My FI and I are getting married in June and (for many reasons) we have decided to take my last name. I didn't think it would be that hard, but after reading this story, http://abcnews.go.com/US/story?id=2778930&page=1&CMP=OTC-RSSFeeds0312, of a man trying to get his wife's last name, I'm not sure it will be so easy. We are out of state finishing school (GA) and are going back home (MO) to get married this summer. GA seems to be one of the states that it's easier for both individuals to change their names...
Any advice?
Should we have a civil (courthouse) marriage here and then having the ceremony in MO with all our family?
2007-02-24 16:29:38 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For clarification...We are taking his last name for use as our middle names.
We will be announced Mr. and Mrs. S. K.
2007-03-01 02:44:23 · update #1
I live in WV, not exactly a state that is current with the times, but it's just as easy for a man to change his name as a woman. My friend & her husband did this. He was given the last name of a man who wasn't his biological father, he was also the only one in the family with this name, so e had no connection to it at all. When they got married, he did exactly what a woman would do. He took a copy of his license to the social security office, got a new card, then had his ID changed. It was no problem for them at all.
2007-02-24 17:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by layla983 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your marrigae license will be vaild in any state, so where you get married shouldn't matter. He will need a certified copy of the marriage license to take with him to the social security office and driver's license office to get his name changed on those. Changing his name on everything else usually doesn't require a copy of the marriage license. The process for him to change his name would be the same for a woman changing her name.
When you apply for the marriage license you'll need to ask how to obtain a ceritifed copy of it. Some states will mail you one, others you have to go to the county clerk's office that issued the license to pick one up. Some states it's free, others you have to pay a small fee.
I know two men who have taken their wive's last names. The first one is a doctor I worked with. He hated his last name, so when he married his wife he took hers. They've been married for over 25 years, and he was in the Navy when they got married.
The other man just recently got married. His last name was Jones hers is Miller. Since Miller is not as common as Jones, he too her name.
2007-02-24 19:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Just Jess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So, the minister will say: "I would like to introduce Mrs. and Mr. Amanda K?" There WILL be snickering about that for years.
This suggests that your husband is an emasculated, submissive man. That you are the protector in the family and that he looks to you to protect him.
People will envision you insisting that he sit when he uses the bathroom and him submissively complying.
A much better idea is to use your last name as your middle name and use your maiden name professionally if you want. Or, use it during a transition period.
The main point is to show respect for your husband's manhood and having him take your name will do the opposite.
2007-02-28 23:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It doesn't matter if the result is to retain your surname or to take after your husband's surname..
The most important factor is what both your husband and you really feel. If the both of you are totally agreeable on the final decision, do not bother about what or how other people think.
We cannot make everybody happy.. Or we will end up being very miserable.. What's more, this decision on the surname matter should only have the both of your say in it. It's about your husband and you. Nobody else should interfere or try to "brainwash" the both of you...
Good Luck!
2007-02-25 01:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by DriftGal 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I dont see why it would be harder....same thing right? Taking A last name shouldn't be that hard and the bride and groom should do whatever they want. Check with your homestate's laws but I find it silly to even have a law against it.
2007-02-25 02:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure what's easier, but do what you want. Don't worry about anything else. If you want her name, take it. It'll be worth whatever amount of money it takes if that's how you truly want it! Really if that's how you want it, then it's worth the fight. Good luck!!!! I really wish you both the best of luck. Congrats!
2007-02-24 16:36:38 · answer #6 · answered by Holly 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is easier to take the husbands name at the time of the wedding and then change your name legally afterward. At that point both of you could change the name to whatever suits you.
2007-02-24 16:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
do whatever floats your boat. i have never head of it but then again why not. i think you can and have that big wedding. i mean you can't not have one they are nice and you get so many nice things they dont' have to be so expensive to have a nice wedding.
2007-03-02 12:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are Catholic you are forbidden to have two different wedding ceremonies in two different places.
2007-03-03 14:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by Br. Rich OFS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is by far the wackiest thing i ever heard
2007-03-04 09:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋