What is a nice way to tell someone to stop bothering you?

Question

I sit next to this girl in one of my classes who is... well... pretty annoying. She is always trying to have a conversation with me while I'm trying to take notes. She makes really *not funny* jokes all the time also, and then laughs in an extremely annoying way. She tells me the entire story of her life every single day- sometimes with personal details I don't want to know. I have tried having a conversation with her before class starts to get it out of her system, but that just made it worse. I have tried ignoring her but that also doesn't work. At the beginning of the semester I could tolerate it, but it is really getting on my nerves now. I can't change seats because that is how the professor keeps attendance. I know that I have to just tell her to leave me alone, but I don't want to be mean because she is not a bad person, just an annoying one. What should I say?

Answer 1

"I dont want to sound mean but i am trying to pay attention and take notes" That is probably the best way to do it or just ignore her

Answer 2

She might be one of those annoying but genuine people that can chatter all the time but still pay attention and get a decent grade. So it's probably not a good idea to tell her that she irritates you, because that might spoil your general reputation in the class. Everytime she opens her mouth just hush her in a low voice and say something like 'I think he's teaching something important now' and bend low over your notes.

Urge her to take notes too, and tell her in with an anxious expression that you'd forgotten how soon the exams were or how much you had to study.

Do this everytime she shows signs of starting a long-winded conversation.

She might be a little hurt about your repeated interruptions, but at least you won't get into an argument or get the reputation of someone who keeps snubbing people. I've experienced this last year throughout and this technique always helped me. It really works if you pretend to be worried for the other girl's grades too. ;)

Good luck!

Answer 3

You could smile and put your finger to your lips, when she starts to talk. Then just say you really need to get good notes so that your grades don't suffer. Say something along the lines of "we can talk after class" or "maybe later". Then, turn in your seat so that your back is to her as much as possible, even if it is just your shoulder toward her. Let your body language tell her you are not interested in conversation. Don't make any more eye contact until class is over.

Answer 4

ive had this problem before.
the part about her interferring with u from taking notes..tell her straight out, "i'm sorry but i cant talk right now...my notes/studies is a priority."

about the joke, dont lafff at all if its not funny. thats the nicest way for her to take the hint. if she looks offended and u feel guilty add that u really didnt understand the joke.

if she starts giving u personal details and its making u uncomfortable, tell her it is and if she was kind enuff she should understand.

sometimes i start talking with other ppl more so she feels a little bit left out and tries somewhere else. sometimes if it really gets on my nerves i tell them straight out that im having a bad day and they are not helping watsoever


hope that helps

Answer 5

You ever think that you might be the only person ,of every one around you, they feel comfortable with to let go and express their thoughts ?As far as they know,you might come from a really cool environment where you were able to be you,or you were able to overcome your oppression; they see something in you they feel they can connect with.And then again,they could be a freak!Ask them in a nice way ,what they want in a friendship?You might get lucky,and all they want is to get together once a week, smoke a big fat joint with a bottle of wine,and you guys just ***** about life,catch a good buzz, and get it out of your system.How cool would that be?I hope the world doesn't end at the tip of your nose,you'll miss out on sooo much!

Answer 6

Try telling the prof she is putting you off your work and request to move or something. Even if you don't get to move (or her moved) he will probably have a word with her.

Seems that she probably won't take a telling (from you) if you've tried all that.
If you get the prof to do it then you won't need to hurt her feelings. He might even just put it across in a way that that he himself has noticed a lot of chatter and not that you've went and "told on her"

I hope you get it sorted out.

Answer 7

Tell her you need to get a good grade in that class and really need to concentrate on what the professor is saying, and that you can visit afterwards. I would try not to be rude about it unless she doesn't "get it" but you may have to resort to that. It's not a close friendship so no loss. I can tell you don't want to hurt her feelings but you may have to be stern. Good luck!

Answer 8

The first thing is for you to know that she is different between you and her. The best way to tell someone to tell whats bothering you, use the tool called "communication." Try to start a conversation about what she DOESNT like. Then when it gets to your turn tell her what you dont like. Like maybe: I dont like when people talk about their personal lives its not my business, or I dont like when people talk to much because it ruins my time to think/talk. Try to make her know what you dont like by showing her in a NOT-RUDE way, but in a way she can understand what she's doing wrong.

Answer 9

Ohhhh, some people just can't take the hint--- so you will have to give it right back at her--- literally, become as annoying to her as she is to you--- YOU be the first to start the jabbering and make up crap that is really, really, boring and go on and on and on....you get my drift and when she finally rolls her eyes-- THAT is when you say GOTCHA now you know how annoying YOU are!

Answer 10

Well be honest, Tell her its more important for you to pay attention and take notes in class than hear the story of her life. If that doesn't work tell her she has bad breath.

Answer 11

Slowly turn your head towards her, look her directly in the eyes, without any facial expression, and repeat these lines...."If you don't shut the f*ck up I am going to stab you in the heart with my pen." Slightly smile and turn your head back to your paper.

This was meant as a joke, do not attempt this and then in your defense say "Mav told me to on Yahoo! Answers.";)

Just tell her that she is getting on your nerves.