Is she trying to avoid me?

Question

One day I happen to spot this girl and she's gorgeous. I happened to pass her a few times and i felt we had an unspoken connection...there was something about her. This seemed kind of wierd to me so i wanted to intoduce myself, but couldn't because i felt i was going to say something stupid and i didn't want to screw this one up. So i guess i played it cool and i know she did too. So one day my friend and i were standing outside conversing while she appears with one of her girlfriends. We made eye contact for what seemed forever and introduced myself. She seemed kind of shy but regardless she was smiling the whole time then right after she took off with her friend. The next time I saw her, I was going to say hi but she completely ignored me. I thought "ok maybe she didn't see me." the next time i saw her i looked at her and smiled but she didn't even look at me kept on walking. I sort of ignored her after that. The thing is i still like her. (continue w/ details on next posting)

Ok so now for the details. The time we were feeling the "unspoken connection" was before winter break. When I came back that's when i introduced myself. She still seemed interested. Now this is vital info. After I met her, my friend took the liberty of finding her on facebook. I didn't want to add her because 1) didn't want to seem like a stalker 2) I have to get to know her more first. My friend thought differently and he added her. Now the problem is i write on my friends wall and i was afraid that she might get confused and probably think i was trying to stalk her from my friends profile. anyways later, she deleted my friend and put her profile on private. the first time she ignored me was before the facebook thing and the second time it was after so i'm clueless. later out of shame, i deleted my profile and days later she deleted hers. i know i shouldn't ignore her anymore but i think she isn't interested. A part of me tells me she is though. How should i approach her?

Answer 1

She could be afraid of expressing her feelings to you and does not want to look like a fool if you find out that she likes you.

Maybe that day when she ignored you she probably did not know
what to do. She might have freaked out, and decided to ignore you because she did not know how to react around you.

Just say hi or ask how her day was and keep the conversation going. Until she feels comfortable.

Answer 2

If you like her TALK TO HER. Do you want to go through life playing the "what if" game? You'll never know until you speak up. What your friend did is his problem...never assume...or jump to conclusions. The best relationships I have ever had has been when I took a gamble and forced myself to talk, laugh & joke when normally I would stand on the edge watching and hoping. This includes love relationships as well as true friendships. Put yourself in the game....if you don't partisapate you'll never know. Good luck!!

Answer 3

Since she deleted hers too it might just be coincidence and the fact she's ignoring you might be because she shy. Approach her the worst that could happen is you'll go back to ignoring each other.

Answer 4

why dont you just talk to her..this unrequited luv thing is hard to guess..maybe you are thinking that she's avoiding you,and she thinks the other way around...just tell her that you like her and want to be friends with her..instead of playing shy,be confident..trust me ...cuz i've had the same problem as yours before this..and i was at your position...at last i just let him go...then i felt really stupid cuz i didnt grab the chance...
so, go ahead and give yourself a try...maybe she's thinking of you too...or maybe not..but it's ok cuz you can start by being her friends first...ok?

Answer 5

just dont make a big deal about it, talk to her on aim or facebook like you said. be cool and be yourself. see if she likes you. if you feel the connection, then ask her out. = )