Two months before she kissed a guy when she was with me, she told me because our relationship was fairly new and her past ( a guy with whom she was for past two year) was hurting her and that she was drunk, she kissed a guy, i gave her one more chance and came to know she is pregnant.
Now two days before i came to know that he was not the only guy in her past, she had sexual relationship with two more guys when she was youn and ahe fooled around with many,
What should i do should i accept her, shold i be with her, or just walk away or just take care of baby...
2007-02-24 15:26:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If all her transgressions are in her past (before you) let it be. If she was less than honest about her past with you, it's probably because she's not proud of the things she has done. I would probably recommend having a paternity test done when the baby is born so that you know for sure that it is your responsibility. She admitted to kissing a guy, so it's not like you had to find out about it in the streets. If you can let her past go, stay. If you can't, leave. But if it's your baby, take care of it.
2007-02-24 15:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by moe497 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there any substance to your relationship with her? Do you love her? Do you see her as the mother of your child? Does she even really want to be with you? These are all things you must address. However, taking care of the child means more than just sending a check. It also means treating its mother with respect and love (even if you do not want to have a husband-wife relationship). But I don't know why anything you have said would make you want to walk away. They don't seem like very big problems in the huge scheme of things, and certainly not when you think about all the stuff that goes into being a dad. Good luck, I hope you can fill those shoes and offer unconditional love to your family-to-be.
2007-02-24 15:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you love this girl, you must decide if you trust her enough to stay with her, If you have doubt, ask her to take a paternity test after the baby is born to determine if the baby is your, I think that you really need to do some serious thinking on this relationship, it kinda sounds like she may not be over her past love. Think long and hard before you make any comments.
2007-02-24 15:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by sla571963 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old are you? Second, people make mistakes, some more than others and some more drastic than others. But if you care about her, and you care about the baby, then stick it out, but if she keeps hurting you then you need to be a little bit selfish and check out, if she's made it this far she'll be able to take care of herself.
2007-02-24 15:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Ask&Receive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends who's baby it is. If it is yours then yes give it a go. If it isn't and she got pregnant during the time you were together I'd forget about trying to have a relationship with her. Without trust there is no reason to even bother.
2007-02-24 15:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by BrutalNerd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, It will depend on you accept her or refuse.
I think you must just walk away. Are you sure that the baby is urs??
If you are sure that the baby is yours then you should be with her, you must take care of her and baby also. Trust her and share your feelings with her.
2007-02-24 15:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by M.A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with her and give her a chance! We can't all still be held accountable for things in the past. Offer her your forgiveness; just tell her you'll leave if she continues to be unfaithful, and stick to that. You don't deserve someone who's unfaithful once you've given them a chance.
2007-02-24 15:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
that all depends on you, pal!
if you think she deserves a second chance... then go for it!
but then again, on second thoughts, come to consider that she has...rather past 'fancies'... and that you can't even be sure whodahell made that baby she's carrying..
i know this hurts...
i've been cheated upon too...too many times, but its all worth the second chance, third, fourth, fifth.... because i do believe there's still something to fight for... we can all be heroes for love... know that?Ã
finish your cuppa coffee on your veranda now... sit & think about things... then freshen up with a nice shower... then think again...
then ask yourself...
is she the girl you want to share your morning breath with for the rest of your life?Ã
ponder...grin... then ponder again...
2007-02-24 15:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by ~♥vaginamonologue♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take care of her baby (if its yours) and then leave her. once a cheater always a cheater. she will hurt you again. if you can't trust her then whats the point of the relationship! relationships are supposed to be based on trust. anyway, good luck :)
2007-02-24 15:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by ~Val~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its you fault so live up to it....its not really gonna help her if you walk out on her...at least be the only person there for her now that she needs you, you know how parents can get when they find out these things.....when these things happen most people turn their backs to you....dont be a jerk and do the same.....
2007-02-24 15:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by Buttercup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋