What would you say if your teenage daughter came home pregnant?

Question

I'm not in the sitituation myself, but...

Answer 1

Stay calm. Stay calm. Stay calm.

If she chooses to have the child, support her so she can finish school, go to college, etc.

Don't moralize (well, at least not too much..) - she's already learned the lesson.

She's still your daughter, no matter what.

If she chooses to have a safe abortion, go with her and do not get emotional.

That's what I'd do, I guess. But I do hope never to be in that situation. I'd teach her about birth control and safe sex, certainly.

Answer 2

Do not TELL her what shes gonna do with the baby...Shell end up doing the exact opposite!!!and saying "go get a coat hanger" is horrible!!!How could anyone even thikn about saying that!!!Imagine just finding out that you just made probly the biggest mistake in ur life by the worse guy possible and are more afraid of hurting your parents!!! Dont tell them something like that...you have a right 2 be beyond upset but dont throw a huge fit!! Talk to her about ALL the choices she has, ask her how she feels, tell her how YOU feel and ask her why she did what she did!!!! If you TELL her what she is going to do with HER baby then shes gonna do the exact opposite and probly something even more stupid!!!By you yelling at her its not going to chnage what happend. You have to think b4 u start yelling "what the hells wrong with you!!" Just because you diapprove of ur doughter having sex does not mean its not going to happen!!!The more you threaten her the more shes gonna do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im a teen, most call me mature and im just telling you what as a 16 year old what i would do as a pregnant teen and the mother!!!

Answer 3

"What the hell is wrong with you?!!" That would be the exact phrase that would come out of my mouth. That may sound bad but I will in no way approve of my daughter having sex untill she is out of my house. I will let her know if she is dumb enough to be having sex then she better be smart enough to use some birth control and condoms. I dont want her coming home with an STD either and if shes pregnant she has not been using protection. I would be very supportive of her and abortion would not be an option for the simple fact she would be to young unless she was like 19 to make such a large desision. Adoption would be a choice for her whether it be adopted to me or someone we dont know that would be up to her. After the shock wore off I would talk to her and not condemn her but be gentle with her because she is mt child and she would need all the love and support of her mother at this point in her life.

Answer 4

I don't know, since I don't have children, but I'd want to say that since she wasn't responsible enough to have unprotected sex, then she wouldn't be responsible enough to take care of a child. I would force her to give it up for adoption if she were under 18 when the child was born. The child should have a chance at a real family and future instead of being the child of a careless teenager. If she were over 18, I would tell her that if she wants to play grown-up and have a baby, then she can keep her baby in her own house where she pays her own bills.

Answer 5

i've got no teenagers. whether, if I had a daughter and she or he advised me that she replace into pregnant. i'd take a seat down together with her and characteristic a communication together with her, yet in a worrying and loving way. i will additionally communicate who the daddy is, and communicate with the daddy's mum and dad. i will additionally ask if she needs to maintain the child, OR if she needs to grant it up for adoption. yet no abortion. and that i will strongly propose that she retains the child, and that i can help her as much as i can to look after the child together with her. sure i would be disenchanted, yet i ought to nonetheless help her out.

Answer 6

IF i found out my teenager daughter is pregnant.. I would ask who the father.. And talk to her no point of being mad mother.. And ask her what she wanted to do and i am against abortion so i would let her do the adopt after giving birth or Let her handle her responbile for her mistake.. and explain to her that i am there for her and that she need to understand what she did.. and depend how stict the family is too.. Some parents doesn't teach they kid at the young age to use a condom.. it become mistake.. (some parents will kick they kids out...) but i would not do that... But i believe on being stict with my kids about that...

Answer 7

I would tell her I love you and that i understood that she is not a bad person. and that I will be there for her. I can tell you this from the out look of a preg. teen. I was 16 years old when I had my son and this year he grad. college at the top of class. He has been the joy of my life it's not always easy but it's worth it all. I have three children now. we never know why somethings happen but I know they happen for a reason. Love your children always and you will have a beautiful life.

Answer 8

I can not know exactly what I would do unless I was there. I hope that I will teach her well enough for it not to happen, but if it does, it will be too complicated to answer here. It depends so much of the circumstances...

No matter what though, I am on her side and want the best for her.

Answer 9

I would be disappointed in her that she wasn't careful, but I would support her and her decision (to keep it, or not) and let her know that some times we are too young to handle things, so we wait until we are older.
I also know from personal experiance, that my mom sat me down when I was 14 and really told me about sex and pregnancy and I decided to wait to have sex until I was older so when I did at 20, I was more mentally mature and would have been able to handle a situation like that. I think that if you talk to your children and really tell them what it would be like to have kids when they are kids, we would have less teen pregnancy.

Answer 10

It would be hard but they are in the situation. I would want to help them as much as possible because I want them to stay in school and I know I would be upset but I also know I want to support them. My child is going to be my child just as would I my grandchild. I would help, but I could not make the child my own because they would need to know I am hoping my children will learn from us, but I know that in this society there are alot more pregnant teens so it could be a reality. I have awhile before even thinking about that and am having a boy. If it was my son in this situation I would tell him to step up to his responsibility because that baby will need a father in his life. I hope it doesn't come to that but I would support her the best we could. It's scary to think it could happen but I hope I would be supportive because it doesn't help saying she/he should have gotten on birth control or used a condom. But I hope I tell them why and they can come to me. I also hope I would have told them the consequences that could happen before the fact.