I have paid for all that I could and my money is out, now she has invited my x husbands girl friend to come. She has honestly tormented for me 7 years and then she was gone now shes back with him which I don't have a problem with, but the harm she has caused me calling me everyday telling me how he said I was this horrible person.. And I raised my daughter with no support and this guy is her step dad that didn't have anything to do with her for 15 yrs. I don't have a problem with him being there, but her I really think I done in with hurt and anger. Right now I'm ready to take her wedding things out of my house to her dads, and be done with whole situation. My daughter has an education and my health is not good right now and what she is doing I think is wrong. I think she is not in the real world right now and selfish . Do you think I'm wrong?
2007-02-24 16:20:35 · 32 answers · asked by rainingonme 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
THIS IS HER STEP FATHER HE AND I HAVE BEEN DIVORCED FOR 16 YEARS, AND I RAISED MY DAUGHTER ALONE WITH OUT HIM OR HER HER FATHER MY FIRST HUSBAND, WORKING TWO JOBS MAKING SURE SHE HAD A HOME AND SCHOOL ACTIVITES WHEN SHE WAS 12 I HAD PROBLEMS WITH HER AND I CALLED HIM " YOU RAISED HER YOU DEAL WITH IT" HE SAID. SO I DID AND I THOUGHT IOF A WAY AND IT WORKED, I USED THE POLICE IN THE SMALL TOWN TO HELP ME. .... SHE DID GRADUATE AND GO TO A COLLEGE WITH THE HELP OF MY PARENTS . NOT ANY FATHER OR STEP FATHER.
2007-02-25 06:34:43 · update #1
I can't explain why dead beat dad's are forgiven but they just are.
The fact that it's her step dad is incomprehensible. I could understand he real father coming into play but a step dad makes no sense and his G/F even less.
I would give her an ultimatum her own flesh and blood mother or a step dad and his mistress.
2007-02-24 16:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
I think you should go. If you dont then the girlfriend wins. You can go to YOUR daughters wedding and show that you can be the better person. You could also arrange it so that you and her are not near one another during the ceremony. The reception might be hard but if you miss the wedding you may regret it after or cause a rift between you and your daughter that takes years to fix. If your health isnt that good you dont want to miss years with your daughter because of some little witch your ex is with that thinks she is better than you. Hope all works out for you.
2007-02-24 16:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are not wrong to feel as you do, but don't skip the wedding because of it. You are her mother and you have a right to be there in the special place for the mother of the bride. Her father can sit with his wife behind you. You won't have to talk to them or look at them. Seat them at a table at the reception with his relatives and you sit with yours. But be civil, and be there. If you don't go, you will regret it the rest of your life. And people will pity you. Just for this one day, let you daughter have both of her parents at her wedding. This is her day. Let her be happy. She has invited her father's friend because she wants her father there and he probably wants to bring this woman. Invite some special friend or family member to sit with you and smile. Your little girl is getting married. Don't spoil her day with your anger with her father and his "honey."
2007-02-24 16:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should go to the wedding for your sake and you daughters. It sounds like she is caught up in having a happy wedding day. Tell her there are two sides to every story and the person talking bad about the other is the one trying to clear their own conscience and that is why you have nothing to say because yours is clear. Don't waste time trying to defend yourself from the bad things he is telling her about you. You know when she spends any time with him she will learn the truth about him and realize she is wrong to let anyone speak bad about her mother. She is being selfish but don't let her make you the bad guy and ruin her wedding if that happens let it be her own fault. When the wedding is all over you will be proud of yourself for going above and beyond and living up to your name Mom.
2007-02-24 16:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by puzzled 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is your daughter's wedding. You must go. This is the one time you need to put all of this baggage behind you and celebrate your daughter's wedding. Your daughter is probably caught up in being the bride and planning her wedding, and not trying to cause you stress or upset you. I am sorry you have had to go through so much, but you will suffer more in the long term if you cannot find it in yourself to attend your daughter's wedding -- even if there are guests there that have caused you emotional harm in the past.
Good Luck.
2007-02-24 16:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by LasVegasMomma 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whoa... wait a minute. It's your daughter. Remember that. Put yourself in her shoes for a minute. Wouldn't you be disappointed if your mother didn't come? Look you helped with this wedding.... so go and hold that chin up high! I think that would look better than anything. DO NOT LET YOUR EX-HUSBAND'S GF to keep you from you baby girl's wedding! You'll regret it if you miss it. Just go and give your daughter the support she needs and deserves on this special day. Screw your ex! You just be there for your daughter, but of course look your best! You always want them to see what they missed out on. Good Luck!!!! I promise you.. you will regret it more if you miss it!
2007-02-24 16:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by Holly 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well I don't think you are wrong, you are in the situation and know it the best, but your daughter's wedding is an important part of her life. You are her mother and I would think she would be hurt if you weren't there.
I wouldn't let this other lady stop you from seeing your daughter at her wedding, but like I said, you can see all the angles of the situation much clearer, do what your heart is telling you, not your anger or your mind.
2007-02-24 16:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think your wrong. If you love your daughter, put aside your anger for one day and be there for her on one of the most important days of her life. If your health isn't all that great, then no offense, but you may not be there for the birth of her first child (if they decide to have any and don't already have any). But your daughter will remember if you were there or not, and do you really want her to remember her wedding with anger because you weren't there for her?
2007-02-24 16:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you were invited, you must go.
If things go well, this could (hopefully) be her only wedding.
It's never too late to patch things up with your daughter, but if you miss the wedding, there's a great chance you'll someday regret it.
You may not approve of your daughter's choices, or even feel respected, but this is your daughter's big day. Be supportive and be a part.
2007-02-24 16:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by tvjames 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you should talk with your daughter, it is easy to forget about how other people are feeling when you are planning your wedding, maybe she hasn't realized how much she has upset you, trust me when i say this, she would much rather have you there than her dad bit of as*. If she isn't prepared to sort the situation out then i would tell her that you won't be coming and that you will no longer be funding her wedding.
if she is too stupid to realise you are more than just a wedding fund, i'd say stuff her,daughter or not....
2007-02-24 21:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by frost7216 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
don't ruin her wedding
she wants all her family and friends there
this is her most special day of her life and i know you have differences with this other woman but remember she was wrong about you anyway you were a great mom so just show her how great you are by being nice to her and letting your daughter have everyone there(she will get more presents)
2007-02-24 16:27:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋