How do you know if he is being truthful or not?

Question

Ok i have been seeing this guy! He is 31 and i am 21. He lives about 4 hours from me! He says he likes me a lot and wouldn't hurt me! Well he used to call a lot and text me a lot now he doesn't! I know he owns his own business and is in the military so that eats up a lot of time. But when he calls he is usually in his car or on his way home form work so he says. Sometimes he doesnt call or text me back. I think he might be up to something! We are just talking right now we really haven't considered being together but he said he wants to date me! I just feel a lil something is going on. Am I being too insecure from past relationships? Or does everyone else think what i think?

I don't think he is married i know he lives with his father and his father is really ill! He asks me to go to his house and visit so i don't think he is married! I know he is ready to settle down and he told me he gets attached fast. I know that i don't show him really how i feel when i talk to him for the simple fact that my fiance left me for a married woman and im afraid to let ppl in sometimes for fear of a broken heart! He doesnt act guilty! Im gonna talk to him about how i feel cuz i brought it up once b4 and he didnt get mad he told me not to worry he wouldnt hurt me!

I have only been seeing him for a month and a half or maybe a lil longer. I do yell a lot of my family and friends when i am on the phone with him. Maybe he doesn't want to hear it but im gonna try to get to know him better b4 i decide to be with him or not. I know im young and i know some older guys like to candy coat things when it comes to young girls cuz they think we are dumb. But i have dated guys older than me for awhile and i know the games they play too. I dated a guy that was 27 for five years and he played me hard core but this guy doesnt even come close to me suspecting him like i did my ex. I think maybe i might be sending him a signal as if im not that interested and i dont like him like he likes me so he is afraid to make a move! He treats me good tho!

Answer 1

Always trust your gut. One good way to determine if someone is lieing, they will get or already be angry. Bring up your concerns, if you are thinking of dating the guy you should be able to communicate with him, if he gets abnormally upset then maybe he is lieing. Most people act guilty and maybe that is what you are picking up on.

Answer 2

I was kinda in a relationship like yours. We would talk and text, but never had time to go out. I followed my gut instinct about him not being truthful. Come to find out he was actually married and his wife called me after seeing his phone bill. I knew something was up.. I'm glad that I found out about his lies sooner than later. Bottom line, because it is four hours away, I would just move on because more than likely his does indeed have someone else! Think about this my ex friend only lived 20 minutes from me! Another thing could be your age difference. Some older guys feel that because you are young, you're stupid and naive. But the truth of the matter is sometime were are because we want the relationship to work and are willing to accept whatever he says. Obvisously, he's not the one!!

Answer 3

Listen I was in a relationship that was also 4 hours in distance. At first we were crazy for each other, we called each other everyday, text etc. Blah blah after 5 months, everything started to die. First of all because realistically he wasn't going to drive down to see me everyweekend. Second, as much as I tried to trust him, I knew he had other girls available around him at work and at places. Eventually he left me for another girl. I suggest you don't even get into the relationship with him, have fun with him and fool around but always think about your safety first! You are 21 and he's 30, he's a grown man and he knows exactly what he is doing to you. Don't let him confuse you, you keep on with you life and don't limit your self to meet new guys around your area. There is a big chance he might be seeing someone over there. How else would you even find out? What you can't see won't hurt you. He's not worth it!

Answer 4

Speaking from past experience there is a good chance he is not on the level you may want to consider letting this one go. If some one goes from being in contact with you constantly to almost no communication at all then he probably has someone. I think women do have the tendency to be a bit insecure based on past relationships but you also have to go with your gut (I.e. women's intuition) besides if he is on the level , let him chase you for a while. What could it hurt?

Answer 5

Well you know him the best, and if you aren't able to say that you do know him then you should give the dating period a much longer time before committing to a relationship.

Something could be going on or he could just be busy. It's so hard to say, except for you since you know him.

I wish you the best, I know it is a tough spot to be in, just keep all this in mind when it comes time to start a relationship, if you don't feel you know him well enough, don't commit to him until you do. No matter how long it takes.

Answer 6

I think you should pop over his house one day when you know he wont be at work and see what he is doing...I bet you would know what to doif you knew what was going on and if you saw what was goin with your own two eyez!!!!

Answer 7

He might be married go with your gut it is right most of the time.

Answer 8

He's playing you. Get out while the getting is good.

Answer 9

how much do you know him? and how long do you know him? do you know his family background? that's all the questions you have to answer to yourself then you can that you know him so well and he's been true to you. if he's been able to introduce you to his family then start thingking that he's serious to you and being true to you.

Answer 10

I suspect that he's married.