2007-02-24 16:45:16 · 9 answers · asked by ? 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I can be manipulative at times, but can also be very honest and forthright as well. I think the "manipulation" is an attempt to gain from some other person that nurturing and caring response that I didn't get as a child. Its just a way to get my unmet needs met I spose.
I have never manipulated to the point of hurting someone else and never would. I am also a very empathetic person and do care a great deal about the well-being of other people so I think its a very stereotypical view of borderlines to say that we are all manipulative and deceitful. I think there are many manipulative and deceitful people out there that aren't borderline.
Take each person as an individual and don't rely so much on the label.
2007-02-25 00:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is something else going on. Manipulation is a deliberate and artful thought process, which is not a common trait found in the borderline personality. The borderline personality defense is closer a Reactive Defense Mechanism that operates as a knee-jerk retort flung into motion from a low threshold of impulsivity. Identifying the difference between manipulation and reaction to painful stimuli can help ameliorate the therapeutic stance.
2007-02-25 00:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Carina M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a rule, I think research will show that people with borderline personality disorder are usually very manipulative. They tend to make other people responsible for the fact that they are never happy when in truth, they are usually happier being unhappy. I heard there was a good book called "I hate you, don't leave me" that deals with this disorder. I think that was the name of it. Maybe something like that could answer your question.
2007-02-25 01:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, very much so. There are usually intensively afraid of being abandoned, and have extremely intense relationships. They seem to like to make people feel guilty by threatening to hurt themselves, having tantrums and so on. They act a lot like spoiled bratty children.
I used to work for a state hospital, people with this diagnosis are some of the most manipulative people I have ever seen. One woman was really good at it, she could play one staff member against another. They started transferring her to a different ward every day so it would be harder for her to do that.
2007-02-25 00:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by majnun99 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but they usually don't think of it as such. It's an inability to be alone and they'll do what they can to have someone there (it's part of the diagnostic criteria). I'd suggest reading "Lost in the Mirror" (2nd edition) and "The Siren's Dance" as well as "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" and "Stop Walking on Eggshells."
2007-02-25 01:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say so....but just be careful around people in general...they are different than we were back in the 70's.....mostly USERS...not friends...takers...
2007-02-25 00:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by sweet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person!
2007-02-25 11:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by michael m 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES, very much so...maybe even very passive-aggressive.
2007-02-25 00:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not really!
2007-02-25 00:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by sonata14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋