My kid is getting bullied by the teacher at school?

Question

I never thought it will ever happen. A teacher, yes a teacher, at a reputable public school bullies by daughter. We tried talking to the teacher but it got worst. School principal thinks very highly of her. After we made her complain to the principal she has become more vindictive. My daughter is only 12 and she is already having stress failures. How can we have this teacher leave my daughter alone?

Answer 1

You go to school everyday if possible and sit in on that particular teachers classes throughout the day-no matter if your daughter only has one class a day with that teacher- you sit in on that teachers other classes - you bring a tape voice recorder and you study and monitor every move that teachetr makes- how she acts towards the other students throughout all of her classes.ITS a CRYING SHAME when the people that we give the responsibility of teaching our children and our futures becomes worthless or even worse yet- corruptive- (as far as corrupting our kids minds with unneeded BS and stress all because they cannot be an adult and behave as adults are meant to behave) I went and am still going through the course of action similar to that of which Ive stated my advice to you as being. I find that if you have the time its best you occupy that teachers mind- flood it with your face- your appearance- your note taking - your critiquing of their every wrong move or of decisions made...DO NOT become insobordanant or out/unruly or LOUD- that will get you no where- And at first it may seem like things get a little rougher for your daughter- but tell her to just hang in there- because by doing as I have advised it will get rougher at FIRST-BUT THEN...you will both reap the rewards- because that teacher is going to cease BULLYING your daughter and think twice about doing it to some other child- especially if you have friends who also have children in that school- and that class- whenever you cannot be there ask one of them if they wouldnt mind dropping in and sitting for 5-10 minutes or more. You do not have to sit all day- but it has to be more than 5 minutes and more than 1x to make a full impression,,,,(if you want to know how or why this technique works...message me or go to my 360 and leave a comment -with BULLYING in the headline and I will get back to you right away...I have experience in this area-so if I can help you -Id be more than willing!) AND YES_ changing to a different class will work-for a quick fix- but more than likely it will just be pawned off onto the next child rather than the behavior ceased or extinguished- and that really is the best solution for everyone- because that sort of behavior will continue if just overlooked or avoided!Hope this helps- and just so you know there are other options too-just this one I personally have found to be the best so far!Good Luck!! **(Please overlook any spelling errors- It is late and my spell checker wasnt on-sorry!)

Answer 2

I think everyone has had great suggestions on how to handle this with the teacher and the school board. This is also an opportunity for a dialog between you and your daughter about personal empowerment. There are rotten people in this world and life is very rarely fair, but how you handle things can make the difference in how you live and how you feel about yourself. Let your daughter see the efforts you are making on her behalf. Make sure she knows that she is valuable and worth fighting for and that she has a right to find and use her voice. Ask her suggestions on how things could be handled (after she has seen your efforts of course, not to make her feel as if this is her responsibility from the start). Encourage her to find her strengths (sports, music, acting, dancing, starting a small business, etc.) and focus her energies there rather than on the situation in the classroom. Find tutors that can help her with the lessons she may not be able to concentrate enough in class (due to the stressful situation) so she can see that she has the potential to learn and doesn't fall behind her peers. And the best self-esteem builder I know, volunteer with her in a situation where you both can empower others (a soup kitchen, battered women's shelter, your church group, etc.)
Keep fighting the good fight!

Answer 3

i think to INSIST that your daughter is changed to another class

bullying between teachers and pupils is totally unacceptable

also go up as far as you need to - perhaps the fact that you would be prepared to keep going until something is done about it may mean that your principal may find there IS something that can be done after all

an implied threat of making it public can also serve to embarrass a school into sorting the situation out more properly

the thing is the principal may well have 'had a word' but bullies often take that as a challenge to do their worst so unless the school are offering to do more than that then they are not taking every precaution to protect your daughter

also 'thinking highly of' read 'i am intimidated by' this teacher

so perhaps going further up the food chain may be your next step

Answer 4

sad to say this is quite common.I would gringe about how some teachers would talk about some of the kids at the last school I taught at....nope NOT perfect or better than them but of course there was kids that I could not take to period end BUT my job was to teach them NOT like them..............

What you must must MUST do is either put all complaints in writing.these can not be ignored, by law the school has to ACT upon a written complaint and even if it is a a conversation with the teacher / head, you need to follow up with a letter saying how the meeting went and what the agreed outcome was...........

How long does your daughter have left with this teacher ?? As it might rub even more people up the wrong way IF you move her mid year, for instance what if the new teacher is the old teachers CLOSE friend................

I would take it once again to the teacher WITH the principl present and state VERY clearly in this meeting which you FOLLOW up with in writing that you know that these ladies are the full professionals that they are meant to be and as such you need to be SURE that there will be no repercussions from this meeting.........also take a tape recorder and ask if it can be taped...............then IF some of the stuff is verbal to your daughter ensure she also carries a tape recorder close to hand to GET IT ON TAPE...............

Really could go on for ages on this subject so please feel free to continue this OFF the site.............

Regards

Answer 5

I had the exact same thing happen to me when I was younger. When I was in fifth grade, I had a teacher who picked on me all the time. It was my first year at a public school and she used that to her advantage. Unfortunately, when I talked to my parents about it, they didn't believe me. They told me that a respectable teacher such as mine, would never pick on a child of my age. Then, when my teacher started giving me detention everyday after school just for kicks, my parents said something to the principal. By then, it was the middle of the year and there was nothing the school could do. The principal said, had we said something sooner, they would have been able to switch me to a different class. So, try to get your daughter switched to a different class as soon as you can. Fifth grade was an absolute nightmare and even still, 9 years later, I still deem it as the worst year of my life.

Answer 6

Unfortunately you probably can't do anything except move her to another school. I had the same experience when i was a child and nothing could be done, and my daughter went through the same thing in 2nd grade. Her teacher bullied her like you say, by placing her at a table that had children like my daughter who had a little bit of an attention problem so they would play off of each other all day and
all get into trouble. she simply didn't like my daughter. My nephew was in the same class the following year and was treated the same, and he was a good kid. I left that school and enrolled my daughter at another school.

Answer 7

If the principal refused to do something about the situation go over the principal's head and talk to the superintendent. I hate to say it but if the teacher is well respected you are gonna have to record her somehow and show it to the school board to make sure no other student has to suffer through her bullying anymore.

Answer 8

if you haven't already gone to the principal,tell him/her that if nothing is done immediately your going to the board of education.this should never happen and if the teacher is of this mind set she is in the wrong profession.don't take any rubbish from either teacher or principal,stand up or your rights and those of your daughter and that is for an education with out fear or favour.

Answer 9

I took my son out of school and now he is Home schooled.
It was the same situation and the Principle backed the teacher up.
My child spends too much time in school to be unhappy there.
I also enjoy being with him.
Good luck.

Answer 10

take her out of the class. if they wont do that remove her from school. my teacher did that to me when i was 12 and it scarred me she and the other kids would torment me everyday. who cares if the school is reputable do you want your daughter to have emotional scars?