Me and my ex are trying to get back together but lately I'm doing all the calling, what gives?

Question

She tells me she wants to start fresh and I do too but im doing all the calling. I was the one who originally broke it off after 4 years for kind of the same reason, though she tells me that she cant make the change overnight, I dont know what action to take. When I ask her about it she says the same thing she has been saying..that she is not a phone person. We have been apart for a month and I guess we do want each other back. How do I set rules and boundaries and expectations without getting into an argument? What do I do if she slips up? Do I just forget it or show tolerance if she is willing to try to change those annoying habits. Right now we are in seperate cities until I graduate (a little over a year left, but we saw each other every chance we had) but for most of the relationship we were in the same city. She has a hard time saying what she really thinks and suggested getting help. How do I help us and her without doing most of the work and still support her? Is this doomed?

There is a misunderstanding by rules and boundaries I do not mean for her to do whatever I say , that would be a slave. I just want some respect I just want her to know that some things bother me..and to please not do them..and vice versa..and I have stopped calling her for the last few days. I have gotten tired of it (emotionally spent) . I have decided that there is only one way to resolve the situation. I have given this thought. I will only return calls for a little while and not go out of my way...I will let her come to me , and just look at other options in case she said one thing and really felt another. Im not a bad person and have always tried my best to respect her. Either way this plan will resolve the situation. She will either stop calling if she is not serious or things will grow and hopefully be better and we can work on the things that broke us up. Any one see something im not seeing as a possible ending?

Answer 1

You can start by stop being a wussy. You already made it clear to her that you would like to try again. You call and call. She knows by now that you want her back and she made it clear to you that she wants a fresh start. So, back off. Let her do the work now. Do respond but don't yes her to death and please don't bend over backwards for her. Both of you know each others tendencies so use that to help you. No women likes a wuss.

Answer 2

Maybe that's why your relationship isn't together, rules, boundaries and expectations. A relationship isn't based on those. Do you come from the old days or what? Basically your the one that has to change because your attitude about women totally sucks. Your doomed