, true love happens when you least expect it and sometimes when you are not ready for it. Don't worry about anything. Just let it take it's course and see what happens. Relax and don't stress out over it.
You sound like you are both still good friends, so all is not lost.
2007-02-25 01:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by OR 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants to wait until he receives his degree before dating you because he wants to become financial ready to have the relationship advance. Having a relationship is part of growing up, so there's nothing wrong with squeezing in a few dates in your schedules. I think it's actually better to do that. Just start dating and don't worry about the future too much. Life is boring if you have everything planned out the way you expect.
2007-02-25 01:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to know his feelings, but what he is saying fits your needs, so go with it and if he drops out, you have lost nothing.
Keep studying
Good luck
2007-02-25 01:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU never know when they are being honest. THEY need a lie dector test.
2007-02-25 01:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like he really wants to wait for you
2007-02-25 01:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by shizuka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nearve say neaver do not worry i think things will work out
2007-02-25 01:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by yo yo yo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for him. ur "the one"
2007-02-25 01:16:21 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Bobby D - The Angels Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IDK
2007-02-25 01:14:48 · answer #10 · answered by Soccergrl951 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋