friend prago and i miscarried how do i deal?

Question

my very best friend is prego and we would have been due the same time im happy for her but it hurts to see and hear whats going on with the baby what should i do

Answer 1

I'm so sorry to hear about that. I can't say that I know exactly what you are going through but I can only imagine. I think the best way to handle that is to just stay positive. God has a reason for everything and maybe there is something that you need to accomplish first before you have children. I don't know if that may be the case but I pray and hope that you won't be hurting or feeling upset. I pray that this will make you stronger not only for you, but for other women as well. Just keep pressing forward and keep a smile on your face no matter what. If you want to cry, let them out because your tears don't compromise your strength. I pray that you will be okay and that you will be blessed. Who knows, you may have twins, triplets or whatever else God will bless you with!! Just keep your head up and be there for your best friend and I think you will be just fine. God bless!!

Answer 2

I had a similar situation happen to me. I found out I was pregnant the same time someone at my church did. We were due within days of each other. At three months I went in for an ultrasound and they didn't find the baby's heartbeat. I was totally devastated. I had to watch this other lady at church getting bigger every week and it was very hard. When she had her baby boy I couldn't look at him until about a month later when I happen to glance her way and I saw him smile. Then the next week I found out I was pregnant. It is hard to lose a baby. Let yourself grieve, but since this is your best friend, try to be strong and stay happy for her. If she is a good friend she will understand and will see your pain. I think she is probably very concerned for you and hoping that her joy is not increasing your pain.
Have your Doctor check you out head to toe, blood tests and all, to check for any reason for your miscarriage, including Thyroid tests. He/She may tell you to keep taking your prenatal vitamins if you are trying to conceive again. If everything checks out okay your Doc will probably give you the go ahead to try again in about three months. (your cycle has to regulate).
God bless you!

Answer 3

i suggest taking a break from your friend and starting the healing process. You will be better able to support your friend if you start the ball rolling on your own health and emotions right now. As a very best friend, she should and most likely will understand. I was in the same situation in 2001, that is what i did, I just took a break, fully explaining to her why i needed to. It helped alot, be prepared though, as well as you can be, for when the baby is born, it brings alot of feelings back.

Answer 4

The same thing happened to me in October-I was pregnant the same time with my sister-in-law and we are pretty close. I went through alot of different emotions-first I was just sad and didn't even want to talk to her, then I would feel resentment towards her, then finally I came to my senses and realized everything happens for a reason. My dr gave us the go-ahead to start tring again in January---and we are Pregnant!!! We already have 2 beautiful children and I feel blessed but it was SOO hard loosing that baby. Stay positive and take a folic acid vitamin everyday until you are able to try again-this helps your body when you do get pregnant again!

Answer 5

First off, I want to send me sincere condolences. It's very hard what you are going through. I was in your exact situation 2 years ago. I hid a lot of my emotions with my friend, but I did that because it is always about her. I was very happy for her, but when i wasn't talking to her, I was crying. Don't take too much in, it's going to be hard for a while, especially when she will be giving birth. While talking to her, you need to be able to feel comfortable in saying, I'm not ready to talk about it, or I need some time. When you want to be there for her, she has to realize that you suffered a great loss... Always remember too that there are many women who have expereiced what you have, and we are all willing to talk and help you out. When I had my miscarriage, I thought it rarely happened and I was one of the only ones... please be open, and find someone you can talk to that will understand what you are going though. If you need someone to talk to, email me.

Answer 6

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