I know this may sound VERY strange and pathetic, but I really, really fell head over heels for this guy. For awhile I was able to semi get over him (not in a good way...I just realized that he couldn't possibly like a fat, ugly girl who was younger than he...not to mention our relationship would be completely unprofessional.), but I always had a lingering fancy for him. We started talking again, and all the old feelings rose up again, and now I can't stop thinking about him! Please help me get over him. Due to my work schedule, it'll be hard for me to meet guys. But even if I do meet a new guy, it feels as though I still won't be able to forget about him or compare people to him!
2007-02-24 15:33:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately there is no switch to turn on and off your feeling for someone.
This is something that will take time but you have some control on how long.
Keep busy, force your mind into thinking of something else everytime he pops in your head.
Before you know it, you'll be thinking of him less and less but if you continue to fantasize about him, it will take much longer to get over him.
2007-02-24 15:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so convoluted that it is difficult to answer here. My suggestion is to go and work this out with a therapist. I know that may sound strange, but there seems to be some underlying issues here. I worry that you may have fantasized him into being more than who he really is. In other words you may have built him up into an ideal. It is also obvious that you suffer from self esteem issues which you need to take very seriously and address with a professional.
The outside packaging is not what matters. What matters is who we are on the inside. Remember that if you are not a happy person you can never be happy with another.
God Bless
2007-02-24 23:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do let me know when you find out. 3 1/2 years ago I fell for a senior. I was a freshman, so that didn't go over well. We were friends for a while, then a rumor started that I was stalking him *he INVITED me to chill with him, not what I'd call stalking* and that friendship went to hell. A while later we started IMing, and before we got back to being the hang-out type again, he moved. We phoned eachother daily for a while, but we slowly drifted. We talk occasionally, but right now I'm pretty ticked. He's dating a chick 1MONTH older than me, and that don't fly when he used my age as an excuse. I've had boyfriends since, but I still dream.
2007-02-24 23:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romance can often be in the mind only. All people have thoughts and dreams go through there head. I would take a wide berth from him and let time do its healing. I doubt you are so fat an ugly that you will not find some who loves you. There are plenty of fish in the ocean.
2007-02-24 23:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, its pathetic.
Most women have a natural beauty. Lose weight and find yours.
Most women also have secret admirers -- even if they consider themselves "Ugly and fat." Look around.
2007-02-24 23:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Allen P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋