My mother had a stroke a few years ago and she has one every so often. But the strokes have changed her. I have tried everything I can think of such as big calenders reminding her everyday and night to take a shower to clean her room and to change her pull-ups on a regular basis. I just need some suggestions on what I can do to improve....Thanks
2007-02-24 15:28:29 · 6 answers · asked by Christina 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My mother also lives with me
2007-02-24 15:46:11 · update #1
She is not old either only 47 yrs old
2007-02-24 15:47:13 · update #2
you do not need to improve, you are doing what a good daughter would do for her mother and that is to be by her side. i lost my mother from a stroke when i was 9 and she didnt get a second or third chance like your mother so that tells me that your mother is a very strong woman who has a very strong daughter who will never give up on helping her mother. i really admire you for that.
2007-02-24 15:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by who me? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she living with you? It sounds as though she can't be living alone. People who have strokes often have problems with short term memory. That can be very frustrating for their caregivers. I work with chronically ill and elderly patients. If she doesn't respond to visual reminders, like notes placed in certain places around the house, she may possibly need verbal reminders from you or someone else. Sometimes the elderly, people who have had strokes, and people with dementia develop an aversion to bathing and doing personal hygiene. I can't explain why. Although it will be exhausting for you, you may have to participate in the activity with her in order to get her to perform those activities you expect of her. It's not her fault that she isn't doing it on her own. It's all part of the disease process. Hopefully you have some help in caring for her.
2007-02-24 15:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Changes in personality, the ability to initiate behaviors (like getting herself to bathe, eat, or change her pull-ups), self-monitoring and insight (knowing when she needs a bath or to change her pants) are common sequelae of stroke. Attention and memory problems go hand-in-hand with these other problems, particularly in patients with right frontal lobe lesions or white matter disease. This is probably why she doesn't notice the calendar or notes that you leave for her. With these issues, she shouldn't be left alone, as her judgement is probably poor. She's in danger of leaving the stove on, and may fall in the bath when alone. She may not think of calling 911 in an emergency.
Consider having a home-health aide come in, or better yet, find an assisted living facility (not a nursing home) where she will get the supervision she needs. Call your area council on aging; they can steer you in the right direction.
2007-02-25 08:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to suggest to her in this way..."Mom, it's time to take a shower." Or "Mom, it's time to change your pants" Try to get her on a schedule, even going to the bathroom. Take her to the bathroom every 2 hours, it might help to retrain her bladder.
2007-02-24 15:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm try to just call her on the phone or just help her out, like verbally say to her in person to help remind her . I'm sry to hear about this also.
2007-02-24 15:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that. Well just keep on doing that. Also try helping her do it all. And who knows you might have to be the adult and tell het yourself so just do that.
2007-02-24 15:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by helpful?? =D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋