I am so shy and I dont want to be any more. When a stranger talks to me I start to turn red and sound like a mouse talking or something. and then I start to get even more worried and think people are staring at me all the time. is there a way to overcome this or try to shrink the shyness?
Also is there such thing as being overly emotional, such as like if someone says something mean to you or they get mad at you and you start to cry? and is there a way to control it?
2007-02-24 15:21:47 · 14 answers · asked by sam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes i am worried about my body and everything i;m allways thinking im fat and ugly and people are always telling me im not.
2007-02-24 15:51:02 · update #1
sweetie I totally understand you I'm shy my self ,but there is a way to break it ...gain confidence in your self ,how? here if you think people staring at you , try to look your best most of the time
look your self in the mirror up and down ,tell your self I look great ,you will know that they staring at you because you look good ,conversation try to find things that you like so you will get motive it and loose , complement the people that is starring at you to break the attention at you ,you automatically will turn it to then example: wow I love your earrings , that lipstick look amazing on you ,if is a man, I like your shirt ,or tie , or I didn't notice before your eyes ,believe it ,works
try it OK.
Is all about Mind power !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-24 15:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by eagle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you get older you experience different things, like attitudes, People are mean, and you have to brush it off sometimes. If you are the type of person that can talk about yourself than you should not have a problem with others pointing out your flaws, Now with the shyness thing, if you are a good person by heart and i you are fun to be around, show it and let others see that. It is nothing better than being around a fun, cool, person. And as of people starring at youm that is real, people are starring, that's what they do, look you in the face all the time. Don't pay it any attention. When you enter a room, WORK IT!
2007-02-24 15:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by make?love*not$war! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to not be so uptight about it. You need to just chill out and realize that the person is only trying to talk to you, and that's nothing to get nervous about. I'm a shy person as well, and I find it hard to even make a phone call. Just mingle with people, get to know them, and make friends. The shyness will go away. As for over emotionalism, I believe that you overreact to what the person is saying, and you either break down, or you take it the wrong way. Don't worry too much about it, you'll get over your shyness soon enough. Good Luck! ^_^
2007-02-24 15:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by mtoutlaw_87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was pretty shy when I was younger too. Are you overly self-conscious about your appearance? Because when I was younger I was extremely self-conscious about how I looked, and as I got older I started to dress better and take better care of myself, and I started to feel good about myself. Confidence followed quickly afterwards. I know it's hard, but try and look at people when you're talking, it'll be hard at first, but you have to try. Try and find out why you're so uncomfortable as well. Are you only shy with men? Are you shy with those you work with? About being too emotional, I don't think being emotional is a bad thing at all. Emotional people are usually the most caring and compassionate individuals. Embrace your emotions and I'm sure you'll become more comfortable with yourself as time passes. Good luck with everything!
2007-02-24 15:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by isabelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This reminds me of how i use too be. I was never the person to randomly walk up to someone and start a conversation but i think i got over it by not caring what others think of me. By taking a risk of saying hello to someone and if they thought i was an idiot for it than oh well. Soo just try to tell yourself that your proud of who you are and learn to love it. Eventually the shyness will go away and you'll be more comfortable with everything.
2007-02-24 15:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have that too (I don't think it is a problem, more of a lack of self-esteem). I believe what you have to do is practice at your house in a private room something to say to someone (put loud music on so people in your house don't think you're crazy because you're talking to yourself). Then, sometime during the week, talk to some stranger at school, repeating what you practiced. Eventually, you'll stop being shy, I guess.
2007-02-24 15:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by B B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't be shy. What ever that u like to say then say it and it willl make u better. I am sure it will work and if u say some thing the other people is not gonna get mad at u. They will try to fix Ur problem and it will be good. Try to be helpful as well and be care for other people as well.
2007-02-24 15:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by historyman_of_sa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just like me. Just start to crawl out of your comfort zone a little to widen it by starting a conversation with strangers at the bus stop. That's a lot to ask, I can understand, but if you really want to become less shy, you have to do what you fear. I joined a Creative Writing class, and I could've taken it online to save myself from constantly sharing my work with the class (reading my poems, etc.), but I didn't, because I wanted to practice public speaking to lessen my shyness. I just do my best, and it works out fine! I'm becoming a lot less shy around people now that I have my job, too. I'm not scared of talking to those around me. Though, I still blush a lot when strangers talk to me ... but that's just who I am!
Hope that helps, and good luck!
2007-02-24 15:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Ami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its good that you are aware of your shyness. The only advice you need is to have self confidence. You shouldn't worry to much about what other people think, and (in my case) if you worry about other people thinking you are fat then loose wait. (loosing weight and gaining muscle did wonders for my self confidence). And yes it is natural to me emotional but if you start to get worked up over every little thing then you should talk to your doctor and see what he could prescribe you.
2007-02-24 15:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by gotansas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people that are shy may feel more emotional. things that non shy people would not focus on shy people may obsess over.
try to practice in front of a mirror saying general statements like hello, how are you etc.
i do have a couple of blogs you can look at and see if they are of value to you.
http://goodbyeshyness.blogspot.com
http://notshywnow.wordpress.com
www.blogcharm.com/iamshy/
2007-02-26 09:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by marciasiegel2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋