feeling insecure before our first date?

Question

A guy from my club in college asked me out. we barely know each other. he's really good looking, tall, popular and intelligent. he's quiet

I'm really looking forward to it but I'm feeling really insecure now. What if we have nothing to say to each other? What if he doesn't find me as intelligent? I'm from eastern europe (i'm an international student in the States) what if I can't catch all of what he says? (I still can't catch everything Americans say). Sometimes I can't express myself well in English. What if the conversation doesn't flow?

He's so good looking. I really feel so insecure I want to call it off

tips? conversation topics? how to impress an american guy?

I like him a lot

Answer 1

Well I went out on a first date with a guy I like just last night. The guy I like is really good looking and intelligent, and I was nervous because he's the sort I would usually consider out of my league.

We are both the quiet sort and we didn't talk much, but we still had a great time.

I don't think you need to have big discussions on a first date, so long as you do some talking you will be fine. Making eye contact (in glances if you are too nervous) helps. A good length of time for eye contact is about how long it would take to figure out the colour of the person's eyes. Also, make sure to smile a lot. Smiling is attractive.

Answer 2

If you are having trouble sometimes following a conversation, he should know this. If he is a good guy, he wouldn't judge you by your misunderstanding or not understanding certain words. Have faith in yourself and don't worry. Being nervous is what is going to make conversation difficult. Make jokes...laugh about things you don't catch right away instead of dwelling on it and worrying how you look. If you are confident, he will see that. Another suggestion, if you don't mind, is not to focus so much on the fact that he's 'good looking' and focus on the person that he really is. If he is a good, sensitive person he will not judge you. If he's a good guy, not just a good looking guy, then everything will be fine.

and if you have a bad date, dont' blame yourself. dont' dwell too much on it and think that it's your fault that it didn't go well. some people just dont' connect.

good luck

Answer 3

It's okay to get all nervous...just try to relax and always be yourself with him. If the conversation doesn't flow...don't worry. It's not supposed to the first time. How can it because you barely know each other. Just go on the date and let things happen naturally. Don't fake anything or "put on". Don't babble on and on about silly stuff but try to make conversation. Look him in the eyes and smile a lot. If you're just totally uncomfortable towards the end of your date and you don't think you like him as much as you thought you did...then be upfront with him and don't string him along. See...you may not like him after worrying yourself sick over all that stuff. But you may really hit it off and then you worried for nothing. Worrying is a waste of time. It's hard to remember that, but try not to worry. Just go and have a good time. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Well, the best way to impress an American guy is to not be American, so you're halfway there! :-) American men love foreign women - they see them as "exotic". Talk to him about your country and past; sometimes it takes finding the things that are different between you to make a relationship interesting instead of finding what you have in common. He'll be very interested in any topics about your home country and the differences between it and America, trust me. Also, on the language thing - don't be afraid to teach him a bit of your native tongue. Again, it will be exotic to him. Don't be insecure! Trust me, he will brag to all of his friends about his foreign date.

Answer 5

First of all you shouldn't feel insecure. He wants to go on a date with you, thus he likes you. Be yourself and if their is an awkward silence ask him questions. My guess is that he will ask YOU the questions about your home in eastern Europe.I cant reiterate this enough, be yourself and don't worry about the little things like how smart you are. He might even find your accent sexy.

Answer 6

well judging from your question your pretty good in english.. hehe really good..
you know why'd you think he asked you out? coz he likes you, honey.. he thinks you have a great personality, although i dont even know you hehe but i bet you have.. and dont burden yourself with all these negative "WHAT IF"s...

see: what if you WILL have things to say?
what if he WILL find you intelligent? hello honey, if he really like you, all he needs to know is whtas in your heart..

you can tell him, that you sort of have a hard time in english.. everyone's inperfect.. so is he..

and just be yourself.. i bet he's even feeling insecure and nervous too.. he might even be asking the same thing.. hehe

so just PRAY, and be yourself..a nd smile, hon, always smile

GOD BLESS!

Answer 7

you don't have to impress him, he should be the one to impress you because you are the girl and he is a guy. Don't think of what you will say, just be natural, guys like confident girls

Answer 8

Just chill out relax b urself and dont forget the lube

Answer 9

you are putting too much pressure on yourself.you are the center of attention.you my dear are the prize.is he going to open the door for you,is he going to compliment your hair or what you wear.it is all about you.you will get along fine

Answer 10

he'll probrably be trying to impress u, so don't be nervous. Just try to be graceful and calm, and everything will go smoothly.