This question is NOT for homosexuals. Sorry.
I am just curious really. If you are married, or if you are in a commited relationship, how will you feel if your partner were to stray with another person of the same sex? I mean, if you are a guy and your gal strayed with another girl? Or vice versa?
How will you feel? Will you feel incensed? Betrayed? Or just plain stupid? I mean a guy straying off with another guy or a gal straying off with another girl?
Will you still feel cheated? Cheated of what?
2007-02-24 15:10:52 · 29 answers · asked by Man_Hat_Tan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i will feel digusted and yes of course betrayed...why? for not being honest about things in the first place...cheated of the truth that is.
2007-02-24 15:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by labrin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have thought about this often - more recently as my partner has started working for a homosexual AND i found pictures a few weeks ago on his (partners) phone of what transpired to be my partner in womens clothing (stockings, knickers etc) Let me first clarify - this is not meant to imply that i am worried about my partner being gay OR that i think that all men who enjoy the feel of womens clothing MUST be gay! (That is most definitely NOT the case in many situations as i am well aware - a high percentage of men who dress occasionally in womens clothing are straight.)
Anyway - on with my answer. I personally do not think that i would be AS upset if my relationship ended due to a partner cheating on me with a member of the same sex. Honestly, i can't explain fully the reason why - i think probably because i couldn't blame MYSELF so much for their cheating as they obviously wanted something which i could not give them. The pain and hurt of the betrayal would still smart, but for me, not as much as if my partner had felt that i, as a WOMAN, was not enough for him.
Sorry for the rambled answer - i am just leaving the house but wanted to reply!!
2007-02-25 22:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by *~_**_Jester_**_Girl_**_~* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course you would cheated of love commitment and respect and also out of the truth as these feelings havent just occurred over night and so have been kept hidden,I'm all for same sex relationships just not for me but if you have and feelings in this way tried or not, do not commit to a straight relationship you know may not be enough one day coz that's a relationship built on secrets and that's just cruel.you cant play the victim of your sexual orientation when you had an idea but your partner didn't.no one forced you to commit stay single until your sure
2007-02-24 15:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by nendlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont think you are just curious cause it is a weird question to ask unless it is happening to you or someone you know. It must be in my opinion worse than just a normal "Splitting up" and your partner goes off with someone never mind someone of the same sex. The person left behind must feel very shocked, confused and ask the question WHY
2007-03-04 10:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by janeybest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating no matter what the sex. Love is about respect honestly and commitment to each other. Find yourself a partner that has values. Yes i would feel cheated and betrayed
2007-03-01 20:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by zahriedee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think of you already understand the respond on your question. do no longer beat your self up on a daily basis with the thinking is he's he no longer subject. it rather is amazingly tiring and witha new toddler - you want each and all of the potential you may get. If it have been me, i might manage on your mom or a pal to babysit one night, dress up and piss of out with a mate and allow him sit down and stew thinking whats happening. turn your telephone off and get returned once you get returned. they say that a bent guy will continually accuse his substantial different of something. i might take a step returned and play him at his own interest - basically for a on a similar time as till your self-well worth is returned!! Be cagey and robust luck which incorporate your toddler - you sound a solid mom.
2016-11-25 21:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by deardorff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when I am in a relationship I like to feel as though we belong to each other. If he started having romantic or sexual feelings for another man, woman, animal..(hey its a sick world out there) then yes I would feel totally betrayed!!!!!
I mean whats so wrong with the world that people find it so hard to commit to one person!!!
2007-03-03 11:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by BUTTERFLY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's happened to me before. My boyfriend cheated on me with another guy.
The thought of kissing a gay or bisexual guy was kind of weird.
I didn't like it that he wasn't satisfied with me or even my gender.
I did feel betrayed, because it was supposed to be just us.
I felt stupid for going out with a guy that would do that, or cheat at all.
Most of all, though, it's a funny anecdote. :-)
2007-02-24 15:17:11 · answer #8 · answered by Drinking from a broken glass.... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe but it all depends because if you know them well enough you will already know what they are capable of and like it or not we all have tendencies towards same sex relationships its in all of us you could have wakened this up in your partner unwillingly maybe but all the same its there and the only thing you can do is live with it or not maybe you could not satisfy her and she had to go for another female to get what she wanted in that case you need to take a close look at your self
2007-03-04 13:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by top cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose I would be annoyed in the same way as I would if she went off with another bloke. Anyway, this imaginary girl wouldn't be straying anywhere, she'd be too happy with me.
2007-02-24 15:26:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure guess I would be shocked maybe disgusted. Yeah I'd still feel cheated. It would take me a long time to get over it but when I do I don't even know if I could remain mates with my man. It depended on if he cheated on me with one of my gay mates I don't know if I could forgive - maybe in time - not sure.
2007-02-28 09:18:58 · answer #11 · answered by julie p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋