he was very emotionally and ohysicall abusive to me. but why do i feel sad and lonely? please make see something positive! to lift my spirits. he left me cuz i told him i didnt want him hurting my neck anymore, or maybe he did it on purpose to rid of me. he left me after i told him the dr said i dont have long to live.
2007-02-24 15:27:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be happy that you no longer have the burden of being with an abusive loser. Spend time with people who will treat you right and enjoy good company.
2007-02-24 15:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Hun the only way for you to see the light and feel better about this hole thing is to look at the better side of the hole thing. 1) he is no longer putting his hands on you to hurt you, witch he should never of done in the 1st place no guy should ever put there hands and a female for no reason. and 2) now you can move on and find bigger and better things for your self. You should never let any man touch you in ways you dont feel is right. So dont worry about that loser just move on and make this time in your life better. And if he left you because you said you did not have long to live then he is really a bigger loser then i thought.
2007-02-24 15:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you dying or was that a lie ? if it was a lie, then you deserve him and he deserves you, you both are a little twisted if you ask me and not only at the neck. the biggest problem when someone leaves is they don't give you all the information you need to think rational and all you can do is sit there and guess at what the motivation was, you will go over it in your mind hundreds of times but you can never figure it out, too much information is missing. stop trying to piece it together. it doesn't matter why he left, be thankful you get to start all over and are still mobile.
sometimes some sick people take it all away from you just to watch you go through withdrawal and get desperate, they give it back when you are just about to adjust to the new sensations, they can't have you not needing them any more, all would be truly lost then. being around someone is like an addiction to a drug. your whole sense of being changes when they are gone. you aren't experiencing anything we all haven't gone through. usually the one that pulls out first is on a power trip and doesn't experience the withdrawal at first. but in due time, when all is truly lost and you have adjusted they will seek you out to feed their ego again. you are thinking payback , but you won't want anything to do with that person any more. you will have had enough. so my advice to you is just learn to be you again like you were before psycho boy came along. get beyond the initial lonliness and you will get your strength back. don't fall for the occassional fix. let it go. you will feel in charge of your life again. and you won't be so quick to get in that situation again.
2007-02-24 15:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have no reason to feel sad about it. He abused you and then ran off. If anything, you should be greatful. He can't hurt you anymore. If you're feeling sad and lonely, then you had (to me VERY surprising) feelings for him. But you don't need him. I say go out there and find someone who is caring and gentle, not some abusive jerk who is gonna take control of your life again. Just go out and enjoy yourself. Surround yourself with friends, and you'll feel better. I wish you nothing but the best, and don't worry, you'll find someone. May God Be With You.
2007-02-24 15:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by mtoutlaw_87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you completely, I was once involved in an abusive relationship and only after I realized that I deserved better and that I did not need a man to feel loved and appreciated, I started to really enjoy being with myself, and attracted positive people. I think you should ask God to help you out in this (it really helped me) and surround yourself by friends who can give you good advice, start a new hobbie, meet new people, get out and change your phone number, sim card, so he cannot contact you, just be firm... I know it is hard, you will have hard times when you just feel like crying but whatever you do DONT CONTACT HIM. I anticipate you will meet your perfect match after you have healed your heart.. and the best person to help you achieve this is God. I will be praying for you tonight.
2007-02-24 15:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by Melanita 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep telling yourself how lucky you are to be out of a relationship with an abusive person, and how smart you were to not stay with (or, God forbid) marry the loser. I feel sorry for his new girlfriend, though. Maybe she will have the gumption to file a police report on the jerk when he starts abusing her- and believe me, he will. You are too good a person to be treated like that.
2007-02-24 15:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
apparently you think you deserve shitty treatment..no abusive treatment. count your lucky stars he is gone..look up and thank the big guy upstairs it may have just saved your life!..whats there to miss? being choked:by a psycho:? stay out of it while your out of it..get on with your life and never look back. Look at this psycho creep as a bad mistake and a hard lesson learned he is someone else's problem now (say a prayer for her) and never take that from anyone else again.
2007-02-24 16:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by nataliesmamaw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you sad you want him hurting you.....yeah he may say i'll never do it again but if he does it once then he'll do it twice...find someone else you shouldnt be with anyone who puts his hands on you...go out clubbin party with your girls go flirt with other guys have a blast cuz you deserve ......have a lil together at yo place drink wine alcohol basicly and let yo self go
dont cry forgive him and move on with yo life
2007-02-24 15:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by physco_porsche 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are describing an abuser. You are likely lucky to find out now. No doubt you are grieving, but it gets better with time. Remember: Time wounds all heels
2007-02-24 15:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say this to yourself, "My abusive BF left me."
That should make you feel better right there. Honestly. Don't you feel safer without him? Be grateful.
2007-02-24 15:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by toplessone19700 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋